10 Questions to Ask Yourself about Your Blog

  December 4, 2016 blogging tips πŸ•‘ 6 minutes read
Tomb of the Kings, Paphos, Cyprus. How about those deep blue skies? The temperature was only 105 when we visited. Cool spell.

Tomb of the Kings, Paphos, Cyprus. How about those deep blue skies? The temperature was only 105 when we visited. Cool spell.


Asking blogging questions shifts your energy.


Shifting your energy can create blogging miracles.


I struggled like hell to get featured on any blogs, 3 years ago.


When I pitched bloggers for interviews it was like I was a leper with the clap; fellow bloggers wouldn’t touch me with a 50 meter poll (metric system, for my readers outside of the USA/Trump World).


After my old host forced my hand, I asked myself a few pointed questions. And waited for honest answers.


Blogging From Paradise was born. And I was featured on 200 plus websites, a handful of which are the most well known sites on earth, and I never pitched one.


I went from Blogging Bozo to seeing Blogging Big Dawgs beat down my cyber door for interviews by asking questions.


Asking these questions – and listening for honest, genuine answers – can help you get clearer on your direction so you too can rock out your blog.


Ready? (I had to lead in with a question.)


1: Why?


Why are you blogging?


I mean, really, WHY are you blogging?


Answer this question honestly (I mean you, money chasers, and fame chasers, and stat chasers).


If you’re blogging to:


  • have fun
  • free yourself
  • follow your passion
  • follow your love


you’re on a fun, freeing, passionate, loving, inspired track.


This is the magical path. The miracle path. Because you’ll be blogging inside-out.


2: Are You Blogging for Fun? (Predominantly)


I have covered this topic so many times you likely want to slap me upside the head with a slimy mackerel.


Are you having fun blogging?


If yes, carry on.


If no, trash your blog and start with a niche that feels fun to cover.


3: Are You Blogging for Money or Traffic or Social Shares or List Subscribers? (Predominantly)


See Question #7.


I feel lazy today. And I write posts from the bottom up. So I answered #7 before #3.


4: Are You Blogging with the Aid of Voodoo Dolls or Are You Refusing to Tap into Lower Energy Crosscurrents?


Just to be sure.


I have to cover all bases.


5: Do You Blog about 1 Specific Thing/Niche/Topic/Subject?


Don’t be a jackass of all trades.


Master 1.


Magical sunset in Savusavu, Fiji.

Magical sunset in Savusavu, Fiji.


Specializing is the way to:


  • blogging clarity
  • peaceful blogging
  • fun blogging


Although I could easily blog about basketball (JUCO player here), Β weather (meteorologist here and no, I’m not fronting), or bodybuilding (yes I was a part time physique model whatever that means), I can’t be a doctor and lawyer and fireman and news anchor at the same time.


Blog on 1 topic. Rock it out.


6: Are You Blogging from a Place of Manipulation or Love?


Do you manipulate? Or co-create?


Many jolly, happy, awesome folks are manipulators. God knows I was for many years.


Manipulating is not a bad thing per se, but manipulating moves you down the energetic ladder.


Meaning, you’re using too much force, not enough power, when you try to get people to do certain things.




  • trying to convince people
  • trying to convert people
  • trying to persuade people
  • straining and striving to get people to see the benefits you have to offer
  • turning compassion into coercion; pressing on pain points primarily to get more shares, comments, profits


Again, manipulating carries a negative connotation but it’s really nothing but a lack of genuine love, a lack of trust in the Infinite and a disconnection from who you really are.


Don’t manipulate. Co-create.


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See every human being you come across as a co-creator, you two being complicit with The Big U (The Universe) in creating happiness, wholeness and sweet blogging success for all parties involved.


A Note on Pain Points


When you perceive someone as being weak, you co-create their weakness. That’s why I find it completely disgraceful to build my posts around playing on your pain points. I literally help to turn you into a piddling pussy of a blogger. Which is assinine, and as much my fault as anybody’s.


