Why Is Blogging From Paradise a Refreshing Blog? |

Ryan Biddulph June 22, 2025 blogging tips 🕑 5 minutes read

Kendal England

Do you ever get the sense that every *body* in your life wants shit from you?

Give me your love.

Give me your attention.

Give me help.

Give me money.

Give me support.

Gimmee!!!

OK; I covered the offline world.

Shall we proceed to the online world?

Shall we proceed specifically to the blogging world?

GIMME READERS GIMME!!!!

At times I bust blogging balls because poking fun is an easy way to trigger your “mistake alerting process.”

Most of us seem ignorant of our mistakes until a blogger gently shares common errors and then we say….“Oh crap! I am making that blogging mistake!”

Every blogger has every right to ask for something.

But psychologically attaching your mind to asking for something and getting that something becomes a real problem for you. Why? Desperation in your mind follows. Greed in your mind follows. Statistical piggishness in your mind follows. Depression in your mind follows. Rage in your mind follows. Anger in your mind follows.

Bloggers usually teach that you need to get something from readers or else you will fail.

The emotion behind the bold letters above is called: “fear of loss”.

Call it poverty. Call it scarcity.

Whatever.

When you and I are afraid of loss we use people to get something from people. Typically, we kill them off in our minds after getting whatever we assume will eradicate the fear of loss feeling. We all do this. At least, we all do this at times.

How does that fear of loss manifest in the blogging world?

In your mind, from an unhealthy psychological attachment fueled by the fear of loss, it manifests as trying to get as much as possible from readers who visit your blog via calls to action like:

give me your email address
give me money
give me money
give me money
donate here
buy here
give me ‘dem cookies! (this is a browser joke)
multiple calls to action
multiple ad embeds
multiple dynamic ad embeds
multiple dynamic ad embeds closing in on your like the garbage compactor scene from “Star Wars “
give me your comments
give me your attention
don’t leave just yet
follow this call to action, then take another call to action, then take another call to action…..
join our community
Like this Facebook Page
follow this X handle
follow me on LinkedIn
follow me on Instagram
hire me
buy my stuff

I could continue until the body drops dead, but you get the idea.

Bloggers may be truly helpful but most lack the mind training to experience their psychological attachment to getting something or many things from readers because they are unaware of their loss terror, sitting smack dab in the middle of the mind.

I feel as if I’ve been assaulted after visiting some blogs. Calls to action come at me from every direction.

Wouldn’t it feel refreshing to come across a blog where a guy gives you detailed help and basically asks nothing of you?

Wouldn’t it be nice to come across a blog where a guy offers you truly helpful content and does not try to get anything from you?

Welcome to Blogging From Paradise Dot Com

This blog is refreshing because the user experience is for the user not the blogger who tries to use the user to get money from them.

Look closely at my blog homepage. Click through to blog posts. Click through to my business pages.

Even though I technically ask and sell stuff do you get the general feel that I’m trying to get anything from you or that I’m trying to get you to do something for me?

Frankly speaking, only the clinically insane would spend time on my blog and believe that I was a piece of crap slickster trying to squeeze money out of every visitor.

Those not currently brain dead understand that:

I want to help you with practical blog posts
I want to help you with premium products that do require you to give me money but I do not ask you to buy my premium products every 6 seconds
I put the ball in your court by letting you choose what to buy and when to buy

Refreshing?

Hell yeah?

I think it through my bias but Blogging From Paradise Dot Com visitors offer me this type of feedback.

Content Convinces People to Buy

Content convinces people to pull the buy trigger.

You do not need to breathe down people’s necks like a hippo at a vegan “all you can eat” buffet to force them to buy your stuff.

Conquering your fear dissolves the psychological attachment of loss. Dissolving that psychological attachment lets you do one or the other:

allow your content to sell for you
allow your content and gentle calls to action (with no psychological attachment to outcomes) to sell for you

Is There Anything Wrong with Asking Readers to Give You Stuff?

No.

But there is nothing right with it either.

Would you consider it right to tell or ask someone at your front door to do a bunch of things before you opened the door for them? (Bloggers call these “email form pop ups”.)

It is not right to do it. It is not wrong to do it.

The questions:

What psychological driver in your mind compels you to call readers into action?
Could you be confident and trust your content which spawns more sales by not desperately asking readers to give you stuff?

Conclusion

A millionaire buys a plot of land. He does not sprint around asking for strangers to give him money frantically on that green, empty plot of land. A millionaire confidently builds exquisite real estate on that long for a long stretch of time. During the build he starts the pre-sell in earnest (asking for money). After the build he sells (asking for money).

Confidence, posture and trust exudes from his mind during the process.

Be like that guy.