Blogging from Paradise: 4 Keys to Creating My Dream Life and Yours Too (Whatever That May Be)

October 20, 2014
Kelli overlooking Savusavu Bay.
Kelli overlooking Savusavu Bay.

 

Kelli Cooper is the creator of Live Life Made to Order, a Coach, Freelance Writer Deluxe, and the love of my life. She’s part of the dynamic, island hopping duo and I’m honored that she’s sharing her thoughts with us today, as she’s had more to do with my rapid success than any person….without further delay…

 

First off, I have to thank my wonderful fiancé for allowing me to write a post on his blog. It was his idea actually, and that meant a lot to me, because I know how protective he is of his brand. If he thought my writing sucked, or I had nothing of value to say, he wouldn’t have asked me, simple as that. And had I asked him, he would have found a diplomatic way to squash the request without a doubt.  So, again, thanks Ryan for giving me an opportunity to connect with your awesome community.

If you have been following Ryan’s blog, then you already know about what type of life I live because I have been right alongside him every step of the way. We are ‘digital nomads’ as the kids are calling it these days, and we have been living this life since May 2011.

 

Passion for Travel

 

My passion for travel is only matched by my passion for personal development. I guess you would say I am a very growth-oriented person, and this has helped me create a life I never thought possible at one point, and helped me transform into a person I never thought I could be. And my purpose in writing this post is to let you know you can do the same. That no matter what your life may be like now, it can be different. That no matter what it is you want, you are a powerful creator who can bring it into existence. That your only limits are beliefs that are not serving you.

Before I lived the life I have now, I wasn’t doing anything special. My life was not terrible by any means, but it was not really what I wanted. I wasn’t super negative or pessimistic, but I certainly didn’t have high hopes for my existence.  I suffered from anxiety and depression, and had many bouts of severe financial troubles.

But, there was always that desire within to change and be better, and once I finally honored it, I began to expose myself to new ways of thinking and being.I realized that if I changed how I thought, I could change my whole world. How we think and what we believe forms the core of our experience, and if we are willing to tweak things, we can make amazing strides.

So, I would like to share with you what helped me move from a life I didn’t want to the exact one I did. A life spent earning money online, and traveling wherever I want for as long as I want. I know if you take this advice to heart, you too can create whatever life it is you want, whether it is to travel,  build a successful home business so you can spend more time with your family, or just simply create the means to live life on your own terms.

 

Got Clear on What I Wanted and Why

 

Do you know one of the reasons most people don’t have what they want? They have no freaking idea what it actually is. We kind of have vague ideas, like wanting to be happier, having a better job, finding a healthy, loving relationship, fulfillment,etc.. But, there is no meat behind these surface, generic longings.

But, we sure as hell know what we don’t want and what we don’t like, and we are all too happy to bitch and moan to anyone who will listen. We put so much focus on the crap, and guess what happens when we do that? We get more of the same. There is a lot of power in where we choose to focus our attention. What we focus on expands, so you need to figure out what it is you do want and start putting your energy towards that.

 

Me and Kelli in paradise, by Nakagawa Waterfall in Fiji. Jurassic Park-like scenery here.
Me and Kelli in paradise, by Nakagawa Waterfall in Fiji. Jurassic Park-like scenery here.

By knowing what we don’t want, what we do is pretty much implied, but again, what we focus on expands, so this is not the tack we want to take to make things better. Use what you don’t want as a springboard for figuring out what you do.

Most people really don’t do this to any real degree. We mayhave gotten caught up in a life we never wanted, and now feel it is too late. We were taught what we ‘should’ want by others, and adopted these desires as our own without every really questioning it. We may have wanted something better at some point, but got off track, never to go back.

Regardless of how you ended up where you are now, you can always shift course. Really think aboutwhat it is you want. I mean really want, not what you think you can have based on what your life is like now. What is happening now, and what has happened in the past, is completely irrelevant to what the future can be like.

