My old blog was online as frequently as Haley’s Comet blew through.
Yet none of my old school readers *ever* emailed me about it.
I was a total idiot for ignoring the problem. For sure. But something seemed fishy.
I didn’t expect much from a throng of crickets and 4.5 (one short person read my blog) sentient beings in meat suits. But a heads up would have been nice.
Then it dawned on me: American Idol was probably on. No; the thankfully more than 4.5 folks probably tolerated terrible hosting with their blogs and saw my frequent down time and “snail on pot”-type load speeds as being normal. Or natural.
Damn. Reality check. Time to upgrade my circle of friends and confidants. At least if I wanted to succeed online.
Because I’d never rock it out if my blogging circles were struggling, failing bloggers. I could learn how to fail from them. No problem. But that wasn’t my end goal. I could also master the art of tolerating horrific web hosting. But that wasn’t really my gig, either.
I love my old skool blogging buddies. Honest. But it was simply time for a split. I had to surround myself with successful, thriving bloggers who would offer honest feedback, clear, cogent advice and who would help lift me to new heights.
Note; I do love all of you berry, berry much. If you have been around my blog since day 1 please send me an email, I will fax the Vatican your candidate form for being canonized.
Why Move Up In Blogging Circles?
When you surround yourself predominantly with successful bloggers or loving, caring bloggers on the come up you will succeed more quickly.
These folks will lift you up. Versus trying to bring you down. Or having little interest in your success, because they are too busy living in survival mode.
Let’s dive into the red flags.
1: *Everybody* In Your Friend Network Worships You
One of the coolest things I have seen with Blogging From Paradise is that my blogging friends tell me to:
- write more eBooks
- step it up and post daily
- KEEP GOING!
I recall Rob Cubbon saying, after I wrote and self-published How to Retire to a Life of Island Hopping through Smart Blogging, that I deserved to write another eBook. I heeded his feedback, wrote a 2nd eBook, then freaking flipped out and wrote, and self-published 126 eBooks.
During the old, lean blogging days, all of my circle mates praised me and worshiped me, almost making me believe that I was ready to walk on water. I did appreciate their awe of what I did, deeply (during my crazy volume blog post publishing days), but nobody ever egged me on to do more, or to step it up.
Now they do. Which is one reason why you see Blogging From Paradise.
Note: *please* keep the praise coming too guys. I love you. I appreciate you. This is just a reminder that you want a few folks in your blogging friend circle to say, “You wrote 126 eBooks? When is #1000 coming out?” Not that I will write 1,000. Or 127. But it just plants a seed for possibility, expansion and increased growth when you get that type of inspired, prodding love, that we all need sometimes.
2: Blog Growth = Stagnant
My old blog ran into some serious stagnation issues. Growth seemed as aggressive as a glass of warm milk on my blog.
I wasn’t learning proven traffic building strategies from my network. Sure as hell wasn’t picking up cutting edge insights.
No way I blame my blogging circles during those days. But I’d continue to regress, and stress, and be under duress….unless….I took a permanent recess from my old school blogging contacts.
If your blog:
- email list subscribers
- social shares
seem to stall, or plummet, don’t slay yourself, or your friends. Gently own your struggles then honestly assess whether your blogging friends are capable, skilled mentors who routinely put out sizzling content that can boost your traffic and comments and social shares into the stratosphere.
If they can, awesome. Keep ’em around.
If they cannot, open your eyes. Let go relationships you have outgrown to make room for new, exciting, prospering friendships.
3: Everything You Do Blogging-Wise Feels Comfortable And Easy Peasy
I genuinely love what I do.
But sometimes I feel about as comfortable as wearing meat underwear while running through the Serengheti by a pride of lions ringing a dinner bell screaming, “Come and get it!”
I do stuff that scares me. Like when I published my first Facebook Live video a few months ago. Or when I wrote and self-published my first eBook. Or when I created my first blogging course.
You should feel pretty damn uncomfortable from time to time with this blogging bit. If you feel comfy cozy virtually all the time move up a few blogging circles to befriend folks who offer you shining examples of sprinting outside of their comfort zones.
4: Ya Ain’t Stacking That Scrilla
Pretty easy to see this one. During lean years I made mendicants look like millionaires.
I gradually noticed my friend circle was kinda in the same boat. Struggling financially. Making little or no dough through their blogs.
In order to build a full time blogging career for yourself it makes sense to surround yourself with many successful, established, full time, professional bloggers.
Learn from the best. Hang out with the best. Befriend the best.
5: When Wacky Stuff Happens To Your Blog None Of Your Tribe Alerts You
See this blog post lead in.
If your friend circle doesn’t alert you because they think it’s normal or no big deal to have a blog that loads as slowly as a tortoise after smoking 45 joints, you need to move into new, more prospering friend circles.
Or if your friend network is so busy with their own issues that they don’t take 10 seconds of their time to email you when your blog crashes, it’s time to let go the familiar to make room for the new, exciting and prospering.
Some friends may assume:
- you know of your blog crisis or….
- other readers already notified you
but if you receive no emails or social messages from your community after a big time blogging emergency, note this red flag and move into new blogging circles. You need more folks around you who are on the ball.
6: You Never Ever Ever Receive Criticism
Way back in the day nobody ever said anything bad or nasty about me or my blog.
It was like I had bribed folks never to let out a negative peep. The reality? I was so firmly ensconced in my comfort zone within familiar, quiet blogging circles I never faced the resistance you *will* face when you move up in circles. By exiting your comfort zone.
When no one knows you, no one can criticize you. Pop up on the radar a bit and a few critics will pop out of the woodwork, offering their pea-sized-brain drivel from the peanut gallery.
Watch out guys. If you never ever get a snarky comment, nasty remark or dingbatish email, you better move up in blogging circles. You should face some resistance from time to time because this means you are growing. And if you bullshit yourself into thinking you are so clear on your pure intent that you never get criticized, even the Dalai Lama has harsh critics. His Holiness ain’t ducking critics. You ain’t either, when you leave your comfort zone to work your way up in your niche.
How To Move Up In Blogging Circles
- face, embrace, feel and release deep fears around your self-worth, self-consciousness and loss
- blog predominantly for fun
- dive into your deep fears….again
- write 1000 words daily in a Word document for practice, then trash the document
- guest post on top blogs from your niche
- write 2-3 paragraph, personalized comments on top blogs from your niche
- interview top bloggers on your blog
- promote top bloggers on social media
How did you move up in blogging circles? Did it feel awkward? Uncomfortable? Do you need to move into new blogging friend circles?