3 Things Struggling Bloggers Do to Guarantee Your Failure (and 3 Solutions)

June 6, 2017 50 thoughts

Stop sprinting toward blogging failure. From Bagan, Myanmar.

 

I’m gonna kick your ass today.

 

But you will love me for it.

 

Imagine the Dalai Lama meeting Gordon Ramsay. I will be somewhere in the middle.

 

I’m writing this post to move you out of Fear-Based Fantasy Land into Fun Based Reality.

 

To help you avoid running into the same fear-based, delusional struggles that most bloggers suffer from for weeks, months, years and even decades.

 

No worse feeling exists than looking at your blog after 5 year’s worth of hard, persistent work and seeing zero profits. It’s enough to drive you mad. Like a rabid animal.

 

By reading this post, owning these mistakes and following the solutions you can drive blog traffic and increase your blogging profits more quickly. And you will enjoy the ride.

 

But sometimes when you are really stuck in Fear-Based Fantasy Land you need someone to yank you back into Fun-Based Reality to wake the frick up and to stop failing today. So you can begin succeeding today.

 

Hundreds of Questions and Answers

 

I answer hundreds of questions weekly on Quora. Loving, aspiring bloggers ask me a slew of questions via my social media and email.

 

I see 3, clear, distinct, eye-popping mistakes that struggling bloggers make over and over. So eye-popping and obvious and as easy to spot as a chaste, farang priest walking into the Soi Cowboy district in Bangkok asking for some action.

 

You’re gonna spot that priest.

 

And when you get real with yourself, you’re gonna spot and own these 3 errors so you can follow the solutions.

 

Benefits of Reading and Using this Post

 

  • drive more traffic to your blog
  • increase your blogging profits
  • have more fun blogging
  • surround yourself with more blogging buddies
  • get more comments
  • live your blogging dreams

 

I love you guys. You know that. But part of growing really successful, and stepping up to play with the blogging big boys and big girls is getting a major league reality check sometimes, like a slap in the face with a wet noodle, or a bucket of ice water in the face while sitting on the North Pole (note to self; alternative to my ice showers when traveling to North Pole).

 

Own this shit guys. If you are so frustrated with your blog you could cry, own these mistakes and follow my solutions. However uncomfortable or agonizing this process feels.

 

And Here We Go….Time to Not Spare the Rod….

 

I spoke to a handful of bloggers recently who submitted a few requests to be featured on top blogs like Forbes and Entrepreneur.

 

After a few weak pitches, they were ready to give up.

 

I advised each person to write 1000 words daily for the next 2-3 years. I advised each person to aggressively promote other bloggers and comment on their blogs for the next 2-3 years.

 

I was met with some laughing emoticons, some smiles, and a general feeling of “Yeah right….like I’ll *really* do that.”

 

This actually happens quite a bit. I advise someone:

 

  • to work intelligently, persistently and energetically to practice their writing skills, to get featured on blogs that only feature folks who practice their writing skills
  • to work intelligently, persistently and energetically to practice their networking skills, by promoting the piss out of top bloggers by sharing their posts on social and by commenting on their blogs

 

and, if they are struggling, they usually disappear entirely into the ethers, all but dissolving into a fine mist, not responding ever again, or they send back a funny message basically saying, “You’re kidding me, right?”

 

No. I am not kidding you. Level up that reasoning from silly sea sponge to big time blogger: to get featured on in demand blogs, you will do things that few bloggers do. Not kidding.

 

If it is really, really hard to get featured on a top blog there is a fine reason. Most bloggers are lazy. So the few who bust their ass by practicing their writing and building their friend network by promoting others, yeah, those are the few guys who get featured.

 

Who’d a thunk it??!

 

I kid because I care. Really.

 

Time for the 3 boo boos.

 

1: Struggling Bloggers Refuse to Spend Money on Helpful Products When Asked to Spend Money

 

Struggling Blogger: “I really want to step it up to the next level more than anything with my blog Ryan but I cannot afford your course.”