Here’s the deal: I may hit on pain points to strike a chord with your temporary suffering but I pick you up instantly with solutions, with loving energy, with humor (usually) and by seeing you in an empowered, energized, inspired light.


We are island hoppers and aspiring island hoppers here. Not pants crappers. And if you are struggling I see you as being so empowered that you are already dissolving the struggles.


7: How Often Do You Check Your Stats? What Does this Say about Your Attachment (or Lack thereof) to Outcomes?


Checking my old skool opt in stats daily was like watching a telenovella.


It had all the ups, downs, twists and turns of these Hispanic soap opera emotional roller coasters.


Some days I cried. Some days I wished death on the opt in gods. Other days I celebrated like a portly pepperpot in a candy store.


This wicked attachment to outcomes:


  • dulled my creativity
  • closed me off to income streams
  • perpetuated my struggles
  • kept me in “survival/meal ticket mode” (if I can only make *this* much today, I can afford to _insert activity here_)


Here’s how I check my stats: if I love what I’m doing, and creating, and making friends, my stats take care of themselves. No need to check them.


Detaching from stats also tunes you into a Higher Power. God don’t do stats. God does Infinite. But if you find yourself worshiping stats and profits instead of connecting with the Creator/General Manager, you can’t tap into real Power.


God over Google. Every time.


8: Are You Sick and Tired of Covering Your Niche?


I got disgusted covering the make money online niche many years ago.


Like a dingbat, I continued with the same MMO blog for years until my hosting company called my hand.


Then I released that blog like a hot potato which had been baking inside Satan’s Oven for Eternity.


Let go the old and worn out. If you hate covering a niche, but love blogging, let go the poopy niche to make room for your passion.


Follow your fun. Follow your passion. Follow your love. Don’t follow poopy.


9: Does Writing and Publishing Posts Feel Heavy to You?


Writing and publishing posts may feel like pushing a 10 ton boulder up Mount Everest.


Ya know what I mean: that heavy, burdensome, pain in the ass, overbearing struggle that is your post creating process.


If writing and publishing posts feels heavy you:


  • may need to ease up on your posting frequency
  • may be in the wrong niche
  • may need to explore videos or podcasts or some other content creation channels
  • may need to quit blogging
  • may need to start having fun again


Intuitively, you know what the heavy feeling means. Either you lost the fun-fire for a minute or you need to move in some different direction.


Boat in Kovalam Beach, India.

Boat in Kovalam Beach, India.


Ask. Wait for the answer.


10: Do I Secretly – or Not So Secretly – Resent My Readers?


This was one of my roughest mental blocks.


During lean days/years, I appreciated my readers on 1 level. Then I turned around and resented the shit out of these SOBs.


Why didn’t they pad my pockets with that sweet, sweet cash? Why didn’t they buy my stuff or join my team? Cheap bastards.


One enlightening day during a moment of torment I felt a particularly strong disgust for my readers.


Aha! Anger. Resentment.


I finally figured out one huge mental block of mine: I blocked money and bloggers and readers and sales because I did not love my readers.


I loved my readers from that point forward.


Things turned more quickly than a Thai lady boy prostitute at 5:30 AM in Bangkok after a previously “farang-free” night.


Do you hate/blame your readers for your struggles?


If so, admit the truth. Feel the resentment/rage. Release the resentment. Then, slowly and mindfully beam love to your readers, each comment and social share at a time.








This love will be reflected back to you in many freeing, inspired, prospering forms.




    • Joanna Sanchez says:
      at 1:44 pm

      I love how straightforward you are! I deleted my Google analytics app off my phone yesterday. I might as well delete the entire account now!

      • Ryan Biddulph says:
        at 5:23 pm

        Hi Joanna,

        Cool! Stats are just outcomes. And checking ’em attaches us to those outcomes. And even though we’re all kinda attached to outcomes, refusing to check stats helps you dissolve the attachment some, which boosts your creativity and raises your energy a bunch. Good for you.