Be willing to let go of the disempowering stories that have held you back all this time.  When I first did this exercise, there was nothing about my life at the time that would have suggested what I wanted was possible in a million years, but I wrote out that list without holding back. Years later, I found it, and every single thing had come to pass. There is immense power in clarity.

And once you figure out what it is you want, you need to clearly define why you want these things. Without a strong why, you’ll never do what it takes. You’ll get off track; you’ll give up at the first sign of bumps in the road. You’ll gravitate back towards your comfort zone no matter how unhappy you are there.  Write down all the things you want, and why you want them. Then look at that list of ‘whys’ and ask yourself why you want those things, and then those things. This exercise helps you hit the root of your desire, and your core values.

When you get clear on what you want, and why you want it, it is easier to move forward. You’ll have a much clearer sense of what you need to do, and you’ll feel more confident making decisions that will support your goals. The criticisms and judgments of others will sting less because you know you are doing what is right for you, and that insecure part of yourself that responds to all that crap will continue to shrink. You’ll get more comfortable with being uncomfortable, and this is crucial.

 

Gave Myself Permission to Be Awesome

 

One of the biggest reasons most people are stuck in a life they really don’t want is because they don’t give themselves permission to go after something better. There are often issues of deserving at play here. We think things like ‘who am I to want something better?’ and ‘what makes me so special that I should have all these great things?’ We may think of things we have done in the past, things that were ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ and feel like we don’t have a right to be happy.

Then there is this idea of just settling for good enough and feeling like it is asking too much to want more. Don’t get me wrong—I think it is very important to show gratitude and have appreciation for all the good things in our life. It is important to be grateful to have been born into circumstances where we have the luxury to focus on what we want, and not just worry about mere survival. It is important to appreciate your spouse, children and all the other things in your life that bring you joy.

Why am I so cheery? And drinking freshly picked coconut juice? In Fiji? Talk to my Happiness Consultant.
Why am I so cheery? And drinking freshly picked coconut juice? In Fiji? Talk to my Happiness Consultant, the inspiring person who helped me root out some wicked limiting beliefs to promote my health, wealth and success.

 

But, you can still want more..it is okay to want more. Don’t tell yourself that you should just be happy with what you have if there are other things you would like to have in your experience. That doesn’t make you an ungrateful tool, selfish or any of the other bad things you think this makes you.

There is something very powerful about giving yourself the green light to pursue a better life for yourself. It sets intentions, and intentions are very powerful for setting all sorts of events in motion on an energetic level.

 

Studied the Law of Attraction

 

There is so much misunderstanding of what law of attraction is really about, and it’s a shame because it turns off so many people from exploring it more deeply, and consciously working with a process that can change your life in ways you can’t even imagine. It isn’t about thinking things and making those exact things happen.

It is about attracting situations that match the feelings and beliefs you currently harbor. No matter what it is you want in life, you are after a feeling, and if you can learn to cultivate those feelings now, the things you want, and stuff that is even better, will come into your experience.

This means you can’t bemoan the life you have now, and determine you won’t feel better until things change.  You can only attract things to which you are a match, so things will continue to stay the same so long as these more negative beliefs and feelings persist and are predominant.

When you realize how much power your feelings and beliefs wield when it comes to your life experience, you make the awesome realization you have immense control over your reality. The Universe has your back, and can help shape your more desired reality in infinite ways—its machinations are no match for our puny human brains that can only think of like five ways we can get the stuff we want. That is a lot less than infinite, no?

You realize all you need to do is focus on the ‘what’ and leave the good old ‘how’ to this wonderful force.  It leads you taking inspired actions that feel good, and not forcing yourself to do things that make you feel like crap out of a sense they are necessary, or because you fear not doing them, will prevent you from getting what you want.

Studying law of attraction lined me up with oodles of freelance writing work with every little effort on my part—I don’t scour job boards all day long, applying to dozens of opportunities. It helped me line up an amazing housesitting job in Fiji. It helped me go from being broker than broke to making more money than I ever had, working only part-time.