 

Ryan: “All the bloggers at the next level bought premium products and services for $5 or $500 or more. Whether they used a credit card or got a part time job to make money to buy premium. Β The next level bloggers became next level bloggers by buying stuff that gave them the extra edge.”

 

Struggling blogger: “(Insert sound of crickets…..)”

 

Whip out your credit card and buy my How to Get Featured on World Famous Blog Course because I know how to get featured on the most famous blogs on earth (see below) and teach you to do so in this course.

 

Where I have been featured.

 

It is $100. But it leads to $10,000. Or $50,000. Or a career of traveling the world as a pro blogger. Can you afford to make $50,000? Or to travel the world as a full time blogger? I think you want to. I think you can break your piggy bank. I think you can whip out your credit card. I think you can get a part time job.

 

Here’s one alternative; 3 years from now, you will find yourself at wit’s end, crying yourself to sleep because your life is a nightmare, all because you feared spending 100 smackers to learn from a guy who knows what it takes to get featured on the most famous blogs in the world.

 

Take it from a guy who lived a blogging nightmare like this for 4 years. Making the same damn mistakes. Same damn struggles.

 

Buy the course. Follow the advice. Get featured on famous blogs. Turn around and write a similar post 1-2 or 3 years from now.

 

The Solution

 

Buy premium courses from pros who know how to end your struggles.

 

When the objections like:

 

  • I don’t have the money
  • I cannot afford it
  • I cannot buy it because I will not use it, because I am lazy or overwhelmed or I will put it off until next week/month/year/lifetime/future life

 

Say, out loud, to your: “Fuck You, ego. You want to keep me broke and struggling, because it is comfortable, but it’s miserable too. Eff You. Eff You. Eff You.”

 

Then type your credit card number into Selz or Teachable or Amazon or Paypal, and buy the product or eBook or service which feels FUN, and empowering and freeing, and exciting, and life-affirming….almost like you’re living a new blogging life, a breath of fresh air on the ocean, a new chance, a new opportunity, like you are a fresh newborn blogging babe in the woods.

 

Begin using the product or ebook immediately. Β Treat it like, if you don’t use it on Day 1, it will catch fire and burn down your house. Because purchased knowledge not acquired and used is as worthless as knowledge you were completely ignorant of.

 

2: Struggling Bloggers Refuse to Practice Writing Every Single Day

 

I love you so much, I could kiss you (cheeks, European style).

 

Which is why I will write these words…..

 

You do not need to be Rhodes Scholar, rocket scientist or brain surgeon to understand that practicing your writing skills will make you a better blogger.

 

Why then do struggling bloggers forfeit the blessing of logic, rational thought and intelligence to assume the logic of a sea cucumber when they bandy about this concept?

 

Bloggers Who Make a Lot of Money and Get a Ton of Traffic and Get Featured on Top Blogs Practice Writing 500 or 1000 Words or More Every Single Day for Years (1-2-5 Years or More) to Make a Lot of Money and to Get Traffic and to Get Featured on Top Blogs

 

Do you know why it is hard to get featured on top blogs? Most bloggers are lazy. Others are utterly bitch-slapped by their fears. So they don’t practice writing every day, for years. And they get ignored.

 

To get into an exclusive club you must needs practice a skill that makes you appealing to that club. I did not email Positive Positively 50 times and say, “Hey, I have a great story. I once thought of offing myself and now I am a best selling Amazon author, island hopper and pro blogger!” I wrote my ass off for years and generously promoted Pos Pos Writers and generously commented on Pos Pos posts, building nurturing friendships, which opened doors for me.

 

I received the privilege of having my guest post emailed to 80,000 plus Pos Post email subscribers and shared with 2.5 million Pos Pos fans on Facebook by diligently developing a writing skill daily and by promoting and assisting Pos Pos over years.

 

Focus on the *practice* over the *pitch*.