  1. maxwell ivey says:
    at 6:10 pm

    Hi Ryan; I recently realized I was focusing too much on results namely income and had forgotten why I started the blog which was to share my experiences and motivate and inspire people by example. I started doing things for others without thinking what I would get out of it. I was reminded of this by of all things one of the dresdon files books by jim butcher. Sometimes the body needs a good story more than it needs another self help book. πŸ™‚ I love the section about manipulation. I recently had a friend tell me I needed to pray more and promote less. That one really slapped me upside the face. I don’t check my site stats much. I also don’t get on my scale often. Both can be confusing and distract you from what’s important which is doing the work you know you need to each day. Love your posts my friend. Take care, Max

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 1:49 pm

      Hi Maxwell,

      Praying more and promoting less is energetically sound advice. The more I do things with love, for love, I worry less about doing any 1 thing in particular and things are taken care of. By a Force that I cannot understand or comprehend.

      We at times get caught up in results, or reality, when the Real Reality has it all handled. Always. We just needs follow our fun and love and see awesomeness unfolding around us to pave the way for an increasingly easier journey.


  2. Lorraine Reguly says:
    at 9:43 pm

    Ryan, these are all important questions for bloggers to ask themselves.

    In fact, I’ve been questioning my WHY lately…

    Why? Because when I first started blogging, I did so with a specific purpose in mind… which is NOT the reason I am blogging now.

    It has made me wonder if I need to take a step back and re-evaluate my situation.

    I’ve been thinking about this for a quite a while now.

    What I want to do and what I am actually doing are two very different things, but what I want to do requires me blogging in order to reach my goals.

    Thus, my conundrum.

    Hopefully, I will figure it all out soon!

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 1:34 pm

      Hi Lorraine,

      I’ve found myself in that spot a few times during my nearly decade long online career. Our soul pulls us to freer pastures, always, and sometimes we resist it. What you REALLY wanna do for the most fun, freeing, loving reasons is what you are meant to do now. No questions. No debate.

      You get clear on that, what you require to live your dreams will fall into your lap. And it may or may not require blogging. Who knows? Only the Universe. And the Universe knows the easiest, quickest and sometimes highly uncomfortable ways πŸ˜‰


      • Ryan Biddulph says:
        at 5:27 pm

        Hi Jice,

        Super add here. Darren knows well. Any blogger in this game for a minute can spot the signs.

        Blogger burnout is simple: heavy attachment to outcomes. If you are pushing yourself, versus being pulled by Real Power, you will eventually burn out. And this almost always means, your “Why?” is tied to something not fun, freeing or something you love. When having fun is your driver, you stop instantly when it’s time to stop, rest up and return when you’re energized. When it strays toward some outcome, that Biatch Burnout rears its ugly head, the Universe’s way of saying, “Take a freaking break!!!”


  3. Shakir Hassan says:
    at 1:03 am

    Hi Ryan
    Blogging is AWESOME. However, to many beginners, It’s boring, it’s tough, and it’s an headache.
    Many bloggers do blogging just for the sake of making money online.
    I spend 5-6+ hours just on Facebook, and I am the members of over 50 Facebook groups, here are some worst questions that are posted by too many folks:
    1 – How to approve Google AdSense for your Blog
    2 – How to increase Google AdSense CPC
    3 – How to make more money via AdSense
    In fact, their blog is quite new and they want to monetize it.
    The meaning of this is quite simple, some people blogs just for the sake of making money online, not for full fulling their passion. Making money is their only goal.
    However, I do blogging just for full filling my passion. I love doing blogging.
    Thanks for writing this post, it’s just awesome.
    See you soon πŸ™‚

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 1:31 pm

      Hi Shakir,

      I hear you brother. I see this just belonging to a few Facebook Groups, to Quora and getting emails from folks. The same questions, all heavily focused on outcomes. Namely, trying to get more money.

      When the quality of questions changes – by adopting a more fun-feeling, loving intent – you get the answers that bring you the greatest fulfillment and happiness. Gotta make blogging your passion A1 and I know you’re all about that passion Shakir.


  4. Jayce Ooi says:
    at 1:36 am

    I check Google Analytics everyday. And surprisingly, somebody is able to hack the data there. Do you got hacked too?

