Kalkan Turkey
Few bloggers get networking right.
Look closely at your inbox.
Scan your social media streams.
Do you see what I mean?
Most network to get and flounder miserably.
Few network to give and thrive gloriously.
I want to share a few simple words to get into the spirit of blogger networking.
Come in close.
Shhhh….it is a closely guarded secret (I’m kidding).
Here it is:
Help people without expectations.
The blogging cat is out of the bag guys. Blogging From Paradise followers know this. New readers know it too. I drill this idea into skulls whether through my online course for getting high quality backlinks or any one of my eBooks.
Help people with no conditions.
Give to people. Help them. Do what supports their success.
Helping sans expectations earns trust. People sense your genuine interest. We dig folks who want to learn more about us. We love folks who help us with no strings attached. Being generous attracts kind friends.
Connections follow.
Practical Example
Visit Twitter.
Scroll through your mainstream.
Like resonant updates. Repost resonant updates. Drop genuine comments in reply to resonant updates. Take an authentic interest in other human beings. Be kind. Give them attention. Help expand their reach with your Like, repost and genuine engagement. Helping in these fashions pleases the algorithm over there; pretty much anywhere, actually. Bloggers who appreciate your kindness make a beeline for your profile……and blog.
This is how to become a connected blogger.
Bloggers who dig your generosity visit your profile on Twitter. Some tell their followers to follow you. The suggestion connects you to more followers and potential bloggers, of course.
Bloggers who appreciate your help sometimes repost your content for their following. Being seen by their following connects you to more bloggers. Connecting to more bloggers makes you…..drum roll please……connected.
Expressing a genuine interest in someone via a meaningful comment connects you two. Some chat back. Connection established.
When you really think about it, getting connected is simple. Talk to people to help them. Or help people to spread their reach. Resonant chatters and beneficiaries of your kindness:
- connect with you
- connect you with their audiences (or connect their audiences with you)
Get into the spirit of becoming a connected blogger by doing these things.
The Ego: The Enemy of Connections
The ego voice in your mind exists in separation.
This mad voice knows:
- fear
- division
- manipulation
- attack
- selfishness
- self-centered ways
Becoming connected is impossible in separation. One cannot join and separate simultaneously.
You have a choice to make; either join through the intuition-heart to get connected or separate by attempting to use people for your individual ends, then tossing them away like soiled toilet paper.
Have you noticed all the cold pitchers never seem to be connected? Bloggers who pitch their business separate themselves from:
- tribes
- loyal fans
- blogging buddies
- general connection
Instead of helping bloggers without strings attached these bloggers only attach:
- expectations
- conditions
- strings
to all asks.
Note the average outreach email.
The individual always wants to get something for themselves. Business. Backlinks. Favors.
Generally speaking, most if not all distrust strangers who want something from you. People intuitively know when they’re being used and stay the eff away. Blind pitchers find spam folders, trash folders and burn through email and social media handles after getting “das block” enough times.
The ego does it to itself.
Getting connected is easier than spamming to struggle, fail, separate and eventually quit.
Either get connected by helping people generously or separate and struggle by using people selfishly.
Use your mind.
Choose connection.
Decide to be part of something bigger than your individual survival needs.
Look past the ego voice in your mind to the love voice which only knows unity.
How it Looks (and How it Does Not Look)
Getting into the spirit of blogger networking is an internal thing.
Internal states of mind do not really look like anything.
How would it look if you imagined this idea?
The spirit is love.
The spirit is true helpfulness.
No one fakes it.
Everyone has it.
But most bury it deep down beneath the ego fears begging for self-service alone.
I’ll give you an example.
Individuals pop up in my experience on LinkedIn, Twitter and Facebook. After sharing, liking or positively engaging my tweets for 1 day, 1 week or 1 month, some ask me to hire them.
The love went away. The fear facade surfaced.
Instead of allowing organic creating and connecting to magnetize their profiles to customers and clients, the individuals ask me to be a customer or client.
I look past every pitch because I never asked to be a customer or client.
In many cases, this individual disappears entirely, never to be seen again in my stream.
That is the ego; when it does not get what it expects it vanishes to fake friend someone else before trying to use them for money.
I call it like I see it.
The ego is full of shit.
Internally, this crew wanted to get business from me all along. After a half-heart effort, completely out of the realm of being genuine, the peeps vanish after not getting what they want.
This is not the spirit of blogger networking. These lost blogging souls become lone wolves on the outside looking in. Good luck with that strategy in a world of highly connected bloggers.
Be Consistent
The lone wolves above did not help genuinely.
If they did, being consistent organically arises from expressing an authentic interest in fellow human beings.
Some bloggers grow on you after being generous for a little bit of time. Others impress your mind after a longer period of time. Being consistent is the way to become highly connected. Help bloggers without asking for anything in return. Do this for a while. Build granite-like relationships with individuals who appreciate your kindness. Let them act in their own time.
Blogging buddies naturally help blogging buddies at the perfect time. Some share my posts. Others comment genuinely in reply to my posts. Others visit my blog. All roads lead to Rome…..and Blogging From Paradise Dot Com. Generous blogging friends send organic traffic to my blog through their shares, comments and direct visits.
The More Connections the Better
Never stop at 1, 2 or 10 connections.
Serve new bloggers frequently.
Develop an abundance mindset.
Be truly helpful.
Expand far and wide by becoming a highly connected blogger.
Imagine a blogging company working for you around the clock. Connected bloggers enjoy this effect. Blogging buddies engage, share and flat out spread their word 24-7, 365. Or something like that.
Instead of paying employees to complete specific tasks, blogging connections naturally drive organic traffic and blogging income by increasing your exposure along their networks. The effect is somewhat similar because many blogging friends will work to help you consistently, amplifying your success. How do you pay them? Be generous. Help them with no strings attached.
Get connected.
Conclusion
Get into the spirit of being a connected blogger.
Help bloggers freely.
Cut the strings of expectation.
Earn their trust.
Thrive as a connected blogger.