 

The Solution

 

  • open a Word document every day you breathe
  • write 1000 words in the Word document….could be about your niche, or whether or not you like chocolate sprinkles on your ice cream, or why corn is an oft-used complement in certain medley dishes (really….why?)
  • trash the document once you hit the 1K word count to detach from your writing

 

3: Struggling Bloggers Refuse to Meet New People and Strengthen Established Friendships Every Single Day

 

“The richest people in the world look for and build networks; everyone else looks for work.” ~ Robert Kiyosaki

 

I spent last night in a hot tub with a guy.

 

We are both secure in our masculinity.

 

Anyway, the jacuzzi owner is a prominent, successful podiatrist in New Jersey. Β He is also one of my best friends on earth.

 

We both talked about pretty much all the success we’ve had flowed to us through friends. And how we made those friends by helping folks for free, or by schmoozing them by reaching into our wallets, and how these friends referred their patients aka readers aka customers to us, who we rendered service to (fixing tootsies or writing posts for or coaching or selling eBooks or courses to), and THAT is how we became successful.

 

The rice fields in Kelabang Moding, Bali.

 

When I advise struggling bloggers to aggressively promote *other* bloggers for the next 6 months to 2 years I can vividly see their heads exploding. Most of them at least.

 

It feels scary to reach out and promote others and to befriend top bloggers at first, but if you don’t promote others, assist others and generously help other folks, cyber-schmoozing, loving, assisting and caring for new and old buddies, you will be looking for a job. Β You will need to look for work. Robert Kiyosaki knows.

 

The Solution

 

  • Retweet top bloggers from your niche
  • G Plus Share top bloggers from your niche
  • LinkedIn Share top bloggers from your niche
  • Facebook Share top bloggers from your niche
  • interview them for your blog
  • feature them on your blog
  • comment on their blogs

 

When 10, then 100, then 2000 blogging friends return the kind acts, promoting your work and commenting on your blog and hiring you and buying your eBooks and referring you (like a medical referral) to their networks, your struggles end.

 

Your traffic and profits spike.

 

Comments spike. You get featured on famous blogs. You live your blogging dreams. All because you looked for and built your friend network by generously featuring and promoting and assisting top bloggers in your niche.

 

Your Turn

 

Are you making these mistakes?

 

How are you correcting these mistakes?

 

Resources for Struggling Bloggers

 

I hand picked a few of my eBooks and audio books for you to purchase and use to dissolve your blogging struggles. Buy and enjoy:

 


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Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who's been featured on Richard Branson's Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog with the 11 Fundamentals of Successful Blogging Audio Course.
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50 Comments

  1. Sounds awesome Mukta. Way cool. I am happy you hopped on the writing bandwagon πŸ™‚

  2. Mukta Sachidanand Says:

    Hi Ryan,
    I got it today. I need to practice daily to become a blogger.Not a difficult thing to do. However I thought I should choose a serious topic and start writing seriously. That always got postponed and never started. Formal thinking comes in the way. Now I understand, to start writing on any topic that comes to mind first. Definitely you have left a thought! I am started already.

    Thanks to you,
    Mukta

  3. Thanks PK!

    Ryan

  4. Really great Ryan, thanks for listing out most of the failures. Bloggers have got to learn from this.

  5. My fave thing to do William, writing daily πŸ™‚ Thanks much!

    Ryan

  6. William Says:

    I think you are absolutely right about practising writing skills every day. I’ve been tried but sometimes still lazy day after day. I’m gonna be enthusiastic whenever I recall this constructive article of yours. Thank you for that

  7. Thanks Bhavna πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  8. Thanks Ryan for sharing this article, keep sharing more.
    love your articles.

  9. Sherman that is really neat; I betcha this writing style gets the creative juices flowing big-time. Like doing something in reverse. Fires up brain cells a bit. Thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  10. Yes Ryan, I’m making one of these mistakes πŸ™ … I haven’t been writing every single day, but as of lately I’ve been hand writing. I’m right handed, but I’ve been practicing with my left hand which I’ve read will help bring about your creative juices.

