Ortahisar, Turkey
Blogging is evolution.
Consider this gig to be constant. But either constant growth or constant regression seems to unfold here.
Either you grow or die. You create or disintegrate. Banish the idea of standing still; it never actually happens although it appears to be the case at times.
Think of growth. What helped to bring you to the current stage of blogging evolution? What decisions did you make?
I let go of old, worn out bonds, here and there. Some of my former blogging buddies are cool folks but fear emanated from the relationships. I clung to the bond; by default, I latched on to the fear. I own that. I released, too.
I recall one former client who refused to pay me even though I screen shared both Messenger and Paypal, time-stamping each image. He is a nice person. But I let him go because I intended to let fear go. Fear holds you and your blogging campaign back. Big-time. Fear infesting blogging bonds – or blogging bonds grown through fear – make for energetic anchors.
Let go these energetic anchors. Release guilt. I resisted ceasing contact with the former client because I felt different fears. Guilt, shame, the fear of rejection, the fear of criticism and the fear of loss all invaded my being. But if I continued to cling to the bond, fear would have been my motivator.
What happens when fear motivates you? Rough results follow. Unhappiness follows. If you act based on being afraid you act from fear and people with fear-filled minds cannot see reality.
Facing, feeling and releasing fear and fear-borne bonds feels highly uncomfortable. Feeling uncomfortable is no picnic. I did not enjoy feeling the discomfort of stepping into the fears of criticism, rejection and loss. But I had to do so because unless you step into fear, and feel it, you never grow as a blogger.
Face, feel and release fear to release blogging relationships holding you back. Clinging to fear-bonds literally prevents your growth because your actions designed to preserve such bonds keep you from growing.
For example, most bloggers spend minutes or even hours writing emails to non-paying clients who happened to be blogging buddies for a bit. Convincing, coercing, manipulating, or trying to heal a bond already broken from fear seems to consume a massive chunk of time. But while you wasted one hour writing a nice but firm email demanding payment, other bloggers who let go fear-bonds wrote and published two blog posts.
Bloggers Who Release DO Get Ahead
Who gets ahead? Bloggers who publish two guest posts in an hour get ahead versus bloggers who remain bound by writing a plea for payment email for the same hour. Clinging to blogging bonds long outgrown scares you into doing what you wish not to do. Wasting precious hours attempting to preserve a past long gone robs you of the present growth you can experience by being truly helpful.
Exit the “blogging friendships collections” department. Release outgrown bonds to enter into new stages of blogging growth. Be at peace with releasing bonds to make room for new, prospering bonds.
My Story with this Concept
One current well-known blogger – who shall remain nameless because he was my radical forgiveness lesson (meaning that he triggered a fear in my mind, for which I am grateful to him) – seemed fairly well-known in the past. But he was not nearly as famous as he is now.
Anyway, I wrote a practical, well-researched post for him during my freelance writing days. He read it and replied stating that it was not up to par. He did not like it. He decided to pay me when I delivered a post in line with his standards. I doubled down to deliver a highly-detailed, highly practical, smashing post. He read it and replied that he did not like it; basically, I had to do better.
At that current stage of mental development, I thought he was being a bit of a cock. 🙂 I bent over backwards for him; I wrote more skillfully than he, to boot. Yet, he did not perceive the situation in similar fashion.
I soon chose to be grateful for his seeming assholiness. He mirrored my deep fear of money loss to me. He appeared to stiff me but in reality I chose to let him and the paycheck go for the gleaming, freeing lesson apparent.
He was a nice guy then.
He still is a nice guy now.
He merely reflected to me in my mind how I feared:
- losing a potential client
- losing money a potential client stiffed me out of
- losing face
I sent him a polite, kind email. I decided to move on to let him find someone who could meet his style.
I chuckle at times whenever I come across his social media updates.
He offered me a gift I am deeply grateful for.
Letting him and that individual job go opened me up to greater blogging growth.
I understood a bit more that success is in your mind, manifested through your blog, not in a client’s demands or their bank account.
I had to look past him to better understand that reality.
Give yourself the gift of release. Letting go bonds makes room for new, prospering blogging friendships.
Conclusion
Letting go worn out bonds frees your time and energy for creating genuinely helpful content. Being truly helpful lays the foundation for successful blogging campaigns. Being helpful helps all of us in the short run and long run.
Let go to grow. Release blogging bonds you just know have to go in order to engage in freeing, exciting, new stages of blogging growth. Releasing the blogging past makes room for a bright, prospering blogging present.
Let go!
