4 Phrases to Delete from Your Blogging Vocabulary

  August 3, 2022 blogging tips 🕑 5 minutes read

Dido and Puppy in Cappadocia, Turkey.


(Updated 8/3/2022)


Do you want to hear something weird?


Successful blogging hinges on identifying, unearthing and releasing limiting blogging beliefs. Limiters shed leads to generous, patient, persistent actions, eventually yielding stunning blogging success over the long haul.


Navigating this process seems simple but unearthing each fear fueling a limiting belief feels highly uncomfortable. The ego never wants to admit its wrong-doing because feeling like a victim seems to be one way to ensure the ego’s survival. How can you be empowered and powerless simultaneously? How can you feel unlimited and limit yourself at the same time?


For full transparency, I limited myself and still limit myself blogging-wise through some channels to this every day.


made each bullshit excuse below more than once during my blogging career. I tried all types of stuff, blamed the tactic after quitting like a fool, then, months later, learned the hard way: false-start blogging leads to years of frustration.


Owning and shedding each lie positions you to follow sound, proven blogging strategies long term, leading to greater happiness and increased blogging success.


In a way, this feels like a relief. Versus needing more, you let go more. Instead of hungrily trying to get, you let go.


Being successful requires letting go states of mind causing failure.


Think of an unwinding. Unwind fears acquired in the mind. Let go fears. Blog from your natural, abundant state.


Observe small children in action. Read the limiting beliefs below. Would a little kid ever make any one of these excuses? Little kids persistently try; they do not give up. Young ones have no identity; they are just being.  Little kids think of the moment, not in time. Wee ones make friends seamlessly; they have no fear of rejection.


Each phrase below popped up in your mind courtesy of a scared, limiting human being who placed the phrase in your mind. Usually, this process begins during early stages of your life. Today’s post is for:


  • owning
  • facing
  • feeling
  • releasing


these fears to let go the limiting beliefs. Organically, positive, inherent states of mind arise after you let go negative, artificial, acquired states of mind.


1: “I Tried That Already”


Haha; I get this one a lot. People alert me how they tried blog commenting already and it did not work. Hmmm…for how long? For 3 months? LOL! I published over 12,000 comments on Disqus alone over the past decade.


Never be so quick to give up on any proven blogging strategy. Proven tactics work; but if you choose to quit on proven tactics the strategies yield poor or no results for you.


Be all in. Commit. See proven strategies through. Let go the “I tried that already” excuse.


2: “I Am a Former/Current (Insert 9-5 Job)”


Most part time bloggers identify 100% with their 9-5 jobs. Bad idea. If you see yourself as a teacher you shall always be a teacher; you cannot outrun your self-image.


Most part time bloggers identify 100% with their 9-5 jobs. Bad idea. If you see yourself as a teacher you shall always be a teacher; you cannot outrun your self-image.Click To Tweet


If you see yourself as a blogger your blogger self-image impels you to think, feel and act as a blogger does. Plus you shed the energetic excuse-anchor of your 9-5 job pulling you away from blogging.


See yourself as a blogger. Allow that vision to grow into something special. Even though you work a 9-5 now you can and will gradually transition toward blogging full time. Make fun, freeing and uncomfortable decisions to facilitate the process.


3: “I Cannot Find Time to Blog”


Nobody finds time to blog. Bloggers choose to blog or choose to do something else. Either you make time to blog or do not make time to blog.


Hell yeah guys; blogging feels uncomfortable sometimes if you have a 9-5 job and growing family. I circle the globe; blogging while spending 40 hours in transit, changing time zones, feeling sleep-deprived and bumping around on flights feels highly uncomfortable sometimes.


I just blog.


I make time to blog.


Make time to blog. Prioritize freedom over comfort.


Surround yourself with freedom-seekers not comfort-seekers. Learn through osmosis.


Pay attention to professional blogger habits. How do pros conduct themselves? How do pros make time to blog? How do pros tick? What makes a pro a pro well before their professional blogger days.


Learn from pros who spent years blogging during their amateur hour days. Seasoned blogging leaders made time to blog by desiring freedom more than fear and comfort.


Follow their lead.


Decide to blog.


4: “I Am Not Connected”


Nor was I, 15 years ago as a beginner blogger. But I generously helped folks. I expected nothing. I asked for nothing in return. I gradually made friends. I became connected.


Never believe getting connected is some passive, luck-inspired process. Top bloggers connect with other pros through generosity, detachment and persistence.


Comment genuinely on blogs. Promote other bloggers on your blog. Promote other bloggers through social media. Get connected.


Engage in genuine blogger outreach.


Doing outreach the right way takes time and effort. No one builds a large, loyal friend network overnight. No one gets connected through a passive method. No blogger makes friends through a lucky stroke of luck.


Work to get connected.


Help bloggers. Ask for nothing in return. Expect nothing in return. Earn their trust. Make friends. Build relationships.


Build a large, loyal blogging friend network by connecting yourself to bloggers through your genuine help.


Your Turn


Do you find yourself making these excuses?


How have you let go these common blogging limiting beliefs?

  1. SharlaAnn Matyjanka says:
    at 8:27 pm

    Great post Ryan! I have been working on #2 every day for about a month or so now. Every morning and night when I do my Journaling I write out “I am a pro blogger…” It is amazing how that simple task has completely changed how I view my 9-5 and my blog.
    It just goes to show how powerful your words are.


    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 8:12 am

      Our minds SharlaAnn are gods….WE are gods, working with God, through an unlimited mind. What a gift!

  2. John Ravi says:
    at 2:25 am

    Hi Ryan,

    What a great article! I am a blogger as well, and I am so glad that you shared this article. I believe at some points I have used all of these phrases in my life. But I am so glad that I am not using them anymore. Thanks a lot for highlighting all of them and reminding me of the damage they can do to my blog and my business. I really gained a new perspective from your article, it was such a great read.

  3. Unwanted Life says:
    at 7:15 am

    I get what you’re saying with trying strategies, but sometimes the strategies you come across only really work for certain niches. What works for fashion, beauty, and lifestyle bloggers doesn’t always work for disability and mental health bloggers

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 8:10 am

      The deeper we dive into our minds we see unlimited possibilities, endless opportunities and the truth that if we get clear on our strategies, we find what works. Getting clear is the key but most blog a bit too much from ego-fear, so getting clear seems impossible.

  4. Tanish Shrivastava says:
    at 2:35 pm

    I can say with confidence that I use none of these phrases, and I’m better off for it.

  5. Donna Merrill says:
    at 3:43 pm

    Sage advice as usual Ryan.
    When I started blogging there were crickets on my blog lol. It takes time to build up relationships with other bloggers in order to achieve a healthy engagement.
    I started with blog commenting and never turned back. I find it is a great way to grow your blog readership when visiting other bloggers and commenting. Go even further and take that person’s blog onto social media and blast it out for them. The ROI on your time invested is priceless.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 4:13 pm

      The priceless nature of time invested in building relationships cannot be understated Donna. Literally, making friends who blog gives you freedom. Even though I still need to work at blogging every day, when I just stepped away for 2 hours to walk around the Atlanta suburbs with Kelli, Lisa, Tanish and you dropped comments. Plus my blogging buddies shared recent Blogging From Paradise posts on Twitter, Facebook and likely through LinkedIn, too. I get to enjoy my travels offline while my friends grow my traffic and business online. Ditto for when we sleep at night. Our blogging friends keep everything moving along quite nicely.

  6. Ashfak says:
    at 3:48 pm

    This is not a blog this is a ⛱️

    Just kidding 😂

    Well.Ryan your mind is really creative 👍

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