The money shot!
The perfect shot!
Kelli snapped the featured image for this post a few hours ago.
Ho hum, Plain Jane, me playing Tug of War with a brute and aspiring pig dog in the dramatic South Pacific. I know. BORING!
Anyway, mistakes led Kelli and I to this life. Some believe we live the perfect life, spending 3 months in New Zealand, circling the globe for 7 years as digital nomad, pro bloggers. Not quite. We bumbled, stumbled and rumbled our way to living our dreams, until we found our energetic groove.
If you see someone who appears to live an awesome life, understand this: they likely fucked up, a few times or many times, on their journey.
But it doesn’t have to be that way for you. Learning from pro blogger’s mistakes makes your life and blogging journey easier. Wise bloggers learn what not to do from pros, avoiding big time problems, and accelerating their success.
Why Write this Post?
I like showing you that I am a human who’s mucked up but has still lived his dreams, so you can be mucking up now and still live your dreams, too. But I want you to:
- own any mistakes I made that you are definitely making right now
- feel the fear-pain behind the mistakes you are making now, to remove the charge from the error, and to move in the right direction
- share this post on your blog, via social media and with your list (if list-building is your thing) so we can spread the word on these blogging boo boo’s
Cut years from your learning curve. Save yourself years of struggle, too.
Feel free to throw rotting vegetation from the peanut gallery, if you might. Always looking for compost here in New Zealand.
1: Allowing My Outcomes To Dictate My Energy
My biggest blogging (and life) mistake far and away. I looked outside of me, at my:
- blog traffic
- blogging income
- blog comments
- blog social shares
and chose to feel a certain way – i.e. really shitty because the numbers never seemed to change – because I was result-oriented. Energetically, this is like living in the movie Groundhog Day; same shit, different day.
I literally created hell, struggle and failure because I looked at outcomes, decided I was failing, felt shitty, and moved into shitty feeling, failing actions, perpetuating my struggles for years. Emphasis on “years.”
Ya know when I say follow your passion not profits? Yeah; I say it because I want to spare you the misery, nightmares and borderline suicidal tendencies emerging from me obsessing over results with my blog.
I corrected the mistake by being these things:
- I went broke, lost everything, sat with the fear-misery-grief of losing everything, screamed and cried into pillows on multiple occasions, cleared the fear-pain of loss, and began vibing higher
- I blogged mainly for fun and stopped checking my stats
- I devoted virtually all of my energy to generously serving people
- I committed 100% to meditating on waking, and in successive years to doing yoga and taking icy cold showers, to raise my vibe on starting each day
Live and blog inside-out. Feel good now – independent or circumstances – and you will reframe life and blogging in a loving, fun, abundant way.
Blog your passion. Blog mainly for fun. The work/play feels like the reward, a good-feeling energy exudes through your being, you care little of outcomes, and patiently create and connect, creating the foundation for a profitable blogging career.
2: Going Blogging Lone Wolf
For many years I tried to manipulate success out of the Universe by:
- publishing as many posts on my blog as humanly possible
- sharing my posts on a high volume of Facebook Groups
That was it. Seriously. No networking. No promoting others.
Struggles ensued. Readers do not like selfish people. Selfish bloggers cannot help readers because selfish bloggers care only about their needs, and give little thought as to the needs of others.
- commenting genuinely on top blogs
- promoting other bloggers on my blog
- promoting other bloggers on social media
- never asking for anything in return
Doing this stuff with generous, detached energy helped me making blogging friends. My blogging friends expanded my reach, grew my traffic, increased my profits and expanded my online business.
1,000 is better than 1.
3: Using a Free Theme and Shitty Hosting
“Your blog looks like shit.” ~ Friend to me, 2013
He was right. Before Phillip Dews did his handiwork, my blog looked like shit. Free theme. No branding.
Mind you; this was my old blog. Well before Blogging From Paradise.
I resisted changing hosts – even though my blog was up and loading quickly as frequently as when Haley’s Comet blew through – and resisted buying a premium theme for months, then years. Amateur hour mistake.
Looking at my blog in the light of truth, I spied fecal tendencies. It looked like poop and loaded like a load.
I changed hosts. PD built a custom theme for my old blog. He eventually designed a bespoke Blogging From Paradise theme.
Pay up to play up guys. Crashing blogs repel readers. Cheap-looking blogs repel readers. Invest in your blog. Invest in your business. Buy your domain and hosting and grab a premium theme.
4: Not Doing Energy Work To Face My Fears
Almost to the day, this past year marked meteoric growth for me and Blogging From Paradise. Things really began to take off, big time.
I appeared to be in 45 billion places simultaneously, a blogging hybrid of The Flash, Superman and Spider Man, the perfect mix of speed, power and yep, the Blogging From Paradise web appears to be everywhere these days.
I love what I do. So I keep doing it. Meaning I do not hold back.
But I only became generous, not holding back, because I faced, embraced and released the heavy fear of loss plaguing most bloggers. I faced, felt and released this intense, terrifying but little itty bitty waves of energy in mind fear by genuinely committing to energy work.
Spending 30 to 60 minutes daily doing stuff like meditating, doing yoga, taking an icy cold shower and praying, plus exercising for 30-60 minutes daily, did 2 things for me:
- I faced, felt and released deep fears that perpetuated my struggles and failure
- I made a blanket shift, living and blogging mainly from an energy of fun-love, versus the tension-fear I used to blog from, for many years
Guys….commit 1000% to spending 30-60 minutes daily in a quiet room, managing your energy. Meditation. Yoga. Prayer. 1 activity. Or all 3. Toss in 30 minutes of exercise daily.
Blogging mistakes disappear when you find the fear fueling the mistake-creating actions. Energy work helps you feel and purge deep fears so you blog and live mainly from love and fun, where all the detachment and success is waiting for you.
You become generous, prolific, skilled and connected, all through your diligent learning, studying and practicing, all because you followed blogging fundamentals patiently and persistently, all because you felt and cleared deep fears that goad most bloggers into doing dumb, failing shit.