Boobies brought me here.
I ain’t gonna lie.
I scanned Instagram a few minutes ago.
A bevy of busty beauties graced my Stories tab. Ripped women. Pretty women. Airbrushed women. Real women.
Yes; real women. I said it.
Beneath the makeup, airbrushing and yes, in some cases, silicone, these are human beings who largely devote their lives to staying in shape through a brutal fitness regimen, by dieting, and by being keenly aware of building a brand based on the Western concept of beauty.
Some of these women have millions of followers on Instagram. Being a human being, I caught myself making a snap judgment;
D Cup + Pretty Smile + Low Body Fat = 1 million followers.
Which is pure horse crap. At least in most cases.
For these lovely ladies to attract millions of followers, most of them had to devote their lives to modeling, or fitness. Meaning they diet, exercise and their day pretty much revolves around being a successful model, or, a successful Instagram model.
Yep, they look a certain way. But so do a fair number of women. These rocking ladies attracted millions of followers and became Instagram Successful and tend to make some decent coin and leverage their fame by devoting much of their lives to being who they are today.
Once or twice or 434,247,098 times during my blogging career, people told me I am lucky. Folks ooohh and ahhh at my globe-trotting ways.
Some swoon over my writing.
Others threaten to position me under a murder hole, prepping the boiling oil for a Game of Thrones worthy demise.
1 out of 10 people looks at the life I live and gets it: I live this life because I faced more terrors than most bloggers. I live this life because I nutted up and faced, embraced, felt and released my fears.
I didn’t work hard. Nope. I took it up 45 notches. I played. I had fun. I generously served, with love. Which was a helluva lot more difficult at first, because the heavy fear-driven part of me guaranteed that I’d lose all of my money, as I had many years ago when I went $70,000 in debt and had 4 cents in my pocket and, according to Kelli, after she returned from a trip and saw me with a shaved head, I looked like a cancer patient for all the weight I lost, living off of shitty 25 cent heat peanuts for weeks (Sorry Planters; nutritional fare…..for a squirrel).
Oh wait a sec! I guess I was unlucky when the creditor called endlessly, threatening me with prison time as my debt rose to about $70,000. Yeah; bad luck.
Ditto on the 4 cents. I got unlucky.
But then a little, magical, benevolent blogging fairy alighted on my shoulder, sprinkled blogging fairy dust on my life and….voila! Traffic. Profits. Features on world famous blogs (if you really really really want to get featured on top blogs guys, learn more about my helpful course by clicking that link…it’ll make the World Famous Feature Fairy sprinkle dust on your dome). Money. A life of freedom.
Get the frack out of here.
One bizarre, almost insane element of the limited, faulty, error-prone, but cute human mind is to assume successful bloggers, the ones living their dreams, never had to face adversity, or hardship, or, were lucky, or, had things come to them easily, or, were gifted, when the exact opposite is true.
If you look at a successful blogger with envy, understand this: these individuals traveled light years ahead of most other bloggers by making freeing, and sometimes fun, and sometimes, highly uncomfortable decisions.
These are 13 things you may not know about successful bloggers.
1: Successful Bloggers Are Not Lucky
Luck does not exist.
Following your passion, being a student of blogging, honing your blogging skills through practicing, doing things from an energy of love and following these steps for years, brings success.
2: This Crowd Feared the Stuff You Are Terrified to Do
If you fear doing something blogging-wise right now, successful bloggers almost always had that same exact fear. Maybe even more acutely.
Don’t believe you have the market on blogging fears cornered. Tens of thousands of successful bloggers have been there, Bucko.
3: This Crowd Feared Stuff They Were Terrified to Do – Just Like You May Be – But Did it Anyway
I am no Blogging Terminator. Although I wish I were. Not solely to obliterate bots with my cyborg skills.
I used to be really scared to write and publish guest posts. Terrified. I recall re-reading my first guestie 20 times, because I feared it would be rejected. But I wrote and published my first guest post.
