Grow Your Blog The Fun & Smart Way (This Actually Works)

April 6, 2017


The following is a guest post by Joe Elliott….


The sun stared down through a window of this stunning little island cottage. As I look out I could just make out the mainland but as soon as that boat leaves, I am stranded.


This is how I felt for years when I was trying to make a name for myself online. I was stranded!



I could only make the blackhat shiz work, and even then it wasn’t the kind of results the guru bloggers were stating. This was back in 2010 when it was meant to be easier. I would say it was easier if you loved crazy tactics and strategies that would excite you more than a pizza, movie and ice cream… yeah I know I’m easily pleased!


Nowadays people will say it’s not like the old days, it is a lot tougher now and yes if you want that quick win it totally is. If you want to build a long-term blogging business then now is actually the best time to start!


Why I hear you lovely peeps ask?


Everybody is a lot more open to helping each other. Back in 2010, you relied on crazy PBN link building strategies. Now we focus on building a relationship with another human being.


I remember thinking why are these guru bloggers so successful? It is because they had connections even back in the day! All the time the rest of us were looking for that quick win and they were being smart and building their own network of blogging connections.


Step One: Who Are Your Competitors?


When I speak to new bloggers they are so scared of reaching out to people who are in the same niche. As if they had a secret product that if their competitors found out they would be doomed.


The truth is there are millions of people in the world. There are enough eyes for your content and your competitors. Now, of course, your direct competitors are never going to share your landing pages or products. Why would they share your product if they have a similar one?


Most of them will be interested in your content though. This is great news because now you have more traffic that you can funnel down to your product. If you create epic content that really does wow people then your competitors will be more than happy to share that.


It helps their customers at the end of the day.


Look at me and Ryan (#TopGuy)!


We both blog about blogging.


Our niche is slightly different but the bottom line is we blog about blogging. Yet here I am on his epic blog sharing my stuff with you. Is Ryan worried you will all leave and come to my blog?


Not one bit!


Help others and they will help you!


Look for people with a larger audience than yourself and start to build a relationship. If they are interested in what you do and their audience is too then they will share your stuff with that larger audience.


Step Two: Get On Their Radar


Once you have identified who your competitors are you have to reach out and introduce yourself. You could email them but if they don’t have a clue who you are what are the chances of them answering?


Get on their radar first!


Go to where they hang out (hint… their blog, social media profiles).


I don’t care who your influencer in mind is, they check their comments and social media profiles. Just because they didn’t reply doesn’t mean they didn’t notice you. (editor’s note: excellent observation!)


I did this with John Lee Dumas. I simply started listening to his podcast and shared the episodes I enjoyed with my audience.


He replied saying thanks and asked me for a review.


I got straight onto iTunes and left a glowing review.


This might sound like run of the mill stuff but is getting your name in front of an influencer. Other people will see this conversation. JLD has a massive audience, they may see it and think let’s see who this guy is that knows JLD.


You get a little bit of traffic but most of all, the influencer knows you exist!


Step Three: Forget You!


Nobody cares about you!


Sorry to be so blunt but at this moment your blog is in the middle of an inhabitable desert. To move it to the center of a busy city you need to work your ass off!


So for this step forget what you are trying to do and think about how you can help others. When you do this then people will start to care about you and your blog will start to move in the desired direction.


I wrote about JLD in a blog post, he wrote an article on Jeff Goins blog, so I linked to that article and then linked to JLD.


This is providing exposure for him. He had just launched his latest product and this exposure was appreciated.



He tweeted my article to Fire Nation. I was stoked!




Just for the number guys out there, JLD’s has over 50K followers. Not bad!


Step Four: Ask How You Can Help…


Now that you are firmly on their radar it is time to take the relationship to a more personal level. Send a personal email that tells them why they rock your world.


It is not hard to find an email address these days, in fact, I have heard of people guessing by simply using the format.


There are other tools out there like, I have used this and I managed to find about 80% of the emails I was looking for. It’s free to use but you do need to sign up to see the bloggers full address.


Now I don’t want to bore you about my love for JLD so I will switch things up and tell you about my love for Sujan Patel. Another awesome dude who really does know his stuff.


I reached out to him and told him how his content had helped me. Why does that work?


You are telling them that their hard work has helped you meet a goal of yours. I get this warm fuzzy feeling when someone reaches out and tells me my tips helped them.


Sujan got straight back to me thanking me for taking the time to reach out. Since then he has contributed to my roundups and shared my content.



For the number guys again: Sujan has over 40K followers.


Combine the two that’s a potential reach of over 90K just from reaching out to these two awesome entrepreneurs.


Step Five: Strengthen Your Relationship


Now in this step, I want to talk about another encounter with an awesome person. It has to be Mr Ryan Biddulph!


