Do You Secretly Fear Blogging Success?

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  August 15, 2022 blogging tips šŸ•‘ 5 minutes read

Berkeley County, South Carolina

 

(Updated 8-15-2022)

 

Bloggers sometimes struggle because people fear succeeding.

 

Who do you become when you leave struggles behind? What happens with friends and family who define you as:

 

  • playing small?
  • being an underdog?
  • being “normal”?
  • being the average son/daughter/brother/sister/husband/wife?

 

Think through these words. Ponder your fear of success. Observe how self-sabotage may rear its ugly head the moment success begins to find you.

 

I unconsciously feared experiencing any blogging success about 11 years ago because succeeding meant leaving NJ to circle the globe as a pro blogger. Leaving NJ meant potentially incurring criticism from family who feared that I had left them behind.

 

Never mind fears associated with being:

 

  • more responsible
  • criticized more frequently
  • a leader who seemed accountable to blog followers

 

Wading through these fears felt uncomfortable. But I had to nudge through success-fears to experience greater success.

 

How can you succeed if you fear success? How can you succeed if your fear of success scares you into making struggling, failing blogging decisions leading to blogging mistakes?

 

Fearing blogging success deep down tends to make for a confusing blogging experience.

 

Bloggers claim to want to succeed. But the same bloggers do things to ensure their failure. Why? Self-sabotage often unfolds because bloggers secretly fear success and want nothing to do with blogging success.

 

Why would bloggers fear success? For one, bloggers fear taking on greater responsibility. I feared doing more things moons ago. I claimed to crave success. But I feared giving up mucho hours to work for free.

 

Sure enough, I struggled to succeed because I feared the life unfolding for me as I became more successful. I also feared being rejected by my family on some level. I knew my family would love me no matter what but also figured I may be the object of good-natured ribbing if I became a pro blogger.

 

Resonance Loss

 

On a deeper level, I thought family and friends may lose resonance with me because most fam and friends work 9-5 jobs. Talking about pro blogging and working a job does not seem resonant, per se. I knew we would vibe outside of blogging but still felt uncomfortable discussing varied perspectives.

 

Each of these fears manifested on a subconscious level for me. Each of these thoughts and feelings ran deep.

 

I had to wade through success-related fears in order to be the blogger I am today. Other bloggers have a deep fear of success without being aware of the fear. Bloggers tend to be raised with a whole host of limiting beliefs. The fear of increased responsibility pervades most blogger’s minds because most folks grow up working jobs, or, get raised by someone who worked jobs their entire lives.

 

Think about it; you and I usually see someone work a job mainly for money. Little thought of fun, joy or freedom comes into the equation. How will you feel working for FREE for many 100’s to 1000’s of hours before you begin earning even a few cents? Most bloggers have no interest in owning that type of responsibility; why in the heck would you work for free? Show me the money!

 

Most folks want to get paid for every moment worked. Blogging is a full 180. Bloggers take on the increased responsibility of a millionaire well-before earning a dime. Such a journey scares folks away from succeeding. Who in the heck works for free for a long time before earning any dough? Who in the heck works for years until going pro?

 

The Pro Blogger Journey

 

Pro bloggers, that’s who. Or, aspiring pro bloggers work for free or less than a full time income for a long time before going pro. But most folks fear taking on excess – or even great – responsibility without making money in so doing. You better face, feel and release this fear if you ever hope to become a successful blogger. You better hug all fears related to becoming a successful blogger if you intend to become a pro blogger.

 

Do not sell out by taking blogging short cuts. I had to face, feel and release success-induced fears to let go any urge to take shortcuts or to get rich quickly. You will need to do the same if you crave the insanity of trying to experience overnight success versus taking on increased responsibility to blog the right way.

 

Get over the fear of being rejected by people when you become more successful. True; some folks lose resonance with you as you succeed because you no longer find a common meeting point. Such is life.

 

But you will befriend new, resonant people who live from higher energies of love, abundance, generosity, trust and success as you move higher in blogging circles.

 

New Definition

 

Defining a new, successful version of you scares the bejesus out of most bloggers.

 

Who are you when you are free?

 

Who are you when you are happy?

 

What happens when money struggles disappear?

 

Who will befriend you when you are free? Who will reject you when struggling you becomes free you? How will your friend network and family change when the happy, successful version of you becomes identical to all of the successful folks that they criticize, mock or harshly judge?

 

I grew up with an idea that entrepreneurs were wheeling, dealing, dishonest people. I feared blogging success because I unconsciously believed that I would need to lie to profit. Eventually becoming a successful liar, my parents would hate me and reject me for it.

 

Letting go this definition masquerading as a bizarre limiting belief freed me. But I needed to go within to ferret out this fear.

 

What inward journey do you need to take to be free of success-related fears?

 

Migrate inward. Dig deeper into your mind.

 

Your blogging struggles may be a deep, festering fear of becoming a successful blogger.

 

Root out these limiting beliefs to position yourself to succeed.

  1. SharlaAnn Matyjanka says:
    at 12:12 am

    Hi Ryan,

    I often see this question come up. Do you fear success or failure? And I actually have no idea, so…

    How would one determine if they have a “fear of failure” or a “fear of success? Or does it even matter? I mean, they both stem from limiting beliefs either way. Deeply ingrained limiting beliefs, but to identify and release such things, does it matter if you say: “I have a fear of taking on more responsibility because I fear what people will think if I succeed” or “I fear taking on more responsibility because I fear what will happen if I fail?” If the root of the fear is “what people will think,” then that is what you need to focus on releasing, right? The outcome you fear “success” or “failure” doesn’t really matter then, does it?

    I think I just had a breakthrough, but I would love to hear more of your thoughts on this, Ryan.

    Thank you
    SharlaAnn

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:22 am

      SharlaAnn these are keen insights my friend. Focus on the fear of what folks think versus the success-failure fear bit. No confusion reigns here because it is simply seeing the fear behind the various fears seeming to handcuff us at times. Thanks for sharing!

  2. SharlaAnn Matyjanka says:
    at 6:46 pm

    This makes so much more sense to me now. (took long enough) I was so focused on the success/failure part that I was missing the root cause. šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø

    Thank you so much, Ryan.

    I can’t tell you how incredibly helpful this has been!
    SharlaAnn

  3. Jaya Avendel says:
    at 10:53 am

    I would be lying to myself if I claimed I have not wondered what life as a successful, full-time blogger would look like and wondered if that is the life for me. It feels overwhelming at times, just what I do now, but ultimately, I feel I would be open to trying my hand at make-a-living blogging!

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:08 am

      This is a good question to ask Jaya. Waiting for an honest answer is even more important.

      I recall meeting someone who loved being a DJ. He had a passion for it. But he feared what it would be like to go pro or to even be one of the best in the world. I recall him fearing the time and energy commitment so he quit DJing all together. Perhaps he could have reconciled these fears and reframed the time commitment as a labor or love. Or maybe he had no genuine passion for being a DJ and dreaming of success could pull him down a different path.

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