Why Pitching Strangers Does Not Work in Blogging

  February 21, 2022 blogging tips 🕑 3 minutes read
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El Valle de Anton Panama


I approved a high volume of friend requests on Facebook as a social experiment a few months ago; per my latest post.


I blocked many of these individuals after a few Messenger volleys.


Most claimed to want to be my friend but quickly:


  • pitched me their business opportunity
  • begged me for help in various forms
  • pitched me their services


after we chatted for a few moments.


Imagine your offline friends. Picture how you met, bonded and grew your relationship. Did any offline friend first make contact with you by saying:


“I need your help!”


“Hire me.”


“If you are looking for a freelancer I am looking for work.”


or any other fear-based plea?


Inherently, people do not trust strangers. Strangers who verify your distrust with a blind pitch quickly get blocked. Being blocked on social media guarantees that you do not make money blogging. This is why pitching strangers never works blogging-wise. Money is trust. People who buy your stuff or hire you trust you enough to in essence send money to you. No one trusts strangers. Strangers who offer their business services to you never get your money because you do not trust strangers.


I blocked a high number of Facebook strangers who claimed to feign friendship because fear in their minds scared them into trying to:


  • use me
  • manipulate me
  • play me
  • see me as a number, de-humanized
  • see me as not a warm human being but as a potential client or customer


Why in the heck would I hire someone who:


I do not trust?
does not care about me?
sees me as dollar signs?


Fear scares you into not thinking.


Imagine an engine seizing. Observe how all stops to a grinding halt. Fear yields a similar effect on the mind. Fear makes you cease thinking through intelligent, generous, prospering blogging campaigns. Some of the 300 plus human beings I approved as friends buried deep fears in their minds. Fears buried manifested as trying to friend me based solely on trying to use me for money. Isn’t this insane? Don’t you see how mad such an approach appears to be to a clear-thinking person?


Unfortunately, fear stops the thinking process. Forget clear thinking; NO thinking occurs the moment fear invades your mind.


Donna Merrill teaches relationship-building in business skillfully. She leads with a helping hand in all she does. Her online business success reflects back to her a full commitment to being of service, not self-service. Help people. Get help. Serve people. Get served. Humans know this intuitively but fear creates thinking-seizure that reverses the order. Fear-filled bloggers believe getting money hinges on GETTING MONEY! The way to get money is to beg people for money. The way to get money is to desperately view fellow humans on Facebook as $$$$’s or things to be manipulated to get money.


Ego sees an insane world upside-down in nature. After blocking folks this morning I realized the block was borne of these people seeing the world upside-down in their minds. Getting to them meant trying to get. Getting to Donna means giving freely with no expectation.


Face fear to make this shift. Fear is not pleasant to feel but this necessary step changes the upside-down to right-side-up. In one moment you fearfully believe pitching is how to get. However, in the next moment you gradually see how giving leads to getting. Be gentle with yourself. Allow this process to unfold organically. Let your consciousness shift naturally as you face fear and change your predominant intent.


Blind pitching does not work. Ignore anyone who teaches a rack and stack ’em approach to business dissected on Alonzo Pichardo’s blog. Genuine human beings sit on the other side of their phones or lap tops. Remember that. Cultivate compassion. Face fear. Allow giving to overtake your being. Giving leads to getting. Trying to manipulate humans into giving you money only leads to poverty.


  1. Donna Merrill says:
    at 5:33 pm

    Hi Ryan,
    Super post here and thank you for the kind words. Oh my gosh, I had to do the same with my Facebook. I know new bloggers that are trying to be friends with me but all they do is pitch me.
    The worst is getting messages saying that they need money. So the opposite of how to do business. Especially when it comes to blogging. You and I know so very well how much time and energy we put into our blogs. Always writing for others to pick up a thing or two.
    This is where the bloggers’ heart has to be…peaceful, patient and consistent. Giving to others before asking for a buck. One cannot be in that fear space because in the blogging world its like sticking a square peg in a round hole.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 6:44 pm