Ryan caught me right at the start of my journey and has never left me. He has helped with roundups, connections and even gave me a testimonial for my blog. This has been awesome social proof to kickstart my journey.


I didn’t just mention Ryan on my own blog, I didn’t just mention him in guest posts, I didn’t buy him traffic or anything like that. I just let him into my life and shared my stories, listened to his and actually chatted with him.


The truth is, no matter what your motive is, influencers are people. They have feelings that are just the same as yours and mine. When you connect on that friend level, you don’t need to ask for anything, people will want to help you.


The proof is in the pudding, here I am sharing some love on Ryan’s Blog!


Believe In Yourself You Can Do It!


There you have it, it’s great being a one man solopreneur blogger. You don’t have anyone to answer to, you can live life on your terms and you have very little overheads. Don’t be stranded though, that boat I mentioned at the start might never have come back, would I have survived?


Yes because I would help the community and create relationships with the locals. My life would still be a one man show but I now have the support of a community to help meet my goals and survive.


Stop what you are doing right now and start connecting with one of your competitors. Not for gain, just to build a relationship, you may be surprised with the results.


Have you started building a relationship with influencers yet? If not then what is holding you back?


Author Bio: Joe Elliott is the founder of One Man Wiki, his blog that shares tips to help you kickstart your blog. If you are a new or struggling blogger his tips will show you how to get traction in no time at all. Take his exclusive free course that will show you how to leverage the power of influencers so you can skyrocket your traffic and subscribers.

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  1. He wrote a gem Justin. Love Joe’s work.

  2. Great article Joe! I’m in that “uninhabitable desert” currently having just started my latest blog (previous abandoned ones many years ago.) I’m sure though that in ten years time we’ll all look back on 2018 as still being a great time to start a blog 🙂


  3. Hi Duncan,

    Being patient and not fearful – not doing stuff from a place of impatience or hurry – really makes things pop on our blogs, opening us to creativity and new, exciting promotional channels.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂


  4. Many thanks for the blog article.
    Sounds like a plan. Almost the same as taking a product to market, No fast wins and its all about content and who it appeals to

  5. Hi David,

    Awesome dude. Making friends creates an easier journey.

    Thanks for commenting 🙂


  6. David Ebere Says:

    I am really glad I discovered your blog. I am going to work really hard at building relationships with other bloggers. This post has given me the encouragement to do so. Thanks once again.

  7. Hu Khushboo,

    Way cool.

    Stepping up in circles is an easy way to get on the radar of top bloggers and to grow your blog. I place 2 guest posts daily on 2 well known sites and also publish guesties on rocking blogging sites every 1-2 weeks. Fab way to have fun, to help people and to spread your word.

    Thanks for commenting 🙂


  8. Khushboo Says:

    Though I have been blogging for the past 4 years, I have been really struggling to make my blog grow. I think I am going to start by following your step of trying to come in the radar of the top bloggers and see where it leads me. Thanks for the article 🙂

  9. Hi Amar,

    Knowing of folks in your niche clues you in to creative ideas and prospering partnerships.

    Build those fun friendships. Each bond leads to wonderful opportunities. For both parties. This post is an example. We built a bond over time, Joe featured me on many blogs via round ups and I invited him to guest post here. Friends take care of one another 😉

    Thanks for commenting 🙂


  10. Amar kumar Says:

    Hey Joe,

    Now-a-days, it become most important for blogger and online marketer to know whole about their competitors. Because it provide a genuine road map to combat against competition.

    In the world of blogging and online marketing, thriving healthy relationship is most important in order to get success. Healthy relationship provides opportunity to establishment in competitive market. Eventually, thanks for sharing these wonderful tips with us.

    With best wishes,

    Amar kumar

  11. Hi Shabeena,

    Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂

    Give Joe a HOLLA at his blog 😉


  12. Nice article. It is very beneficial for me as well as other bloggers too.

    Thanks for sharing.

  13. Hi Alex,

    I know the feeling of being worried and confused to network. I took it a step beyond; I felt nobody gave a crap about me LOL. So why would they care about my comments or shares? I did some big clearing, began networking and connected with like-minded bloggers….and never looked back.

    Happy Friend Making Alex 🙂


  14. Alex Says:

    This is a great post by Joe. I’m just starting out in the long journey of blogging and recently looked at starting to reach out and find similar bloggers. I was a little worried and also confused how to do this but after reading this post i think i’ll just go for it. Thanks for the quality advise, keep it up guys.

  15. Hi Anthony,

    My pleasure. Joe did a smash up job here.

    We all lift each other up and lift ourselves up simultaneously. Beautiful how it works. We do get as we give. Like that mirror concept I gab about all day long LOL.

    Good to know I am putting out good vibes and likewise on that bro; your positive energy, willingness to chat and connect draws me to you.

    Give Joe a visit!

