Do You Allow Blogging Mentor Limiting Beliefs to Handcuff You?

  December 10, 2021 blogging tips 🕑 3 minutes read

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Each post I publish serves as food for thought.


Even though I have ample blogging experience to share you decide to follow or let go my advice. I share. You choose.


Adopting a take it or leave it approach to teaching blogging gives you power. Decide to follow my advice. Choose to leave my advice.


Most of my advice seems empowering but some may limit you because some teachings here seem egoic. Why? I am not enlightened. I prefer to let you ignore my less enlightened insights to do what works for you, unless that less enlightened counsel resonates with you.


Never allow a pro blogging mentor to imprint limiting beliefs onto your mind or else you will suffer because you chose to trust their advice. Pro mentors mean well in most cases but often attach to list building or Google traffic as must have elements to professional blogging campaigns. However, bloggers succeed through any approach bloggers get clear on. Never force a square peg into a round hole if list building and SEO optimizing posts feels tension-inducing and flat out the wrong path, for you.


Kick limiting beliefs from blogging mentors out of your mind. Blog from empowerment. Follow your passion even if your love deviates from pro mentor advice. Pros sometimes advise that blog commenting seems to be a waste of time but only because pros comment improperly. The fault lies not with commenting but with their poor job of blog commenting. Imagine if you trust a mentor who does a poor job commenting but projects their limiting beliefs onto you? Why be the blind seemingly led by the blind?


Be aware of mentors offering advice from:


  • fear
  • limiting beliefs
  • imagined limits


For example, some pro bloggers claim that Twitter serves as a poor source of blog traffic. But trusting their limiting belief starves you of inevitable Twitter traffic IF you:


  • shed their limiting belief
  • tweet valuable posts
  • @reply tweeters to engage freely


Mentors who incorrectly advise Twitter to be a poor or non-existent traffic source:


  • clung to limiting beliefs
  • did not tweet valuable posts
  • did not @reply tweeters to engage freely


Do not trust their fears. Follow your intuition.


The Question


How do you spot a mentor’s limiting beliefs manifest as advice?


Search your mind to spot fear filters. Observe if pros offer advice from fear and limits or love and infinite possibilities.


For example, if a mentor claims search traffic and email list traffic are the 2 real sources of traffic you need to go pro you instantly know: only fear and a deep belief in scarcity scared the blogger into such a claim. Bloggers succeed through various strategies outside of list building and Google traffic like:


  • guest blogging
  • genuine blog commenting
  • blogger outreach
  • video marketing


Do not trust pro limiting beliefs. Kick their fears out of your mind. Trust your intuition. Allow your gut to guide you toward increased blogging success whether or not the success flows through less conventional channels. Success travels through different channels for different bloggers. Allow your individuality to shine. Honor your blogging path.




I discussed this concept a while back.


Listen here:


BFP 305: Kick Limiting Beliefs from Blogging Mentors Out of Your Mind




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  1. SharlaAnn Matyjanka says:
    at 11:11 pm

    Great post Ryan. Each one of us is responsible for our own growth. What works for someone else may not work for you, regardless of whether or not they have more experience than you. I have be given advice that I have out right chosen to pass on ( for now or forever 🤷‍♀️) advice that has taken me a long time to embrace due to my own issues that I needed to work through. Then, there is the odd thing I have been advised not to do….and I’ve done it anyway. Because it works for me.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 9:57 am

      SharlaAnn my experience online mirrors yours. 14 years ago, my mentor who became absent simply told me to get a WordPress blog and that was that. He also engaged in shady, low energy practices and even back then I knew these techniques were damaging to my reputation. I passed on most of what he taught when he was around and that was quite rare. Then I followed another mentor who had some success but preached similar fear type marketing practices. He only responded to me with one or two word emails. I appreciated that he was busy but he did not genuinely care about me. He was money hungry. Having these early experiences helped mold me into the blogger I am today. I care about everyone whose path I cross. But like you my friend, embracing some of the higher energy, success promoting strategies took me a long time based on fears in my mind I had to face and let go. Thanks as always for sharing.


  2. Anthony Gaenzle says:
    at 10:19 pm

    I love the Twitter reference here. You’re 100% right. Pro bloggers can offer tons of great advice, but it’s important to not just take one person’s advice as gospel and instead do your research and look for multiple sources before you run with anything. Twitter great for you, and it works great for me. Why? Because we have an active presence and we start a dialogue with each posts, genuinely responding. Those who see little value may not have applied this approach, thus they didn’t see the same results. It doesn’t mean Twitter doesn’t work, it just means you have to approach each channel the right way.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 5:48 pm

      Anthony that point you make seems confusing to so many bloggers who do not get Twitter. Many folks over the years who blog question Twitter because they simply do not understand that you need to be social, generous, genuine and most of all patient to make a serious impact on the platform. If you use it for the right reasons it will reflect success back to you and you will actually have fun working the platform. As for following advice, we always have to run even sound, proven blogging advice through our intuitive filter. I wasted seemingly so much time trying to build a list and drive Google traffic when neither channel best matched my talents, passions and overall love for blogging. Releasing each strategy helped me have loads of fun and also aided me in helping a ton more people through blogging, guest blogging, blog commenting and live broadcasts. Blogging gets so much easier when you follow pros but trust your gut too. Thanks as always my friend. Reporting from the wilds of Pennsylvania where there is barely any internet lol.


  3. Sutra says:
    at 3:01 am

    Twitter great for you, and it works great for me. Why? Because we have an active presence and we start a dialogue with each posts, genuinely responding. Those who see little value may not have applied this approach, thus they didn’t see the same results.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 5:17 pm

      Sutra you are on the right track my friend. Most bloggers do not understand Twitter. Few understand that speaking to people in natural fashion leads to long-term success. But general impatience on the platform scares people into not engaging by rushing through the process. Of course, no one pays attention to their tweets because they do not pay attention to other tweeters and tweets other than their own. The recipe is simple. Note people and they will note you. Talk to people on Twitter and they will talk to you. Take a genuine interest in people on Twitter and they will take a genuine interest in you. Twitter is like life in that it simply mirrors your mind back to you. Thanks for sharing my friend.


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