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I keep people around if they want to help me with no strings attached.
I move on from everyone else.
Doesn’t that make sense?
I hang with genuine people.
I let go of everyone who wants to get business or anything else out of me.
Transparency alert.
Today I ceased communication with a number of bloggers who although well-meaning in some regards made a few big mistakes in the relationship-building game:
- pitching me for the 2nd or 3rd time after I already told them I did not want their business services
- claiming that I was struggling, questioning my tactics and indirectly angling to get my business (of course!)
The latter strategy is lame because hundreds of bloggers tried to use it on me. Every one feigns interest in what I do. The follow up message goes like this:
“Why are you struggling so much to drive blog traffic?”
In what Universe, pal?
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Anyway, the next message – if I do not block the individual to cease communication – involves the first, second or third business pitch. Guaranteed. Nobody has ever replied with,
“I will help you for free to earn your trust.”
I move on from people who want my money and keep those who want to help me around. The crowd that I keep around is wise; we help to increase our collective organic traffic and blogging income by promoting each other with no strings attached.
Few Understand This Truth
Almost no blogger understands this simple but highly powerful blogging truth. The masses try to use people for money flat out. A few smart bloggers give freely to make blogging friends who drive referral traffic and referral business for them. Why is this hard to understand? Why do so few bloggers grasp this idea?
Unconscious fear of loss.
The Unconscious Rules Your Life Until You Look at Yours
The unconscious mind runs the show.
All of your decisions are not free will (until you look carefully at your mind); that is bullshit shoveled your way courtesy of the ego voice in your mind. Life is scripted. Multiple choices, perhaps, but it is based on a closed system. You would quickly accept this reality if you observed how easily things happen for some and not for others. Everything happens unconsciously in the mind based on your multiple choice script.
Do you honestly believe that everyone here blissfully chooses the life they live from pure free will?
Once you really look at your mind closely – however much it stings like pouring vinegar onto rug burns – you understand what I am slowly but surely beginning to grasp: we do not like ourselves on the unconscious level and make endless choices to victimize ourselves to the world around us.
Look today. I mean, really look closely at your mind, your decisions, your experience. You’ll see.
Talk about liberation, eh?
You can choose once again with your mind. No longer do you need to be mindless.
Yet this unconscious fear of loss is a toughie. No one enjoys feeling the terror of poverty. Not one of us loves feeling the horror of scarcity.
Everyone here on a deeper level wishes to symbolically cannabalize each other to get what they want. Then the masses toss you out like a used paper towel.
At any moment, facing, feeling and releasing these unconscious fears influences you to be:
- truly helpful without a shred of psychological attachment to outcomes
- genuine
- authentic
- generous
- kind
- compassionate
in all dealings with human beings, as long as you remain in this state of mind.
How This Looks
Yesterday, I came across a nice enough but unconscious individual whom I’ve seen countless iterations of 1000’s of times since I began my blogging career in 2007. Different body. Different name. Same basic mind and selfish motive. I do mean in a nasty way. I mean he just wants to get money for himself to survive. That’s all. Nothing personal. All unconscious fear.
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The person did support me a little bit on social media. But the person also pitched me their business services multiple times. Then the person did what 1000’s did before them; after a few likes, the specialist told me that I was struggling horribly with my blog, asked me “Why?”, then waited for me to beg them on my knees to hire them.
I instantly blocked the person and labeled the message as “spam” because I knew what came next. I have already seen this approach from thousands before just like this individual. I am not kidding. I have blogged since 2008. Can you imagine how many times people have spammed me with the same exact message? The same delivery?
The guy was only sticking around to get money from me. He mainly wanted me to hire him. This is why he kept pitching me, trying to see me as struggling, trying to make me feel bad, so I would send him money and he would come in like a Specialist White Night to save the blogging day.
I am not being sarcastic.
Literally, these folks do see themselves that way in their unconscious mind. Duh; that’s why they send some ridiculous emails through wildly egoic pitches.
Everyone has to make a living.
But I get to hang up on specialists at any time for any reason.
Nothing personal with him, either.
He is a nice enough guy on one level.
But since I did my unconscious mind training I can instantly release him without an ounce of psychological attachment to him.
I do not need anything from him.
Since he wants to use me I just block him.
No big deal.
The Blogging Lesson
Befriend genuine bloggers with your best interests at heart.
Hang with people who:
- love
- respect
- care for
- help
you.
Move on from everyone else.
Look past people who mainly – or solely – want to use you for money.
Block their profiles.
Cease communication.
Do not even bother with them.
BUT….try not to take it personally. Try not to get angry. Make it fun. Make it playful. Relax. Don’t take it seriously.
Look past fear towards love.
Thrive by surrounding yourself with bloggers who collectively promote the other’s success.