If you can cultivate faith in this process, and be okay with not understanding it completely on a logical level, you are golden. It will give you the courage to dream your dreams, and start moving towards what you want even if you can’t see the full picture yet. You have absolutely no idea what people, ideas, situations and what have you will float into your experience. You can’t possibly figure it out, so don’t try.

I could write about law of attraction all day long, but I’ll stop here. Just start studying it..be open. Learn what it is really all about. Trust me…you won’t regret it.

 

Took Complete Responsibility for My Life and Saw Where I Was Making Excuses

 

I’ll tell you one thing right now..if you don’t take complete responsibility for your life, and all the results you get, you’re doomed. Blaming things outside of us is really easy and we can make very compelling cases for why things are not our fault, or why we can’t do the things we want to do. Being ‘imperfect’ humans with all sorts of jacked up beliefs, it is understandable why we do this.

 

Just in case you forgot where we are, Kelli reminds you.
Just in case you forgot where we are, Kelli reminds you.

But, that doesn’t make it okay, and if we keep buying into lines of thinking that lead us to give our power away, or make excuses for why we aren’t where we want to be yet, we’ll stunt our growth and progress will be a slow, painful crawl.

No matter what happens to us, we always have the power to choose how to perceive the situation and how to respond. That can be a hard pill to swallow, and is not a belief that may have a lot of traction behind it. There is a lot of momentum behind our victim mode line of thinking, and it is easier to keep thinking thoughts that support it, than ones that refute it. But, you need to do this or you’ll forever shortchange yourself.

Be honest with yourself here if things aren’t going as well as you would hope. Where are you abdicating responsibility for your life? Where are you making excuses?

Don’t blame the government or economy for your financial situation. Don’t blame a crappy childhood for the decisions you are making decades later.  Stop using kids as the excuse for why you are still struggling to get your blog or online business off the ground–considering most people end up having children at some point in their lives, more likely than not,  a majority of the most successful people in any field are parents too.

When we really want something, we make getting it a priority; we take the reins and don’t let things outside of us get in the way.

When we aren’t willing to start taking responsibility and stop making excuses, we best find a way to learn how to be content with how our lives are now, because it isn’t going to get much better than that.

If this part made you a bit angry..good. It means that something I said struck a nerve and there is some truth to it. So, go within and see what is happening. Don’t try to soothe that part of yourself with your usual stories that keep you stuck in this way of being.

This isn’t about beating yourself up for your poor choices, it is about honestly assessing what is happening , how you have contributed, and how you can start turning things around.

So, there you have it. While there are so many other factors that went into creating my dream life, I felt these four were some of the most important because of the strong foundation they set for my ‘work’ in creating my reality. I know it is cliché, but if I did it, you can do it. I wasn’t anyone special. I was just willing to let go of beliefs that no longer served me, cultivate a little faith, and act in spite of my discomfort. I hope you enjoyed the post and found some inspirational nuggets you can apply in your own journey.

What are you doing today to live your dreams?

How can you better align yourself with your dream life?

What steps should you take to be happy, now?

 

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30 Comments

  1. Fantastic. Inspirational post.

  2. Cosimo, great to see you here! Wow….someone who was at the docks with me. How cool is that? I took a same journey bro and it started then. Reading and watching the Secret, taking my time to vibe a bit higher, all led to the downsizing, and then, starting my online journey. I’ll let my wife know you dug the post. SO happy to see how you’re doing too. Your energy is awesome, you look great and you’re well on your way too. Cosimo, I’d love to connect when we’re back in NJ. Sounds like a plan. Thanks again for reading and commenting, and keep vibing high brother!

