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Imagine if I walked up to you on the street.
I approached you, smiled, then shook your hand and said:
“84,000 backlinks point to Blogging From Paradise Dot Com.”
Would you find that odd?
I hope so.
I assume that you would walk away from me as quickly as possible. Who gravitates toward someone who speaks all about themselves? Who worships idols? The only worshipers out there have some mental injuries themselves. People only seek what one fears that they lack. Newsflash; your mind is unlimited. You lack nothing. Whatever someone else has, you have access to as well, because all unfolds in the mind.
Visualize another scenario.
Picture yourself trying to awkwardly lug your bike up a flight of stairs leading to a path.
Imagine if I gently approached and said:
“Would you like some help?”
After accepting my offer, I then picked up the bike and carried it to the path.
Would you appreciate that kindness?
You bet you would.
Would you remember me fondly?
Probably.
Perhaps you mention me later in the day.
“The nicest guy helped me with my bike. Handsome dude, too. (OK; I added that.)”
Human beings easily remember those who help with no strings attached. Unconditional love feels amazing to be around, doesn’t it? Everyone loves folks who want to help versus using you for their ends.
Human beings migrate away from self-serving individuals who talk incessantly about themselves, their accomplishments and their possessions.
Why?
Love attracts.
Fear repels.
Fear Repels
Bragging about blogging accomplishments is the fear of not being enough manifest.
For example, during a house sit once, I visited a neighbor who asked for a favor. He owned a beautiful home but could not seem to stop boasting about it. I could feel his fear of inadequacy palpably bleeding out of each brag, from the design of the home, to the garden, fountain and everything about the place.
I never returned to that neighborhood not because he was a braggart but because I felt the profound sense of fear in his mind along with his “house mask” attempting to bury the fear.
What was in it for me? Listening to a doubtful, non-deserving person talk about themselves and their illusory wonderful house with alarming frequency? No thanks. I passed. Braggers feel unworthy. Being around unworthiness feels unpleasant.
He seemed nice enough. But I do not keep company with terrified minds who try to cover it up with a false sense of illusory security.
Consider it to be like visiting a talking shrine, animated, going on and on about itself because it feels woefully inadequate.
Bragging about your blog is the same type of fear. I move on from these types. I can assure you these are not fun folks to be around. Being afraid – and in denial – creates an awkward situation. No sane mind seeks out an awkward environment.
Love Attracts
Let’s look at the blogger who devotes pretty much all of their time to helping with content.
You and I love these guys because we respect someone who loves us enough to:
- listen to problems
- solve problems by publishing practical content
Helpful bloggers earn trust. Content sells. Blog posts prove; bloggers know their stuff, emanate credibility and are worth buying into……figuratively and literally.
People buy or hire based on trusting content more frequently than by trusting braggarts.
Consider Shelf Life
Imagine if I published a boastful post highlighting all of my blogging accomplishments.
What would be the shelf-life of the post? Would you expect that post to top page 1 of Google? Would the post gain serious traction on X, Facebook, LinkedIn and Threads?
No it would not.
Writing your own reviews is not the most effective credibility builder. If the source benefits from self-flattery would you trust the blogger?
Posts like these die as fast as flies trapped inside of a house.
Practical, detailed, targeted content offers bloggers a lengthy shelf-life.
Take this post; the content has topped Google since 2014.
I helped readers with a practical list of successful bloggers to follow, learn from and emulate. Google continues to send traffic to my blog for 11 years straight through this content. Never mind referral traffic that the post generates through social media and other channels.
Helping readers with practical content lasts.
Readers stick around to boost time spent onsite. Loyal community members increase referral traffic and referral business.
Helpful content does not die; it actually multiplies.
Becoming prolific accelerates your long term blogging success exponentially.
Picture 100 or more blog posts sending page 1 Google traffic to your blog. Visualize 200 blog posts migrating traffic from Facebook, X, Threads and a sliver of its billions of users to your blog.
Build assets through your blog.
Help People to Become Free from Time and Location
Content behaves like an asset.
Each post I publish serves as a Blogging From Paradise employee.
I will go for a hike after publishing this post. As I hike, the post works for me through:
- X
- Threads
Every blog post acts like an employee who works for my Blogging From Paradise “company” while I sleep, travel the world or enjoy time offline.
Conclusion
Freedom comes from being truly helpful not from bragging about yourself.
People want help.
Give it to them.
Publish practical, targeted content consistently.
Earn trust in the most unbiased way possible.
Let your helpful content build credibility.
