The opulence bled through my being.
I swear to goodness, this palace could have its own zip code.
When I visited Doha, Qatar, I saw 3 palaces of the ruling Al Thani family.
Imagine if Tony Stark and Bruce Wayne stacked all of their chips, then invited Scrooge McDuck into the Titanic Trio, to offer his staggering wealth and design chops (think “pool of dubloons”) to build a palatial, other worldly mansion, then take it up 4,500 notches, and you have an Al Thani palace in Doha, Qatar.
These places make the swanky apartments I walk by on Central Park West look like shit holes.
Now….imagine if I walked in to one of these palaces wearing a ratty wife beater, with bad breff, smelling of onions, cigar smoke and deli meats, and summoned in a junkyard dog to take a steaming hot dump on the $430,000 Persian carpet in one of the palace’s 35 living rooms.
At worst, I’d be shot on sight (rightfully so). At best, I’d be shown the door.
The point: I did not belong in a royal palace because I did not treat the palace with respect.
The only way to be invited into a royal palace in the Middle East is to act like, or be, royalty.
I am receiving a higher volume of requests from bloggers who, despite their best intentions, want to take a steaming hot cyber dump on Blogging From Paradise with their poor blog links, reeking of desperation and self service.
I love ya guys, but you are not ready yet.
Some of these link pitching bloggers have great content but they are not a part of the club.
Or, the “I want to appear on your blog that you spent years building up but have no interest in commenting on your blog, promoting you and befriending you for months” crowd.
If you want to appear on Blogging From Paradise I shall share the formula below.
1: Don’t Try to Get Featured on Blogging From Paradise
Blogging Buddha says the best way to get is not to try to get.
Devote your energy to giving *not* getting. The getting happens easily if you focus heavily on giving.
As for giving…..
2: Post Genuine Comments on My Blog Persistently for the Next 3-6 Months
Post 2-4 paragraph, in-depth, genuine comments on my blog posts 2-3 times weekly for the next 6 months.
Peep Susan Velez and her outstanding comments here for a perfect example of how to catch my eye. Literally, she was the first rocking blogger I thought of when pondering someone who publishes authentic comments on my blog and everywhere I see her online.
Follow these tips:
- call me “Ryan” in each comment; personalize comments to stand out
- flesh out some point I made in the post
- be authentic; no horse dooky, babbling brook, BS jobs
Comment on my blog. Make an effort to get to know me.
3: Promote Me on Twitter and Facebook for the Next 3-6 Months
Retweet my blog posts. Facebook Share a few of my blog posts too.
Guys; you really need to impress me to stand out from the crowd of hundreds of folks who ask for links here.
I am not going to be impressed by you until you impress me by promoting me, by helping me out.
If you are a skilled blogger, I will happily retweet you in return.
Alonzo Pichardo shares my stuff left and right on Facebook and Twitter. He is as generous as they come. He is also incredibly skilled, compassionate and a high level coach. He also invited me to start our YouTube online success chats.
You will notice a common thread among my friends like Susan, Alonzo, and David Boozer below. These folks did something kind to catch my eye, then they kept being kind, and generous, which inspired me to help them out. Bonds formed, and linking in happened naturally and seamlessly.
When I think of people to refer you to, I think of my skilled friends.
4: Buy Some of My eBooks or Courses or Hire Me to Coach You
Buy some of my eBooks or audio books or courses or hire me.
I remember my customers.
I treat my customers well.
Of course; as with all of these tips, you need to be a skilled blogger, and you need to be able to write, but when you are skilled and help me out, I remember you, and you position yourself to get serious props on my blog.
I recall seeing someone on Sound Cloud who purchased all of my blogging themed eBooks. Checking out this podcast, and adjoining blog post, alerted me to rocking internet marketing mentor David Boozer.
David also hired me for a coaching session and he purchased my flagship course. How could I ever forget him? Ditto with Alonzo for buying so many of my audio books and graciously sharing my content and inviting me to chat on his popular YouTube channel.
These friends are seared onto my mind. I am grounded in genuine gratitude for their kindness and since they are tremendous at what they do, they will always have a spot on Blogging From Paradise.
5: Practice Your Writing Skills to Really Shine
This is the difference maker. Ultimately, you can follow the other tips, but if you are not a clear, confident writer, I cannot link to your blog.
Write 1,000 to 2,000 words daily in a Word document. Throw that document in the cyber crapper when done with your daily writing practice.
Getting featured on Blogging From Paradise is not too much easier than walking into the Al Thani palaces in Qatar.
6: Understand this; It’s Tough to Get Featured Here
I have been featured on these sites:
If you get featured on Blogging From Paradise, you benefit from the power of association. Meaning folks see your name, look to my sidebar, see Virgin and Forbes and say, “Hey; this featured blogger knows their stuff!”
You have to:
- pay your dues over months, than years
- befriend me, by helping me out, without looking for anything in return
to get featured on BFP. This is tough. As it should be. If I handed out links like candies to a baby, my blog would suck.
But just like I had to pay my dues over many years to get featured on Richard Branson’s blog, you will have to pay your dues for months and years to get featured on Blogging From Paradise.
Study people like my friend Donna Merrill. See how she gets promoted all over the place by her tribe? I cannot even dream of how many genuine, in-depth, authentic comments she has published on blogs over the years.
She has honed her blogging skills through persistent practice and has generously helped me with comments, retweets and social shares, for years, so she also has a spot on Blogging From Paradise as long as she’s blogging.
Keep this in Mind
Hundreds of people are waiting to get featured on my blog, through a mention.
Many of these rocking bloggers have persistently commented on my blog, have promoted me, and have never asked for anything in return.
You need to wait your place on line behind these hundreds of folks if you are a stranger to me.
Being a stranger = rarely commenting on my blog and not promoting me.
Are You Buttering Me Up?
Just like I had to butter up every established pro blogger to pop up on their radar.
But really though, it is not about buttering up; just helping someone without looking for anything in return.
There are a few exceptions to this BRU – Butter Ryan Up – rule; these are the world renowned bloggers who have spent a decade of longer rendering service to humanity and befriending pro bloggers, building bonds, so they paid their dues and earned the right to be featured here, at any time.
The End Game
Treat me like a friend. Help me out. For weeks and months. Don’t look for anything in return. For weeks and months.
Eventually, if you show up here every week, for months, and don’t ask for a darn thing from me, we will become blogging buddies.
Then, if you practice your writing, bumping up your blogging skills, you will be clear and confident enough in your writing to get a mention here.
How are you helping out established bloggers?
What tips can you share to get featured on well read blogs?
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