    Thanks for commenting 🙂


  16. Very nice post Joe…and thanks for letting him post it on your site Ryan! I can’t agree more. I have always longed for a time whereby people helped one another to new heights. I firmly believe you will get…but at first you must give. and give. and give. and probably give some more until you find other like minded individuals. Which are few and far between. They are also known as the best. One of the reasons I keep coming to Ryan’s blog is not just for the great information, but the positive experience. As busy as I believe he is, he still finds time to respond and engage. That is important to me, when it comes to finding people I am willing to spend energy to support. That said, I am sorry Ryan, but I’m moving to Joe’s blog! Let that be a lesson to you! lol Thanks gents!

  17. Joe Says:

    Hi Kesavan,

    Thank you so much for your kind words, really glad it has helped you!


  18. Joe Says:

    Hi Susan,

    Lovely to see you over here and thank you for sharing some comment love 🙂

    Blackhat tactics are seriously not worth it… 100 PBN links $100 plus you may get penalized… 100 guest post links free and you don’t have to worry about a penalty. I know what I’d choose now!

    It is an immense feeling to be complimented and tweeted by big dawgs and all the other dawgs. It makes the job much more worthwhile because you know you are helping someone!

    Susan get your reach out hat on and go for it!


  19. Joe Elliott Says:

    Hi Lisa,

    Lovely to meet you and great to be featured by RB!

    That is so true, day after day I see make this and make that overnight! Not going to happen unless you already have put the groundwork in.

    Like I mentioned your competitors may be happy to share your knowledge I doubt they will share your sales pages but defo your content. Don’t be afraid to get out there and hustle… your blog will thank you for it 🙂

    Take Care

  20. Hi Ryan

    Thank you for having me, I am honored to be here and thank you so much for those compliments:D

    Love reading your blog so it is great to finally be here 😀

    Thanks so much dude!


  21. Hi Kesavan,

    Joe is a wizard in this area. Beginners, newbies, all in between.

    Thanks for commenting 🙂


  22. Hi Susan,

    I did not go the black hat route; I went the ass hat route LOL. Did bone-headed stuff for years. Then I done went and ignored fabulous advice from folks like Adrienne Smith for years too, resisting making friends, etc. Lesson learned.

    Joe is killing it. In a loving, caring way. Ditto on that too; being RTed by big dawgs and dawgettes feels amazing.

    Susan, my pleasure to tweet your post. Although I am no big deal. All I do is press little squares with my fingers and sweep scorpions out of the kitchen. Yes; I did that 10 minutes ago here in Thailand.

    Thanks for commenting 🙂


  23. Hi Lisa,

    It takes SO much clarity to build a rocking blog that it most cases, months and years pass to succeed with this bit. For me, blogging got much easier only after I faced many of my deepest terrors. Few humans step up and face these fears – I do not blame them LOL! – so to most, blogging is hard. Resistance thing. But when we feel/experience those terrors – losing everything, etc – then the resistance dies with the fear. Of course, this is a process too. Free, fun and highly unpleasant at times.

    Yep; we all have a unique twist. Writing in our voice, with our stories, we always stand out. Every blogger does. If they maintain that creative, abundant vibe.

    Thanks for commenting 😉


  24. Susan Velez Says:

    Hi Joe and Ryan,

    I totally get what you’re saying about feeling like you were stranded back in 2010. I too felt that way and focused on the Black Hat techniques. Shame on us, too bad we never learned the importance of building relationships earlier.

    I think everyone who starts is looking for the quickest path to success. It takes time to nurture and build relationships.

    Sounds like you’re doing a great job of it. Congrats on your success. I know it’s got to feel great to be acknowledged or Tweeted by someone bigger than we are.

    I felt like that when Donna Merrill and Ryan tweeted one of my blog posts. Thanks for that by the way Ryan 🙂

    Glad to see you’ve learned from your past mistakes. At least this time you’re doing it the right way 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your story. It’s definitely given me the courage to start reaching out.

    Have a great day!


  25. kesavan Says:

    Hi, Joe Elliott that’s was a wonderful message about the importance our growing the blog. This post will surely help out beginners. once again applause for the post.

  26. Hi Joe, nice to meet you at Ryan’s place. I loved your #3 and that you must work your ass off. My pet peeve is when bloggers say how easy it is to make money or easy to get high rankings, etc. There is nothing easy about blogging!
    I really like your #1 point too – sometimes I wonder should we get close to those that are doing the same thing? I guess if we do it differently it’s not exactly the same right? We all have our own unique voice and way of presenting things. We may also have different products to offer others.
    Thanks for the tips!

  27. Hi Joe,

    Fabulous guest post!

    From the selfie of you by the water, to your writing voice, you perfectly capture the Blogging From Paradise brand. This article fits the blog like a glove.

    Thank you for sharing your influencer influencing tips with our community 🙂