Doha, Qatar
Blogging From Paradise PSA alert.
This is not a rant post but a real post.
Wise bloggers will listen to this truth carefully.
This is an insider secret, or day in the life of an established blogger, type post.
Do you guys want to know how I think?
This post explains in vivid detail exactly how I think when it comes to arresting my attention.
Take it or leave it, per all Blogging From Paradise posts, online courses and eBooks.
Big Promises or Paying Up to Play Up?
1000’s of bloggers message me with:
- “Hi Ryan how are you?” (Early during my career I actually replied and 99% proceeded to pitch me their business in private.)
- business pitches
- backlink swap pitches
- guest post pitches
- meaningless personal flattery (The cyber equivalent of batting your eye lashes at me.)
- generic flattery
I look past every one of these messages because none of these bloggers put their blogging money where their mouth is.
Everyone talks a really big game with their blogging mouth. All make enticing personal promises.
Hot air may lift balloons and warm up your living room but until you put your money where your mouth is you have zero chance of appearing on Blogging From Paradise and influencing me to hire you for anything.
One bizarre thing I observe daily is the sheer volume of outreach specialists who promise me backlinks on blogs with no traffic and human readers when backlinks from some of the most famous sites in the world and my niche already point to Blogging From Paradise.
This is like trying to get the attention of a Great White Shark with a vegan breath mint when he just finished consuming a 2-ton elephant seal.
2 Attention Grabbers
You have 2 ways to almost guarantee snaring my attention:
- buy my online courses
- buy my eBooks
Both activities indicate that you put your money where your mouth is. Investing money in me, my online courses and/or my eBooks reveals that you:
- believe in me
- believe in my blog
- believe in my online courses
- believe in my eBooks
Aha!
When you believe in me with your pocketbook I am more likely to notice you.
That’s just the way the blogging world works; we experienced bloggers need SOMETHING to weed out the 1000’s of manipulative bloggers to leave genuine human beings who want our content and premium offerings.
Bye-bye promises, hot air and all forms of worthless pitches reflecting an iffy, half-stepping, non-committal individual a bit too high on the horse shit spectrum.
Hello to the human being who puts their money where their mouth is to buy my stuff and, incidentally, to buy my attention span potentially, too.
I Appreciate Help and Ignore Promises
The phrase “money talks bullshit walks” means that investing your money in something reveals a serious commitment because most humans deeply fear losing money, wasting money or investing money. Making that bold move distances you from the scared masses of billions.
Everybody else is full of shit, or, makes excuses. This means that they make empty promises or promises that they absolutely cannot deliver on so in essence….they lie to try to get their foot in the blogging door to snag the attention of a successful blogger.
I deeply appreciate people who help me succeed by buying my stuff. I love you guys.
I look past everyone who makes promises because a promise does not help me succeed. People who deeply fear helping me with no strings attached cannot be trusted because this proves that they wish to use me for their benefit without forming a mutually beneficial, organic, rock solid relationship built on trust. I sense that fear both consciously and unconsciously and move on.
What About Free Help?
I appreciate free help guys but there is one question to ask yourself:
“If this guy gave 16 years of his life to help me with free, detailed content why can’t I overcome the fear of investing $10 USD in one of his eBooks?”
Answer that honestly, overcome your fears to acquire the $10 USD, buy one of my eBooks and move higher in blogging circles to gain my attention.
You will face a helluva lot more challenges than acquiring 10 dollars on the road to becoming a pro blogger.
I intend to be fully honest with you; either this post reveals that blogging is not for you or perhaps being honest with yourself and your fears nudges you in the successful, uncomfortable, freeing direction.
I Do Appreciate Free Help Too
If your life appears to be in nightmare mode now and $10 USD investments simply cannot happen I do appreciate you:
- retweeting my posts
- sharing my posts on Facebook
- sharing my posts on LinkedIn
- mentioning Blogging From Paradise on your blog
Doing those things is the only way to get my attention, anyway.
I ignore promises or light banter because words are nothing and generous acts are everything.
I would never expect you to give up your social life and stay up until 2 AM to answer the tsunami of:
“Hey how are you?”Â
messages so you surely do not expect that of me.
How Did I Accelerate My Blogging Success?
I helped highly successful bloggers when I was an unknown blogger and asked for nothing in return to earn their trust and friendships. That’s how the grown ups do it. Sometimes I bought their stuff by putting my blogging money where my mouth was. Sometimes I promoted them freely through a wide range of channels online.
Some of these successful bloggers promoted my:
- blog posts
- online courses
- eBooks
to their readerships to accelerate my success.
I EARNED the right to their attention by doing exactly what I’m guiding you to do now.
I teach it because I lived it, like virtually all I teach through my blog, online courses and eBooks.
Freedom = Helping Freely
Imagine if blogging freedom depended on making promises.
Most bloggers would be millionaires!
The 1000’s of bloggers who make bold promises and try to reel me in with seemingly casual questions would be making millions.
Instead, these bloggers waste 1000’s of hours blindly pitching strangers who do not want what they have to offer.
These bloggers will eventually realize that freedom only comes by being:
- genuine
- generous
- truly helpful
- intelligent in targeting
because promises are nothing.
Any human being can make a promise.
But only generous, genuine humans deliver by helping an established pro with no strings attached, which incidentally tends to catch the attention span of many pro bloggers.
Being generous makes people notice you in a largely self-centered, scared, selfish world.
My LinkedIn Inbox
The self-centered, scared, selfish minds in my LinkedIn inbox know not what they do; each no longer bothers me.
But I look past them immediately.
Selfishness is a sickness, a dis-ease, that repels genuine, generous bloggers who walk in the opposite direction.
I write this post to guide you to be generous and successful versus being selfish and struggling.
Or if you are being generous and have yet to see much success this post serves as a reminder; you’re on the right track.
I’m not upset at scared minds but I will not build friendships with users. Stepping into fear brings more fear into your life.
Who wants more fear? Especially since where your attention and energy goes, grows?
Unless you wish your blogging career to become a nightmare you will be wise to avoid fear-minded folks and to gravitate toward generous, genuine, loving folks who accelerate your success through their guidance and support.
Conclusion
Becoming a successful blogger involves conquering your fears.
You better believe conquering the fear of money loss is one of these mental blocks you absolutely need to overcome to become a successful blogger.
How can you think, feel and act like a pro when you are terrified to lose a few bucks?
Desire freedom more than you fear losing or investing a few bucks in something.
Aren’t you worth that?
Put your blogging money where your mouth is.
Hire bloggers. Buy their stuff.
Pop up on their radar screen by replacing promises with definite help, generosity and a full commitment to being truly helpful.
This is one of the simplest ways to move higher in blogging circles.
Stop promising.
Start paying.
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