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 1:25 pm

      Hi Jayce,

      I have never checked my stats on Blogging From Paradise.

      My brain locks when I even think of GA LOL.


    at 5:21 am

    This is straight up Ryan, i most times check my stat alot and when its not doing as i want, i feel discouraged…detaching my mind from it would help…But I think it helps us measure how we are doing. What do you think?

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 1:16 pm

      Hi Chinedu,

      If you are having fun blogging, why would you have to look outside of you to see if you are having fun blogging? See how it works? The split second you look outside of yourself, for any measuring stick, you step away from Love, and from Fun, and from God’s Infinite Power in these limitless emotions, into the world of mind, man and limits. I’m sticking with God πŸ˜‰ You can check stats if you feel detached from them, but the split second you base how you’re doing not on how you’re feeling, but on some numbers on a screen, you will fall into the same bottomless pit most bloggers dig for themselves.

      If you’re having fun, you are doing fun, and being fun, and God says, “You are on the right path.” It’s all energy.


  6. Sayed Hamed says:
    at 9:59 am

    Good read Ryan, Wifey checks the stats pretty often and the only time I hate to hear about it, IS WEEKEND! You might do it for many reasons but If you are not having fun doing it, you are doing it wrong and wasting your effort.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 1:12 pm

      Hi Sayed,

      Bingo πŸ˜‰ If you have fun checking stats – meaning, whether they appear to be awesome or poor, you don’t care – go for it. But I know of few human beings who don’t feel shaken by stats, if they seem bad. Or, who don’t go wild when things appear to be great, which sets you up for a huge crash as the pendulum shifts. As it always does. Focus not on stat checking, but, having fun, creating for shits and giggles and making friends, to enjoy connecting with human beings. The stats are handled when you handle having fun and making friends.


  7. Grant Merriel says:
    at 8:27 pm

    Awesome share Ryan! For More Time More Profit, we have someone in our team to weekly check our stats on Google Analytics, a part of their KPIs. But in my personal blogs, I hardly check my stats at all. I just love blogging.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:58 am

      Hi Grant,

      Way cool. Stat checking is A-OK if the energy behind it rocks. Or if you feel detached from it. Other than that, it’s an energetic anchor. Glad you guys aren’t running around with stat anchors tied to your necks πŸ˜‰


  8. Ravi Chahar says:
    at 3:17 am

    Hey Ryan,

    Every blogger has something to say about it. Some people have their blog just for fun, some are building their business.

    The questions you have mentioned should be asked. It would help the people to find out what they are really doing in this blogosphere.

    Thanks for sharing with us.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 5:16 pm

      Hi Ravi,

      “What they are really doing” is a fab way to put it. Are folks futzing around? Are bloggers chasing stats? Money? Vanity metrics? Because chasing outcomes lead to either ruin or an emptiness when you reach your goals. I see this happen a bunch. When you blog for the fun or love of blogging your intent is within. You take your goal with you. Already reached it. Got it. Because you reach your goal of “having fun” every time you publish a post.


  9. Suze - Luxury Columnist says:
    at 9:57 am

    I agree that it’s all about having fun and without that it’s not worth doing! I can honestly say that I love what I do, for years I was doing a corporate job with little scope for creativity so this is a welcome change

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 5:13 pm

      Hi Suze,

      Ditto! I worked jobs I did not like. Then, for the first 3/4 of my blogging career I didn’t have that full love/fun energy behind what I did. Within the past few years I made that shift and as I did so my creativity grew by leaps and bounds. The joy is genuinely in the creating. All else is gravy.


  10. Muthoni W says:
    at 10:57 am

    I have taken a pause to blogging to come up with a better strategy of doing it in 2017. I no longer want to blog for the sake of blogging. I love that my blog is growing but I will definitely take some of these questions into consideration during this holiday season.

    This has led me to actually take my current stats into serious questioning and how to improve on them.

