- reach out to me on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Reddit, Quora, my blog and other channels
- talk/engage me online
- ask me questions
- answer questions
- ask for help
For example, recently I recorded a video of a little under 200 people reaching out to me via Facebook Messenger alone during a 24 hour stretch. I experienced a blitz of Facebook friend requests at a blistering pace for this short stretch.
Imagine 300 people reaching out to you, engaging you and conversing with you daily.
Imagine if 280 of those people are:
- tactful and deft in disagreeing
- polite in offering differing points of view
Imagine if 20 of these people are:
- intent on gaining or getting something from you in a less than genuine way for their personal gain
What does any sane, kind person who loves, respects and accept themselves, do?
Block the 20 rude people to give all love, attention and energy to the 280 nice people.
Being nice pays because you develop friendships with influential bloggers who teach you how to succeed. Being rude punishes you because influential bloggers block you, release you and you continue moving lower in blogging circles, muting your success and accelerating your blogging failure, cutting off the very source of your expansion: powerful, successful, influential bloggers.
If 5-10 people kindly, tactfully and mindfully disagree with me daily we simply have a nice chat to broaden our collective awareness. But if 1 or 5 or 10 people disagree from a rude, confrontational, combative energy, I block the individual’s profile because I only have time and energy for nice disagree-ers and agreeing types.
Reaching out to an established blogger with a decade or more of experience puts you on audition to stand out from the 300, 500 or 1000 people who reach out to the blogger daily.
Reaching out to an established blogger with a decade or more of experience puts you on audition to stand out from the 300, 500 or 1000 people who reach out to the blogger daily. #bloggingClick To Tweet
Either be nice to make the cut or be rude to be rejected and exit stage left. As a human being, I have only 24 hours today so I keep nice people around and block the profiles of rude people. I need a filtering agent. I need to pick the kind, generous, helpful folks from the audition and leave behind everyone else because of the sheer volume of human beings who scream for my attention on a daily basis.
Note; I only block profiles, not human beings. I frame blocking profiles as hanging up on someone who adds no value to my life. I don’t hate someone I hang up on forever; I have compassion for all but give time and energy to only a few.
Note; I only block profiles, not human beings. I frame blocking profiles as hanging up on someone who adds no value to my life. I don't hate someone I hang up on forever; I have compassion for all but give time and energy to only a few. #blogging Click To Tweet
Why It Pays to Be Nice
Being accepted into higher blogging circles:
- allows you to learn how to succeed
- boosts your blog traffic through co-promotion
- boosts your blogging profits through referrals
Literally, you prosper by surrounding yourself with caring, compassionate, successful bloggers who teach you how to succeed from a high energy.
Why It Punishes to Be Rude
Far from bloggers in higher circles punishing you, you punish yourself by being rude because bloggers who prevent you from moving into higher blogging circles appear to cut you off from
- greater success
- greater profits
- greater traffic
but in truth, you did that based on your rude behavior. Bloggers who cut themselves off from the support of compassionate, professional bloggers:
- struggle by trying to do more and more things by themselves
- attract an army of critics and combative bloggers waiting for a cyber fight around every turn
- try to self-promote aggressively sans promoting other bloggers at all, only to be ignored because nobody enjoys following selfish, self-centered bloggers who talk about themselves all day long
What sounds fun? Being nice, feeling good and moving into higher blogging circles to succeed? Or being rude, feeling bad and moving into lower blogging circles to mute your success and to accelerate your failure?
Be nice. Disagree respectfully. Agree with love. Be compassionate. Face fear in your own mind to avoid projecting fears in rude, thoughtless, combative fashion.
I have observed 1000’s of rude, boorish bloggers come, go, quit and completely vanish over my 14 year blogging career. I have also seen kind, generous, helpful bloggers like:
succeed, thrive and prosper over years BECAUSE they were nice, skilled and helpful.
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