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Blogging flummoxes newbies.
Struggling vets also fall into consternation.
You want all the exposure in the world.
But you fear getting all of the exposure in the world.
Look closely at the general public. Critics creep in the shadows. Blogging critics slunk around in the cyber shadows. Nobody avoids these dastardly devils in a world of duality. Good, meet bad. Praise, meet criticism.
Scaling effectively brings fans and critics.
No one skips past duality.
Struggling bloggers unconsciously fear criticism. On one hand, this lot craves massive exposure. On the other hand, this lot runs away from gaining massive exposure for the criticism bound to rear its ugly head on their blogs. The success hungry types of fear being criticized paralyze themselves. For every step they take forward almost all take two steps backward. Why? Stepping back guarantees that one avoids criticism. However, one also avoids organic traffic and blogging income by stepping backwards.
People pretty much hate being criticized. Critics trigger true feelings in your mind. Even though the reality deviates from these emotions most hate experiencing discomfort associated with allowing raw emotions arise in the mind.
This is why bloggers get thrown for a loop after someone lobs a negative comment their way.
My Observation
I observe anyone who offers negative feedback on my blog as seeing through the illusion of fear.
Since fear is not real the human being sees what is not real. Why would I feel upset by someone who shares what is not true? Why would I fear someone who shares some un-reality with me? I largely blog from love. Of course I have my moments. But I typically do things from a place of peace.
Why would I believe someone who does not perceive clearly? If they cannot see and I can see, who do I trust? My love or their fear? Let that logic sink it; it will help you if critics attempt to skewer you.
Train Your Mind
However, I spent years strengthening my mind to offer this perspective to you. Negative blog comments threw me for a loop for a long time. I felt embarrassed, ashamed or even angry anytime someone published a negative comment on my blog. Ditto for feeling these emotions any time someone published a negative review in response to one of my eBooks or courses. I trained my mind consistently to develop awareness. Consider that as being step 1 in this journey.
Eventually I chose to face, feel and release fears fueling negative reactions to negative comments and reviews. But many bloggers never step toward facing fear in their minds fueling negative reactions to critical comments. Most react. Few observe, wait and allow the unpleasant mental to subside.
I have seen some skilled, talented bloggers go into a pure funk anytime someone publishes a negative comment on their blog.
Success Avoids Bloggers Who Avoid Humans
Genuine blogging masters sprint into a cyber cave the moment someone posts a nasty, biting blog comment on their blogs. Hours pass. Weeks pass. Months even pass. As bloggers lick their wounds for hours, weeks or months, success skips them, life passing them by. Reacting to a negative review by hiding from blogging or by fighting your a negative commenting ninny wastes time and energy.
Why fight someone who judges you harshly? First off, you secretly believe someone speaks the truth through their negative blog comment. I recall someone who told me my blog design looked like crap back in the day. I cursed him out through my angry response. But I only cursed him out because I truthfully believed my blog looked like crap back then. He offered to design my blog. I accepted his offer. He crafted a professional-looking theme. I felt better about my blog design.
I mentally reviewed my feelings to look past the grievances. I no longer felt like I was being attacked because I faced, felt and forgave the fears in my mind claiming that I was attacked.
I eventually moved on to a new designer but learned a lesson from the initial negative comment and my angry reaction: what someone says about me from a negative perspective is all about their fear business and has nothing to do with my love business.
Why Do Critics Do as They Do?
People publish negative blog comments because of fear-projection in their mind which has nothing to do with my love-acceptance in my mind. Why would I allow their fear to influence my love? I let them go from compassionate energies. I forgive them and move on in a split second or perhaps a few moments later if I need some fear-clearing to do.
I remember someone who published a negative review in response to an eBook of mine. The individual claimed that the eBook was just me talking about walking on the beach with dogs. In truth, I share 100’s of practical blogging tips peppered between 83 PDF pages.
Why did the individual choose to criticize versus seeing the truth? Fear obscures reality. Fear creates an illusion; one sees whatever they want to see via their projection. She was afraid and pissed. Naturally, she ignored the 100’s of blogging tips – she would have seen each through a loving, extending mind – and projected sarcasm, frustration and anger in perceiving a guy talking about walking on the beach with a dog. Fear makes you insane because it removes you from reality.
I do not engage people who speak from fear because their fear has nothing to do with my love. Someone’s mind has nothing to do with my mind. Why would I feel upset about someone projecting from fear if I live from love? Their world has nothing to do with my world; none of my business. I carry on after releasing fear and fear-folks to live from love with loving folks.
Conclusion
As I release critics quickly I allow more fans into my blogging life.
Do the same.
Let go people who do not love what you do to make room for people who love what you do.
Life changes when you master this skill versus trying to force critics to become fans or trying to berate a critic to disprove their lies.