    Besides that, everything you said is on point. Especially with number 3. I’m an introvert, but I still push myself to network with other bloggers and I have to say I’ve attracted a lot of opportunities! You definitely can’t sleep on this!

    Thanks for the share Ryan!

  11. Nishant, all dead on. Thanks bro πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  12. Nishant Says:

    Hey, Ryan. Great Article. I should admit that it take the time to build an empire of our own. Investing in oneself is the best investment we can make. Writing continuously is one area where I need to improve. Ofcourse I believe that constantly interacting with pros in our niche will help build the relationship and one day if our service is adding value to the audience we may even land on great Magazines.

  13. Hahaha good point on your friend network Diana πŸ˜‰ It does help to have established bloggers sharing your content. Thanks for shouting out my commenting eBook and for the rocking comment!

    Ryan

  14. Good old SOS Camilla, which is SOS for a good reason LOL. Great add!

    Ryan

  15. Diana Says:

    Hey Ryan,

    Once again, thanks for an awesome post. Thanks for the kick in the ass as well. It’s true that if we want to make the transition from lazy blogger to pro, we need to fix these top 3 mistakes.

    I’m ashamed to admit I’m part of the lazy blogger group. But I’m working on it! I swear!

    I went from creating 1-3 blog posts a month to creating 3-5 blog posts a week. Right now I’m working on keeping it steady at 5 blog posts a week and then 1 a day.

    Investing in myself is another thing I’m working on. It’s like wanting to learn how to play the guitar. Only practice and guitar lessons from a pro are going to make me a rockstar; not watching Gun N’ Roses videos on YouTube.

    As for the last mistake, that’s one I fixed a long time ago thanks to your eBook on blog commenting. I absolutely don’t mind promoting other bloggers, it’s awesome that we help each other grow. It’s all about your network and like you said, I’d rather have fellow bloggers share my content than a 13 year old that plays Call of Duty all day.

    Cheers,
    Diana- MyMillionaireQuest.com Owner

  16. Camilla Hallstrom Says:

    Wonderful article, Ryan! These points are spot on. Especially the first one πŸ˜€ It seems to me (based on discussions with non-blogging/non-entrepreneurial friends) that online courses still have a bad rap. Which is such a pity because everything changed for me when I bought a premium course. Oh, and I’d like to add one more item to the list — shiny object syndrome πŸ˜‰ jumping from one thing to the other is definitely something that’s keeping people back. But, again, the right information product can help with that.

  17. Definitely gotta invest to earn that chedda Angela πŸ˜‰ Thanks for reading.

    Ryan

  18. Great point that you have to invest in your talents. There are so many “gurus” out there that claim to have conquered this that and the other though that it often becomes a challenge to know who is the proper authority on the topic. I mean if you follow the person on facebook for example we may be under the impression the person knows what they are talking about because they post often. That won’t always be the case. I will have to remind myself to research before I buy the first course/book that comes along.

  19. Thanks Aniket πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  20. Aniket Says:

    Great post Ryan.These are very little things but can cost you a good career if not followed properly.

  21. Good deal on practicing 1K words daily Susan. Between that and your lengthy blog comments you are North of 2-3 K words daily, easy.

    Ryan

  22. Susan Velez Says:

    Hi Ryan,

    Great tips that I know will help anyone who takes action on the advice you give.

    Totally agree with you about buying products from successful people who can teach you something. I don’t mind investing in my blog business, because I know that I don’t want it to take me forever to learn things on my own.

    Like you said, it’s important to take action on the product you purchase. After all, we know that just buying something isn’t going to change anything. You have to actually take the action you provide. Yes, it’s going to take a lot of hard consistent work. But then we can’t expect something to happen without any effort on our part.