  3. Cosimo Sciortino Says:

    Hey guys! First just want to say im just a newbie to all of this information from all of you. Ive delved into the law of Attraction id say about 4 to 5 years ago, from The Secret, down to many other authors, it is something that caught my interest and been interested in it since. In all honestly ive used the lessons, but on and off, ive had hi’s and Lows and lately been getting inspiration again to explore the laws again. Just wanted to say thank you for the information and thank you for helping those looking to find there own success and to further they own personnal development. Ive know of Ryan for some time, and i can definately be witness to his story because i worked with him at the same port he mentions and still do. Proud of you bro for doing better for yourself, trust me the place only became worse. Anyways, i will continue to look into and read the helpful information you are sharing and hopefully can connect as well.. Thanks for the good reads!!

  4. Andrew Says:

    Hey Kelli,

    Really good to see you here on Ryan’s blog. He made a wise choice for having you on here.

    I really like alot of the points that you mentioned here but one thing I want to mention. I understand that alot of people don’t have what they want because they just don’t know what it is, but I’ve also noticed that alot of people just don’t know how to get there.

    I mean, for you and Ryan, did either of you know how to get to the point you’re on today right from the beginning? Or was it a learn as you go sort of thing?

    Unfortunately, many people see hurdles at so many points in achieving their goal and they just give up altogether.

    Regardless of that, the points you made in this post are spot on. Especially being clear on what you wanted and why. Having a goal is fine, but knowing exactly what you want that goal to be achieved will help you focus your attention and energy on getting it accomplished.

    Great post here once again, Kelli. Really enjoyed it. Hope you’ll be on here again sometime.

    Have a great week.

    – Andrew

  5. kelli Says:

    Hey Chris
    Nice to see your awesome comments over on the BFP property! I am glad that part resonated with you because I think that can really hold us back, and it is something we may not even realize we are doing. I love what you said about that allowing make the feeling of the desire more pure. You are so right about how that lack of permission can ‘pollute’ it with the lower vibe thoughts of thinking it is too out of reach, we don’t deserve it,etc…

    I am certainly glad you got over your reluctance to comment because yours are top-notch!

  6. Wow Chris, I so had the same belief! About commenting…..and it was a bugger to root out, but getting super clear on my intent, and doing what felt fun to me – commenting – helped me release on it. What a whopper comment, thanks Chris!!!

  7. Hey Ryan and Kelli,

    It was only a matter of time before your work started crossing over! 🙂
    I am a Law of Attraction enthusiast as well and the part that really resonated with me about this article was the “Give Yourself Permission to Be Awesome,” Segment, specifically the part about wanting things. I love that you state that it’s ok to want things, no matter how crazy they seem. Before my conscious work with the law of attraction I always saw myself as a “dreamer”; a head in the clouds sort. Now, I realize that I simply wasn’t doing the work to align but I was still very conscious of my desires.
    Where giving yourself permission comes in is it’s like opening up the floodgates to allow yourself a more pure feeling of your desires. By saying to yourself, “It’s ok to feel this way” and especially, “It’s in your nature to have this desire, no matter how unrealistic it seems, how much others might judge you, and how uncomfortable it might make you feel.” That is the key. Recognizing that you are the one driving the car, but the road (in this case your pure desire) was perhaps laid out for you before you came here and you keep adding fun little scenic routes along the way as you expand more and more. I might have gotten a little off track there….
    What makes the desire pure is that, because you give yourself permission, you’re no longer going back and forth between the vibration of your pure desire and the vibration of, “I’m not sure it’s ok/reasonable/sane to have this desire.” This, my friends, is the vibration of doubt, which will attract mixed manifestations in your life. Permission, however, is the beginning of the dissolution of doubt. By saying, “It’s ok to to feel this way”, your desire becomes undiluted by doubt and you begin to attract things that reinforce the feeling you have for your desire.
    One example I actually learned from you Ryan is a belief I had about bothering people by commenting. I felt like no one would want to hear me rambling on and on about what I think about a subject, and that people would just quietly nod. But, I realized that when you give yourself permission to do something you want to do anyway (like connect with wonderful LOA folks), then you automatically commit to doing that thing. After all, you’ve committed to doubting it, so you’re simply just taking out the rogue vibration and keeping the part that was perfect all along. Which is really what the LOA is about, but I’ll stop for now.

