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As blogging success expands you note something fascinating: symbols of fear, scarcity, limits, struggle and failure move out of your experience.
Nothing personal, but in the same vein, people whose minds symbolized fear move out of your experience either blindingly fast or slowly and surely as success expands.
Why?
Non-resonance.
For example one time loyal fans turned tail in a seeming split second for me. Customers, referral business builders and mindful followers became rabid, mad dogs in the next moment. Why? Mentally injured individuals desire nothing of expanding success, freedom, peace of mind and love. All want struggle, subjugation, mental chaos and fear. When you stop symbolizing those qualities by demonstrating peaceful success, mentally injured individuals want nothing to do with you.
Ceasing to complain means complainers hit the road. Conquering fear of loss means those who think poverty hit the trail. Ceasing to fight, to blame, to condemn, means followers resonant with these concepts cease to be in your experience.
The really neat aspect of this phenomena is the peace it brings you.
You get to see up close and personal what you are past, or, what you have outgrown.
Isn’t that neat?
Isn’t that interesting?
Haters Hit the Door
I remember a few loyal Blogging From Paradise readers who appeared to love what I did for years. Each followed my updates closely. All showered me with sugary sweet feedback.
But as I reached the next level of success some of these folks turned rabid. Hateful, mocking messages followed. Real Jekyll and Hyde stuff. What gave? What happened? I became more peaceful, successful and serene which enraged demented minds not resonant with greater peace, success and serenity. As the insane do, projection followed. One minute someone loves you. One update later, someone hates you. The love-hate happens in their mind and has nothing to do with you save watching your reflection acting out for you. They seem to hate to see if you will let go their hateful experience gracefully, by seeing how some want the worst for you…or muted success, at best…..to fit within their:
- conditions
- expectations
Your job is to relax your mind, observe the experience then to look past the experience.
Why is this fascinating?
You get to see that these people are really minds symbolizing what you:
- think
- feel
- believe
which is neat, when you deeply ponder the experience.
One individual loved my eBooks. He then hated my eBooks and claimed that I was a fraud.
Since I no longer feared that I was a fraud I let him go; he vanished forever. I have heard nothing from him in 9 years. I did not feel anger towards him; I laughed out loud that I once feared I was a fraud, no longer feared it and I let him cyber hit the road in peace and serenity.
Voila!
Mind training success my Young Blogging Padawans.
My Experience
I deeply feared many people for a long time before I gradually decided to conquer my fears. As I conquered fears and experienced greater subsequent success, some I feared moved out of my experience. Others remained but changed their resistant tune.
A few bloggers utterly flamed out before moving on. I became aware that deciding to be less mentally injured meant mentally injured folks of course had to move out of my experience. However, most revealed clear evidence of their fear, guilt and hate before moving on which is interestingly enough a helpful reminder; you do not want this chaos in your experience.
This symbolic stuff usually occurs when someone who admired your work drops a nasty, negative, sometimes vicious, biting comment which appears to be completely out of character but in reality, which is how they have always felt deep down in their unconscious mind which means you felt that way. One mind folks, one mind. Time to let it go to feel greater peace and to mine greater success.
When you begin to viscerally understand that their behavior is symbolic of what you *do not want in your experience* you instantly let them go. Sometimes they never bother to comment again. But if they drop another vicious comment just tap the “block” button to cease communication between profiles. Hang up on rage; it will not call back. It will proceed to search for more rage and failure which can no longer be found in your blogging neighborhood.
Deeply think this stuff through. Patiently ruminate over this concept. It’ll save you many headaches while amplifying both your peace of mind and blogging success. You’ll see.
Practical Example
One travel blogger loved my work for yeas.
He then became enraged (or appeared to blame this reason for his unconscious guilt) for the most silly, absurd and minimal policy change on Blogging From Paradise Dot Com.
I realized that his behavior was impossible. Logically, since I cannot change the impossible, I allowed his symbolic rage, hate, guilt, grief and chaos move out of my experience. I did not want any of that smoke. I felt more peaceful. I became more successful but that was small potatoes, really. Ultimately, letting go fear, hate, rage and projection allowed increased love, wholeness, tenderness and extension into my experience.
That’s the kicker.
That’s the rub.
That’s the genuinely fascinating aspect of increasing your blogging success.
Symbols of failure, all related to seemingly awful emotions, exit stage left, leaving you feeling better and better and organically experiencing greater worldly success.
What’s the downside to that?
What do you lose by literally losing fear from your experience and adding love, peace and success?
The Trick
Stop mentally fighting the exit of individuals who rage, condemn or criticize, even if said folks appeared to be loyal fans.
Let them go.
That takes some good, old-fashioned mind training in the beginning unless one seems mentally advanced.
But you eventually see that allowing these symbols of fear, loss and chaos go out of your experience is the only sane choice.
Would you rather be right or happy?
Would you rather succeed peacefully or fight for failure?
Wait for honest answers.
Not to relish this fact, but you also see that the cheap shot takers on the way out are only hurting themselves because we are one mind.
They have no idea that they are doing it to themselves.
But now….you do.
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