    I know that you’re the person to turn to I’m ready to put my guest posting onto overdrive. I’ve been writing 1,000 words everyday because I know that I need to improve my writing.

    Every time I read your posts, I learn something from you. Thanks for sharing these tips, now I need to get back to work.

    Have a great day πŸ™‚

    Susan

  23. Making things is everything Prosper. Do that and you will always have traffic. Thanks bro!

    Ryan

  24. Abdullah that is it bro. Investing in your career, money-wise, makes your career grow. Thanks much!

    Ryan

  25. Sure Dan thank you πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  26. Dan Says:

    Thanks for the inspiration … I’ll do my best to update it to my situation!

  27. This is the worst case for new bloggers and they are thinking that all can be done without spending anything. But for me in order to get some thing then you have to give something like buying courses, writing posts, etc.
    I too had the habit of getting everything as freebies like downloading nulled themes etc.
    But soon changed my habit, now i am earning because of my worth investments.
    You gave the right point. Thanks Ryan
    Peace \/

  28. Prosper Noah Says:

    Hy @Ryan! You made my day, I got referred from a blog I can’t remember but I do remember you made a post similar to struggles there.

    I must say you are doing a great Job right here.

    I would keep checking on for new tips.

    Especially the #3. I’ve come to realize that building relationship with other bloggers is one of the best ways to end this struggles.

    Thanks for sharing once again.

  29. Thanks John πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  30. John Sheehy Says:

    Great post. You are an inspiration in many ways.

  31. Me too Kalpana πŸ˜‰ Keep at it my friend; tides turn when you stick to the basics. Thanks much πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  32. Simple outreach, right Cori? Dive into your fears, reach out and amazing things will happen. Thanks!

    Ryan

  33. Go for it Prerna πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  34. Prerna Says:

    Initially I have writing long posts then turned to brief ones bcos of time shortage but now going back to long posts since they truly make huge difference. Thank you for these tips.

  35. Cori Ramos Says:

    Great post Ryan,

    Yep, I made these mistakes myself. πŸ™‚

    I have to admit I held on to as many freebies as I could but I knew eventually I had to upgrade.

    I agree with your second bullet. That’s how I improved my writing skills because when I started blogging I had to deactivate the robotic/professional tone I had when I worked in corporate America. I still practice daily. πŸ™‚

    I get star struck with top bloggers like you. I just had a moment with Ana Hoffman, too. It was crazy! I just feel like I’m not worthy.

    I’m going to follow the suggestions you shared to connect with them. And the proof is in the puddin’ – how I took that leap to engage with you and you engaged back. πŸ™‚

    Thanks for the great tips! You know I’m passing this one along. πŸ™‚

    Cori

  36. Kalpana Says:

    Hi ryan,

    Bloggers struggling don’r realise their behaviour like me. Yes I too explode in many cases like you mentioned. But its not because of the external factors but beacause of the internal frustration caused due to their struggle in blogging.

  37. LOL Chris πŸ˜‰ You are getting more noticed every day, because you are just getting out there. Be visible, and wow will most of our struggles vanish. Thanks for the rocking comment and enjoy NC.

    Ryan

  38. We definitely want to keep writing Shantanu every day to rock it out. Like all those awesome comments you post on Blogging Tips πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  39. Hello Ryan,

    Good One Brother πŸ™‚

    These points are seriously the cure for the bloggers who are constantly failing to
    write their blogs up to the mark. They are failed to provide what actually their
    customers want. This may be because there is lack of writing practices, which they
    often do. Indeed people like to visit a blog who has a well content and the topic they
    are talking about should be written in the perfect manner.
    I wonder how much of hard work you might have done for the position you are right now.
    Indeed their is no shortcut for money, hard work, focus it should be so rigid while we
    are moving upwards to achieve our target.

    Thanks for the share πŸ™‚
    Shantanu

  40. Well done Michael!

    Ryan

  41. Oh and ive been writing 1000 words a day. I started at 500. Yesterday I hit 2400. It just kept on flowing. πŸ™‚

  42. Hi Ryan.

    Well, you did it again. Great tips.