  8. kelli Says:

    Hey
    Thanks so much for your comment. I am always happy to meet a fellow LOA ‘enthusiast.’ You are so right about that–once things start happening after consciously applying the process, it is hard to say there isn’t something to it. And, like you said sometimes those exact things do happen. If we are on a certain path, and have certain intentions, we can get those super-specific results.

    I think the thinking thing is misunderstood by people, and they take it to mean we can create seemingly impossible feats, like turning a pizza into a salad or something, or they can bring something into being instantly.

    That is awesome you have had such great results with it, and using it to get more money is always particularly fun! You guys have a great life and it is awesome to see other people doing what Ryan and I do. Thanks again for your comment!

  9. Super comment guys! I agreed 100% Both on the hokum and crap and the truth of it all lol….Kelli’s hopping on now to reply 😉 Thanks so much and have a FUN weekend in gorgeous Grenada!

  10. Love love LOVE the Law of attraction part of this article. Well, I love the whole thing but that was my favourite part. 6 years ago I would of called this kind of talk hocus pocus crap brought on by the uber famous book “The Secret”. Turns out… it’s all true. Now, after years of having my thoughts magically turn into reality, I can no longer deny the power.

    Seriously, everything we think of happens and sometimes it almost does seem exact (even though it’s not supposed to be). It’s a great tool for happiness to guide you towards more happiness. We love it and we don’t understand it at all. All we know is that it works and great things happen to us shortly after we start focusing on them.

    We once decided that we wanted to make money freelancing, and within a month we had nearly tripled our online wages from freelance work.

    We set a number that we wanted to earn. A month later, we passed that goal. (now we’ll make a higher one!)

    Everyone should at least give it a shot. Try to think positive and like Kelli said, study the law of attraction. I was crap in school and never good at studying, but somehow I’ve passed the bar in this form of law! What do we have to loose right?

    Thanks Kelli. Glad to see you on BFP and I’ll definitely be following along now.

    Sharing now.

  11. kelli Says:

    Hey Mandie
    Thanks so much for your comment. You are so right about that–we can go on all day about what we don’t want. It is so easy to be negative..we have so much momentum behind it, and it takes very little effort to think about what makes us unhappy. It’s funny because we have to try so hard sometimes to feel good, but it never takes much time to feel badly.

    I love how you said writing down what you want–I am a huge fan of writing things out. I think there is something very powerful about that act. Letting go of what no longer serves us is a huge step for aligning our energy. I think we are all works in progress! It is a good thing we don’t have to be in perfect alignment and have a squeaky clean vibration to get anything good or we’d all be in trouble!

  12. kelli Says:

    Hey Steven
    Thanks so much for your comment. You are so right about not being able to get anywhere if we don’t know where we are going. It is interesting because I think that uncertainty can keep people stuck because they can’t see the whole picture, but we don’t necessarily have to figure every detail out yet or the final destination. We just need to look at what we can do right now to get moving in the direction we want, and just take it from there. Your tip about setting small attainable goals is great because that helps us make relatively quick progress, and nothing motivates like progress!

  13. Yep Steven, keeping the mind clear through daily meditation helps you remain at peace, or calm, in any situation. What a quality to develop. Thanks so much!

  14. Mandie that letting go is a priceless skill to develop. If I held on, Blogging from Paradise never would have been born. Thanks, you too!

  15. Hey Kelli & Ryan!

    I think you hit it spot on when you said that most people know what they don’t want, but aren’t really clear on what they do.

    There is SO much power in clarity – In having the courage to write it down; to put it out there in the Universe.

    There is equally as much power in letting go of the goals, beliefs, and actions that are no longer serving you or bringing you closer to your true desires.

    Like you mentioned, it’s not about thinking about exact things and having those exact things happen. It’s about being in a mental and emotional state that attracts the right situations to you.

