Deadwood, South Dakota, USA
- I have already answered these blogging questions once, 5, 10 or 100 plus times on Blogging From Paradise Dot Com.
- I want you to develop the ambition you need to become a professional blogger by taking the next step of visiting my blog to get your answer.
- I want more free time for myself.
- I want more free time for you; waiting for my personal reply wastes your time.
- You need to hunger for answers; not to wait around for them.
- You need to get out of the victim mentality.
- You need to stop waiting around for permission.
The most important reason is this: I personally experienced how peace of mind, success, freedom and flat out thriving occurred only because I developed:
- initiative
- ambition
- hunger
- desire
- clarity
- boldness
- independent thinking
Cultivating these qualities is the only way to become a successful blogger.
Perhaps the biggest stumbling block I suffered through as a newbie was taking the next step myself, independently, instead of waiting around for someone else to do the work for me.
You need to discover the ambition, mental clarity and horse sense to know that obviously I have answered your blogging question repeatedly on my blog. For goodness sakes guys; I’m a freaking blogging tips blogger. Think. Deeply. Carefully. Mindfully.
Thinking mindfully is so important. Going pro demands one to think with high intention.
Before asking me a blogging question then waiting for me to personally answer it via social media….when you think intentionally, within 3-5 seconds you will make a wiser decision: visit my blog to get your blogging question answered now because a blogger who shares blogging guidance already answered all of the questions on his blog 10 years ago.
If you have not made that connection yet you are not thinking carefully enough.
If you refuse to think carefully your blogging career will be a collection of blogging accidents before you quit.
The Victim Mentality Runs Deep
Well-meaning bloggers who unconsciously visualize themselves as victims complain to me:
- 5 minutes
- 5 hours
- 5 days
after I have not replied to their question.
Victims think this way. Ask, then blame someone else for not *personally* giving you the answer to your question.
(There is a level of incredible arrogance with this approach; you secretly believe that another human being should wait on you hand and foot, at your beck and call, rather than getting off of your blogging duff and reading the blog, buying the course or buying the eBook to do the work to get the answer.)
Victors take control of the situation by using this simple logic: he runs a blogging tips blog so any answer I want personally from him, he already answered on his blog but in-depth.
Winners take charge and get shit done now.
Whiners look for any excuse to air grievances and never get much of anything done.
Is This Post the Airing of Grievances?
To a whiner, hell yeah. But a whiner only sees complaints no matter how lovingly one packages their messages.
To a winner, it is a loving message from a clear blogger who tells the truth…with some salsa picante.
I just spent 5 months in Central America. Some brands of hot sauce down there kick your ass. After sampling a smidge, heat envelops your tongue as if satan himself served as grand master of a parade from hell marching around in your mouth.
The truth may sting but only because receiving, processing and accepting the truth is the only way to get past the sting.
Now I will share my mistake.
I Wasted Much Time Answering Questions Mainly Because I Felt Guilty
In full transparency, I wasted ample time answering blogging questions for years on social media because I felt guilty about bloggers:
- complaining
- whining
- moaning
- airing grievances
I mentally projected my victim mentality onto them, felt bad for them, feared being criticized by them, feared “losing” them, feared receiving a negative comment, or negative social media message, and sprinted around like a headless chicken trying to answer all questions on social media that anyone asked of me.
A few months ago, I had an epiphany.
A mentally injured blogger who had previously been mostly pleasant (to me, at least) turned tail and littered one of my groups with hateful posts because I closed comments on my blog. I forgave / looked past his mental sickness, blocked communication and thought through the experience.
I came to a few conclusions:
- the world is impossible
- the world is unstoppable
- being kind to someone who hates themselves secretly does not prevent them from actively projecting their self hate onto you in a public setting
- the only reason why I did not block him and move on from his lunatic rants (only on his profile) years ago was because I personally felt guilty to do so, felt bad for him and my guilt blinded me from seeing that he was a ticking time bomb
I then made a connection. I answered most blogging-related questions on social media not from a predominantly playful, detached mindset but because I unconsciously felt guilty and did not want to disappoint anyone. I never thought about that hidden guilt until carefully observing my feelings about that kinda cuckoo blogger.
I then made another connection. I had already answered the many social media blogging questions once, twice or 50 plus times on Blogging From Paradise Dot Com.
I then made another connection. Each was a genuine adult who in a split second could use common sense to visit my blog to get their blogging question answered. Each blogger possessed the power of choice. They could decide to get the full answer from my blog now versus the 1 sentence answer and a link to a blog post from me personally, some time down the road.Â
So…..that’s why I no longer answer blogging questions on social media.
Conclusion
I love all of you.
Never take this post personally.
Always take this post professionally.
Empowerment, freedom and peace are the end games on my blog. Since I love you that is what I want for you.
Truthfulness, transparency and sometimes, a swift kick to the soft stuff in administering both is the most effective way to help you experience empowerment, freedom and peace.
Your success is well worth the temporary discomfort.
