He was floored.
Kelli and I waited for our luggage in Bangkok.
Having flown from JFK to BKK over 38 hours of travel time I felt a little spacey.
As we waited for our suitcases a man by the luggage belt asked if we had been to Thailand before.
I nodded and explained we’d lived here 3 years collectively over the past 7 years.
The man’s eyes almost popped out. 7 years? 3 in Thailand? He was amazed. Most people spend 1 week in Thailand if they spend any time at all in the Land of Smiles. We have been here many times.
Although the kindly man traveled to Thailand many times himself he noted our trip lengths and had to understand how we did it.
I explained how house sitting was one of our big influences in spending months in places like Thailand, Fiji, Bali, Costa Rica, Cyprus, Qatar and between shorter sits, New York City.
He was sold.
15 minutes later I walked out of the airport in Bangkok with a block of cheese. A delicacy here as good cheese is hard to find and a bit expensive. Importing deal.
What led to the Blessed Bangkok Block of cheese being deposited into my suitcase?
Why the power of reciprocity of course.
Successful Blogging, House Sitting and Cheese
After spending a good 15 minutes answering the man’s questions about house sitting – he fell in love with this totally new concept and saw himself becoming a house sitter too – I gave him links to house sitting sites and mentioned my house sitting eBook on Amazon.
Pssst….buy my house sitting eBook here if you want to circle the globe and live rent-free in places like Bali, Fiji and Thailand:
He immediately reached into his bag after we offered the house sitting 411 and asked if we wanted a block of cheese. Turns out he froze 30 plus pounds of cheese and fine meats to bring to Bangkok from the USA.
Yes; he did in fact have the finest meats and cheeses available. Not unlike a Hobbit.
I took him up on his offer.
I felt like a Green Bay Packers fan or perhaps the Laughing Cow; me like cheese. Gift appreciated.
We did him a major solid in opening his eyes to a new way for doing long term travel all over the globe.
He extended his appreciation by doing us a solid, gifting us with in-demand fare here in Thailand.
You help someone without looking for anything in return.
Sure enough, either that individual or someone else offers you something sweet in return either in the moment or perhaps a day or week down the road.
Successful bloggers build online empires through the power of being kind.
Top bloggers promote other bloggers, feature other bloggers and assist other bloggers generously without looking for anything in return, often for months and then, years.
Slowly but surely, the power of reciprocity becomes manifest. Appreciative bloggers promote top bloggers, spreading their word. Bloggers hire these generous pros or buy their eBooks or feature them on their blogs or promote top bloggers on social media.
The generous giving results in generous receiving.
Generous receiving means lots of traffic, blog comments and blogging profits.
But the benefits of reciprocity flow to largely detached, generous bloggers who help from an energy of love and non conditional energy, versus the fear-based, attached, conditional energy that strickens most bloggers, all of whom struggle terribly or see muted success.
Help to Receive Help
The more you have fun helping people without looking for anything in return the more help you receive from folks you help and more routinely, from folks you did not help but who love the value you share.
Far beyond the law of sowing and reaping, genuine blogging reciprocity is about spreading love and giving almost no thought to getting anything. Blogging is fun so blogging is the reward. Money and traffic and comments and social shares are extra’s, or bonuses.
Adopting this energy sends off an abundant vibe mirrored back to you through increasing blogging success.
Check out my friend Joao Leitao. The guy persistently promotes me and other bloggers on Twitter without looking for anything in return. He also genuinely appreciates whenever I retweet his content, thanking me.
Is it any wonder why the guy is such a successful blogger?
The Mirror Effect
The world is just a mirror, reflecting back to you how generous and detached you are with people. Most of the time, this reflection appears to be delayed. This is a good thing because you will be prepared to receive the increased traffic, profits, client base and rich partnership opportunities gracefully and calmly, without being overwhelmed with a tidal wave of opportunities all at once.
Little analogy for you; I just flew from NYC to Bangkok. Total flight time = 18 hours. We did between 500 MPH to 600 MPH on the plane.
If we tried to fly from NYC to Bangkok on an X-15 fighter jet we’d reach speeds of 4,500 MPH for select portions of the trip. Technically, we could arrive in a little over 3 hours but of course we’d die from not acclimating to the mach 6.7 G-force over months of training. The first second or two of supersonic flight we’d vomit like Linda Blair in The Exorcist than maybe my clothes would disappear like with the chick in the movie Zapped (Scott Baio version) then I’d croak.
This is why your reciprocity benefits often lag; good things take time, and if you try to force things that strained, forced energy leads to some dangerous or failing outcomes.
Be a persistent giver without looking for anything in return, like my friend Will Blunt who tirelessly retweets my posts on Twitter and never looks for a darn thing.
How to Tap into this Amazing Power
Follow these practical tips:
- promote bloggers through social media by RTing, Facebook Sharing and G Plus Sharing their content
- mention bloggers on your blog
- interview bloggers on your blog
- open your blog to guest posting
- comment genuinely on other blogs
Have fun doing these things.
Cut the strings (this is where the real power kicks in).
Look for nothing in return.
You will become irresistible to fellow bloggers and your success will expand exponentially over the long haul if you have fun helping folks then cut the strings.
Are you using reciprocity to rock out your blog?
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