    I’m still a work in progress, but I’m getting there. 🙂

    Thanks for the encouragement! Hope you guys are having a fabulous week in paradise!

    Mandie

  16. Hi Kelli and Ryan,

    Our mental well being can take us to amazing heights.

    I like your points on how you got clear on what you wanted and why! I feel that is a huge part of it all. If we or not clear and set small attainable goals that get us to our ultimate goal, we are golden.

    Without this we can work hard and not really get anywhere because we don’t know where we are going.

    I love the law of attraction and believe in it full heartedly. I know Ryan mentioned a lot especially on the old blog about meditation, keeping your mind clear and so on. It’s all about keeping a clear head because life WILL throw us some curve balls here and there. That could hurt us if let that negatively, sadness etc cloud us.

    Excellent post! I hope ya’ll are having a great time in Paradise 🙂

  17. kelli Says:

    Hi Sylviane
    I do remember you having a personal development blog and connecting with it when I started blogging a few years ago…that was not a serious effort and it eventually fell by the wayside. I will definitely have to revisit it and check it out. I’m sure it’s great. That specificity about the man is a great idea–it is really easy to focus on what we don’t want when it comes to relationships because it is such an emotionally charged aspect of our lives, and it doesn’t take much to fall back into the bad experiences and what we didn’t like about certain relationships and people.

    That is a really interesting point about being scared to ask. Lots of possible reasons behind that from being afraid of our own power, to associating what we want with negative consequences we may not be ready to deal with. Great stuff!

  18. Oh yes Sylviane, you’re right up each other’s alley 😉 You guys’ll hit it off big time. Thanks for sharing!

  19. Hi Kelly,

    OMG we need to connect. We have so much in common. I am in personal development and the law of attraction up to my neck. I am a freelance writer. I have (like you) a personal development blog 🙂 and I agree 100% with everything you’re saying here.

    As you said, there’s so much misunderstanding about the law of attraction, that’s why people who said they know about it still have not what they want.

    First off, yes, I agree, most people think general stuff, but they don’t know precisely what they want.

    Well, to give you an example, after 2 divorces I am in no rush to find mister wrong again, so what did I do? I wrote a whole list of what I want in a man. emotionally, morally, mentally, what I’d like him to be into and even what I would want him to look like 🙂 If he exists somewhere I’ll meet him some time.

    Nowadays I am totally into exactitude in everything I do and think, because after quite some years of learning and practice of the LOA I finally realized that’s what the Universe want to hear to deliver. I think that people are scared to ask for exactly what they want, but I’m here to tell them they shouldn’t.

    I’ve already connected with Ryan, but I really hope to connect with you, personally. Great post 🙂

  20. kelli Says:

    Hi Sue Anne
    Thanks so much for your comment. Yes, the ‘why’ is a core component. When we get really deep with it, we gain so much clarity about what we want and who we are. This forms a strong foundation and we will keep on going until we get what we are after because we realize we can’t settle for anything less than that! Glad you liked the post!

  21. Hi, Kelli,

    So nice to see another woman blogging!

    I also love personal development and have a bazillion books (is bazillion a real number?) on that subject, both paperback and Kindle.

    I love your idea of using the “Why”. That’s something I haven’t done as much and I know it will help me in many areas of my life.

    Thanks for your great ideas!
    Sue

  22. kelli Says:

    Hey Brittany
    You make such an excellent point about taking accountability for our feelings as a crucial starting point. I think the clarity issue is a sticking point for many of us, and I don’t necessarily think we need to be 1,000 percent crystal clear on something to start seeing great results, but we do need to have a pretty solid idea. If we are moving towards what we want from a good feeling space, and taking inspired actions, that will take us pretty far and help us fine tune along the way.

    You seem to be doing an awesome job so far with all your endeavors so you are definitely doing something right!

  23. Kelli,

    You know I’m a huge fan of taking responsibility for our own lives and thoughts. It really starts with accountability for our feelings, which can steer our thoughts in the direction they need to go.