    From a couple of months of blogging, the one thing I would suggest is figure out if you are blogging for professional purposes (with a long-term) goal in mind. If so, you need a strategy. Waking up every morning to wing it, will eventually burn you out.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 5:22 pm

      Hi Muthoni,

      Winging it leads to unhappiness. Because our energy is not in the right place. It’s in a fearful, careless, mindless space, a random space, which leads to overall suckiness.

      Being genuinely in love with what you do gives you:

      * joy
      * happiness
      * purpose
      * focus
      * that fun, playful feeling

      and each of these feelings cultivates an energy where burnout becomes energetically, and hence, physiologically, impossible.

      Questioning gets you in that beautiful spot where you can see: why are you doing what you’re doing?


  11. Philip Verghese Ariel says:
    at 10:19 pm

    Hi Ryan,
    Great and interesting question!
    Yes, of course I could very well relate to most of the questions.
    I still recollect the days I entered into this vast arena of blogging.
    Since I was very active in print media I never thought or have no idea about blogging.
    It all started unexpectedly, with the suggestion of a collegue i entered into this virtual world.
    In the beginning it was getting fame, later after knowing the vast hidden potentials
    I changed my strategy to a different level.
    All together this virtual world is indeed amazing and I am enjoying every bit of it. πŸ™‚

    Thanks Ryan for putting forward these questions to your fellow bloggers to have a look back or a check back!

    Thanks again for sharing yet another thought provoking and motivational piece for your readers.

    Keep sharing.
    Have an eventful December 2016.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 12:55 pm

      Hi Philip,

      Oh yes, I recall having a similar journey. Had no idea what blogging was, then I dove in for some fame and recognition, and for me, money. I gradually learned how doing stuff for the joy of it brings us happiness and also helps create the outcomes which are fairly sweet too.


  12. Robin Khokhar says:
    at 4:03 am

    Hi Ryan,
    You are right that these questions always come to the mind of many bloggers but the main thing is that every blogger has a question which how much he or she is going to earn through the blog.
    And I must say that it was a good post to read.
    thanks for sharing.

  13. DeeDee Lynn says:
    at 6:55 pm

    Hi Ryan. I love these questions. I think that knowing you over the time that you ditched your old blog and start fresh gave me courage. I was so unhappy blogging about making money (which I wasn’t so I felt like a big fat liar) and then blogging about social media (which there were so many people who knew so much better than me) that I was about ready to quit blogging all together.

    My new blog makes me happy – sharing what I have learned over many years of prepping. I was in the dentist’s office this afternoon reading ‘Blogging from Paradise’, and between this post and your book, I feel like I’m on the right track. Thanks for being such a good role model.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 2:13 pm

      Hi DeeDee,

      Love that you’re getting clearer on your direction. You feel happy to me because you are following your fun now. Ditto here. Being true to you is the only way to be. That is where our greatest happiness lies. Our greatest blogging joy.


  14. Katty Fielf says:
    at 12:36 am

    Hello Ryan,

    Well, all of these questions are quite sensible, but i always ask myself one question, that is “Why I am starting this blog?”

    And I do before starting each and every blog, so that i know, what i want to do with that particular blog and then I proceed.

    BTW, a Great post.

    ~ Katty

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 10:20 pm

      Hi Katty,

      That question is dead on. Dead on. Ask WHY and you will know why. For every single post. Gives you immense clarity in finding your intent which allows all ideas to flow so freaking smoothly. Awesome add.


  15. Flor says:
    at 5:09 pm

    First off I want to say wonderful blog! I had a quick question which I’d like to ask
    if you don’t mind. I was interested to know
    how you center yourself and clear your thoughts before
    writing. I’ve had trouble clearing my mind in getting my ideas out.
    I truly do enjoy writing but it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are generally lost simply just trying to figure out how to begin. Any ideas or tips?

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 5:26 pm

      Hi Flor,

      Meditating can help solve racing thoughts syndrome. By sitting to observe your thoughts and feelings 10 minutes upon waking those thoughts and feelings will gradually slow down and, stop. With practice of course.

      Happy Meditating πŸ™‚


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