Lyttelton New Zealand
No.
I am not one of those Israeli spam companies.
Ya know the ones advertising:
- miracle cures
- how hideous the handsome child star looks now
- the “BUT THIS HAPPENED” ad copy
Yet I do wish to drill home the point.
I gave people roughly a one month trial run from a place of compassion within a worldly approach of:
- politely declining all blind pitches asking to place guest posts or links on Blogging From Paradise
- engaging in an email volley back and forth after my initial “No thank you,” for those persistent types who do not give up, harbor desperation or greed
The trial run ended today.
I read the spam / cold pitch titles today from the last time I checked my gmail.
I labelled each one “spam” and never looked back.
I did not bother reading any spam messages; the compassionate trial run involved reading and replying.
First things first; I love these folks. I continue to view each compassionately.
But this is what happened…..
I Wasted My Time and They Wasted Their Time So No One Won
Yeah; this happened.
I wasted time replying to people who blindly pitched me. The blind pitching crowd wasted time replying to me politely, let alone, following up once, twice or even three times.
Who wins?
No one.
Who loses?
Everyone.
The percentage of humans who said, “Thank you for your kind reply,” was super duper low. Only a few mindfully expressed gratitude that I took the time to:
- read
- reply
to their email.
I never heard from most.
A small but persistent lot followed up once, twice or even three times after I politely declined their offer.
People Are Largely Unconscious and Appear to Be Unable to Control It
Anyone can allow their unconscious fears to arise to face, feel and look past each fear.
Few do.
The small percentage of spammers who:
- followed up once after I refused their offer
- followed up twice after I refused their offer
- followed up three times after I refused their offer
- followed up once, gave me a little support on X, Facebook or LinkedIn, then followed up to claim how I was struggling awfully and needed each of these individuals to save me from my torturous blogging strategy that was pretty much a descent into hell daily, not unlike Blogging From Dante’s Inferno
think only of themselves and how to extract money and/or traffic and potential income from me, or from Blogging From Paradise Dot Com.
Nizwa Oman
I imagine an actual cyborg appearing to masquerade as a human being outreach specialist, guest blogger or other employee appearing to be an entrepreneur (if you trade time for money and base business on chasing disinterested strangers I am so sorry……but you are basically an employee not an entrepreneur who builds assets freeing you from time and location) reading and replying to my emails or social media messages.
I do not take it personally. I feel compassion for each lost blogging soul.
But the trial run is over.
Now I go back to:
- marking everything as spam because these adults know exactly that they are spamming me with unsolicited pitches
- saving time for me
- saving time to create a heavier volume of detailed, targeted content for you
You and I win.
Perhaps some of these folks may come around. Maybe not. Either way, each will figure it out eventually whenever it is meant to be for them.
Why Am I Writing this Post?
Most if not all blogging struggles come back to feeling guilty and making decisions from that head space.
Sometimes the guilt manifests as anger; you feel freaking pissed off that spammers assault your inbox again and again.
Sometimes the guilt manifests as shame; you feel ashamed to turn down a seemingly struggling individual who blind pitches you.
I will not even bother to go through the countless iterations of guilt.
Blogging from guilt manifests:
- traffic struggles
- income struggles
Facing, feeling and looking past guilt opens the way for:
- increased traffic
- increased income
Bloggers usually harbor a terrible relationship with:
- the inbox
- spammers
- scammers
because each triggers all types of guilt-ridden feelings the moment you:
- check email or social media messages
- perceive spammers or scammers
Being handle to gracefully look past blind pitches to get right back to publishing targeted, practical content keeps your organic traffic and blogging income humming along.
Or you feel guilty and air grievances about blind pitching bloggers, complaining in a worked up frenzy, which of course eats into time you should spend writing and publishing your next long form blog post.
Hey; I do it. You do it. We all do it. Sometimes, at least.
Look past business builders.
Befriend genuine bloggers.
That’s the blogging tip of the day.
But this post is a reminder to look past blind pitchers immediately to do the practical work boosting your organic traffic and blogging income.