    The thing I think I can still work on is clarity. I’m pursuing a lot of different goals at the moment, and while I really do feel deeply satisfied by what I have now, I do feel like my goals moving forward could be a little clearer, particularly as they relate to blogging.

    I want to inspire people, I want to encourage them and I want to help them be more successful so they can feel more fulfilled by their work online. But why? Not really sure. 🙂

    I guess I’ll have to think about it.
    Brittany

  24. kelli Says:

    Hi Don
    Always love reading your comments and hearing more about your insights and own experience in creating your most ideal life. I loved what you said about dreams and ‘getting real’ not being able to exist in the same space. It is so easy to pursue what we ‘should’ want without ever really thinking about whether we actually want those things. It is fascinating what we realize we have achieved once we got that clarity and shifted our mindsets. Like you said, we see it is only us standing in our way.

    I agree that sometimes we do have to move away from certain people–we have to protect our precious energy at all costs, and especially in the beginning when the new us isn’t as strong, we can’t fight off other people’s negativity, and we get pulled back in.

    I am so happy to hear you are finding so much success…you certainly deserve it!

  25. Dennis we look forward to seeing you 🙂

  26. Well said Don! Being honest about releasing negative influences – and about assessing your true feelings – creates stunning growth. You’re proof my man. AWESOME comment, and thanks so much for sharing.

  27. Don Purdum Says:

    Hi Ryan and Kelli,

    Ryan – smart man!!!! Kelli is obviously a very bright, intelligent, and positive influence in your life. Good for you!!!! I know what you have because after 21 years my wife is much the same for me. It’s good to be blessed by the women in our lives!!!!

    Kelli, I couldn’t agree with you more. In fact, it’s interesting that for there was a time in my life where I thought I was positive, I thought I knew what I wanted and I thought I knew where I was headed.

    I couldn’t have been anymore wrong. All the stories and lies I told myself that got in the way of the truth… looking back on it how did I ever get in that place.

    The same we all do I suppose.

    As a kid we are all so full of dreams, ideas, and hopes. But along the way we allowed adults to tell us to get real, live in the real world and just get a job and be responsible.

    Dreams and getting real are really not in the same space are they?

    I have learned what I’m capable of and that the only one holding me back is me. I’m the only one stopping me from achieving my dreams. Me and the stories in the back of my mind that I work intentionally at every day to say goodbye to.

    Yep, I know exactly when they are there by being aware of my thoughts, feelings and behavior. In that moment I take a deep breath and say goodbye!

    But I wasn’t able to do that until I removed some people from my life. Business partners, friends and even some family. They had to go.

    The fruit is now in the pudding, so to speak, lol…

    My blog is literally exploding, my business is growing faster than I could dream of, I’m working on my first ebook and I have some big plans for the first quarter of 2015.

    I would have thought of all these things a year ago, but I wouldn’t have done most of what I’ve achieved or what’s coming.

    I’ve always believed in myself but I’ve also held myself back from my potential. It’s easy to do what you know you’re good at, it’s different to do something that you believe you’re good at.

    I loved, loved, loved your post. Keep on inspiring and encouraging us Kelli!

    I appreciate you and look forward to reading more from you on your blog!

    Have a great week.

    ~ Don Purdum

  28. kelli Says:

    Hey Dennis
    Thanks so much for your comment and so glad you liked the post. We all fall into the excuses trap now and again…it is just so easy to. The awareness we are doing it is a great first step, and allows us to start changing. Just don’t beat yourself up too much..evaluate what is happening and just vow to do better! I’m sure you are still doing plenty of great stuff!

  29. Hi Kelli!

    Great read to start the week!

    I’ve been feeling kind of overworked lately and mentally, I feel drained so it’s easy for me to blame others, my situation, even my dog.

    I need to take a step back again this week to see where I am making excuses. Reassess my schedule, team and workload

    5 years from now, I’ll also be in Paradise like you guys! Thanks Kelli and Ryan 🙂