    Have a good one…….Chris

    Gotcha!! Lol

    Seriously, I haven’t yet, but I am about to start practicing my writing, as you have suggested on more than one occasion. I want to get through my ebook first. Like you’ve said, writing is like anything else, practice makes perfect. I remember as a child, practicing the flute every day up until I hit high school. Once there, I mostly practiced during band class and won numerous awards in my 4 years there. All because I practiced my skill daily. So, bloggers, practice your writing and then practice some more.

    Many people think that they can go it alone and succeed. History has proven that that isn’t usually the case. I came into the blogging game not knowing anything, not even what a blog was, like yourself. I learned some things through blog posts, but learned a hell of a lot more when I purchased ebooks or had a mentor, which touched upon blogging. So, get out there and pay for the shortening of the learning curve to be a successful blogger, guys and gals.

    I don’t spend as much as I probably should on ebooks and courses related to blogging. But I have read the ones I do own.

    I’ve begun to spread my blogging wings by visiting more of the top blogs. Still many more to hit. I’ve made a few friends already because I’ve become a regular visitor and have commented many times. This had led to getting mentioned in an article on a national blog, for those of you who don’t know me. Right Ryan? πŸ˜‰

    As you say Ryan, get out there and get yourself noticed by the best in the world, it can only help you.

    I really should start featuring top bloggers on mine and interview some also. Baby steps.

    Thanks for this post, Ryan.

    Have a good one in paradise………Chris

  43. Hey Ryan,

    Great post I love the tough love. Been reading and listening to you and now have 4 ebooks for sale on amazon! 5 and 6 already have covers and are almost done. Then 7 and 8 are up. Then 99 and 100! Thanks to your stuff… how to write an ebook in 24 hours and the book how to write and publish ebooks. You da man!!

  44. Donna that is positively to key to turn this around. Get inside your head. Clear out that trash. Then you see all those top bloggers – like you have – are folks like us. Human beings. Awesome comment πŸ˜‰ Thanks as always.

    Ryan

  45. Kelli has said both Sue LOL. Thanks much πŸ™‚

    Ryan

  46. Hi Ryan,

    Everything here is oh so true! One of the biggest mistakes I made when I first started blogging was feeding into my insecurity of not going to top notch bloggers. Oh those voices in the head! But through tons of self-talk I reached out and found they were just people like me. We shared the same passions and they even asked “me” how to do stuff on social media. Can you beat that?

    I do think the most important thing a new blogger can do is to reach out ….read the blog post of someone and leave a great comment. Commenting has brought me tons of traffic over the years.

    A new blogger has to work inside his/her head first and turn those negative thoughts into positive ones. And just as important, they have to know they are in this to win it. That takes patience and consistency.

    Awesome article!

    -Donna

  47. Sue Says:

    Ryan your energy is contagious or possibly exhausting. Just kidding. You have the formula dialed and you are doing it! Writing consistently is something I could definitely work on. You always leave me with lots to reflect on. Agreed if you really want to make money there is no easy magic wand.
    Sue

  48. Zaira you rock! You are doing it. From working part time to pay for premium courses to blog commenting, to posting inspired posts on your blog, you are killing it. In a good way LOL. Love back atcha and hey, have a fabulous week. Thanks a bunch!

    Ryan

  49. zaira Says:

    Hey Ryan!

    Looooovvvvveeee this post! Your absolute in what your saying. Alot of people don’t want to hear about the effort the real time. We live in a world where most want instant gratification for little effort.

    Pushing yourself to these heights sets you apart well and truly.

    Thank you again for such amazing work.

    PS I’m starting to build by “Ryan biddulph” library in my kindle app. And yes I am getting part time work to pay for pros like yourself to teach me!!! Started on this mission from one of your fantastic ebooks.

    Love to you & kelli

    Zaira

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