      The crazy thing is these bloggers try to succeed by thinking upside down. As long as you think upside down you will fail forever. As you said, it is like trying to stick a square peg into a round hole. Or, vice versa. The generous service and connecting with bloggers to make relationships sets the table for the success. From there, good things can and will happen if we are patient. But since these bloggers and entrepreneurs think upside down they reach out to complete strangers and ask or flat out beg them for money. 100% of the time, these bloggers aren’t getting the money and they will be blocked more often than not. But it is never the fault of the new friend who blocks these social media beggars. It is the beggar’s issue since they are the ones who thought upside down and did everything in reverse to guarantee their failure. Tough lesson to learn. But if I’ve learned anything in life, it is when things seem to be going terribly that you need to look to happy, prospering and peaceful people to turn things around. Everything really is in the mind. Generous, patient and persistent bloggers like yourself know this and teach this simple truth in all you do through your blog, through social media and through your genuine blog comments. Blogging really becomes easier when you learn from peaceful pros because they will teach you how to think, feel and act in order to succeed.

      • Ayush Mishra says:
        at 10:36 pm

        Hi Ryan,

        This is the worst mistake that almost every amateur blogger makes, even I also made this mistake in my early stage of blogging. Beginners directly pitch me message without building any connection. Anyone who want to build network, first start building relationships with them and there are many ways to do that. Just be patient nurture the bond and then you can message them and get reply for sure. Thanks for this awesome post.

        Your Friend,
        Ayush Mishra

      • Ryan Biddulph says:
        at 10:54 pm

        Excellent advice. I do not understand why bloggers try to get before giving. I made the mistake too as a new blogger but righted my blogging error pronto. No one gets ahead by trying to pitch opportunities endlessly because bloggers using this approach waste crazy time getting rejected, being turned down and flat out using time inefficiently. But if you patiently help bloggers to build relationships those blogging friends invite you to guest post and also drop backlinks to your blog. Give. Be patient. Receive. Pitching strangers never works as a dependable long term approach for building a thriving business. But putting in time to form strong bonds lays a rock solid foundation for boosting your business growth over the long haul, exponentially. People simply need to learn from pros like yourself. There are so many ways to make friends. Plus, as you noted, if you ask a good friend for help most tend to offer you that help. Many blogging friends freely invite you to guest post on their blog if you bond with them, help them, improve your writing skills and be patient in allowing your skills and bond to increase. Be patient. That is the key. Patience wins in the networking game. Being an impatient pitching blogger leads to all types of frustrations and pretty much repelling thousands upon thousands of bloggers over weeks and months. Not a smart idea, repelling bloggers.

  2. Lisa Sicard says:
    at 2:16 pm

    Hi Ryan,
    I had a funny story last week about the messenger app. It was my birthday and many knew I haven’t been using FB personally, only for business pages. So many sent me messages via messenger. Well, a few I answered and engaged with. I could not believe 2 tried to sell me something, on my bday! I could not get over it. That is not what social media is for and especially when wishing someone a happy birthday. Can you believe it?

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 2:32 pm

      Really Lisa, it is almost unfathomable that people would do this on your birthday through Facebook. However insane, I believe the reasoning is that so many human beings around the world are utterly lost in fear manifest as terror in their minds that they do asinine things because they are only thinking of themselves, their needs and their families’ needs, and could care less about other people, other people’s lives, other people’s needs, tactfulness, consideration and a general sense of knowing how to behave around other human beings.

      I began a new policy on Facebook a few months ago: I only check Messages from trusted friends who earned credibility from me, through my eyes. Why? I had to blanket ignore the high volume of mad people who send the same insane Messages day after day after day, talking about themselves, their needs, their life, or flat out asking for money. Fear in the mind makes you de-humanize other people to the point of where you cease having a conversation with another human being and see a thing to ask, to beg, or to send 10 photos to every single day. I understand that fear causes the problem but also know that I cannot pay attention to this illusion and remain sane.

  3. Arti Singh says:
    at 3:02 am

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    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 10:05 am

      Arti thanks. I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I intend to be clearer and clearer with each post I write and publish. Sometimes it is challenging. But I am trying to go deeper into my mind to focus heavily on my intent with each piece of content on this blog. Plus I will begin asking more questions at the end of each post to increase engagement. I want more folks commenting. I want to answer questions, ask questions and form deeper relationships with my caring readers. I appreciate you all.

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