Because I made that choice – feeling the fear and doing it anyway – I have now written and published over 1000 guest posts.
Successful bloggers feel the same fears all other bloggers do, when new to certain habits/tasks/activities. They just feel the fear, and do it anyway.
If someone succeeds, they are being a different person than you.
They did stuff you are terrified to do.
I wrote 5 guest posts today. Because I am being the guy who follows his passion and fears not burning out. Why would I burn out? I love writing. So I write. No harm there.
If you struggle, study successes. Learn how they keep going when having fun. If you have fun writing, don’t give into fear. Keep writing. Publish 2 guest posts today. Fear getting rejected? Welcome to being successful. Successes don’t turn around when they fear. They move in the fearful direction and dissolve these lower energies.
4: Successful Bloggers Work Intelligently
Successful bloggers work from their heart, which leads them to their noodle, in most cases.
I ask myself: “What do I have fun doing?”
Then I think, “Writing.”
Being possibly as intelligent as a sea sponge with poor reading habits, I think: “I will write a handful of guest posts and effective, in-depth blog comments today.”
Luck did not squeeze into this process. Nor did The Blogging Fairy sprinkle writing dust on my dome.
I followed my passion. I thought intelligently. I acted intelligently.
Rocking bloggers think through their campaign to have fun and serve readers. Intelligent blogging.
5: Top Bloggers Are Generous
One of the most ass-backward things that struggling, poor, mentally ill people do is blame successful people for being greedy, or heartless, because they make steady money, when in reality, these successful people have given years of their lives, to service, to being generous and to thinking about others before themselves.
The reverse is opposite; successful, prospering bloggers are insanely generous, while broke, struggling bloggers think inwardly, being some of the greediest bastards on the face of the earth.
Successful Blogger = Jedi.
Failing Blogger = Sith (without the cool powers, which makes them a powerless Sith, which is pretty bad, and will probably get them expelled from the Sith order, eventually, if the Sith leader, whether the incarnation of Darth Plagueis the Wise, or Emperor Palpatine, is running a freaking tight Sith ship, as they should be, right?)
If you want to become a hyper successful blogger, be super duper generous and help a shitload of folks, both for free and for pay. Because by helping folks, you cultivate a sense of detachment about your work, and that same detached energy inspires people to buy your stuff or hire you, when you open income streams.
6: Top Bloggers Probably Faced Worse Nightmares than You Did
You have faced some whoppers in your time. Being human and all.
For whatever reason, successes seem to face even stiffer resistance than the rest of us.
Here’s why: these folks clear the deep, horrifying, intense, almost seemingly unbearable terrors that most bloggers duck, so they are more fearless in more areas of their life, especially with blogging.
Most bloggers fear writing more than 1 post daily (for guest posts). They don’t want to push it.
This is the 6th post I’ve written today. In addition to creating 4 live videos; 2 on Facebook, 1 YouTube, 1 Periscope.
Because I have been through some real shit in my life, I cleared out fears associated with those very intense, unpleasant situations, so since those fears are gone, I am fairly fearless in at least a few areas of my life. Especially in most areas blogging.
7: Successful Bloggers Gave Much of their Life to Blogging While Working their Way Up
I love what I do.
I also spend 8-12 hours a day – or more – blogging.
I devote much of my life to blogging. Which is why blogging is so good to me.
Never ever ever believe folks who claim blogging success comes easy. Especially those digital nomads who claim to make money all day long while sipping drinks by the pool.
It gets easier, no doubt, but don’t believe you can get something for nothing.
Gotta devote much of your life to blogging, to succeed with blogging, because where your attention and energy goes, grows.
8: Rocking Bloggers Are Usually Born with a Failure/Fear/Poverty Consciousness
Most of the successful bloggers I know were born into and grew up in families where fear-failure was the prime driver.
Example; you were probably told by most humans around you to get a good job to pay the bills. Meaning, devote your life to surviving, not following your passion.
Rocking bloggers had to own, embrace and purge these fear-based beliefs to operate from an energy of love and fun, to move out of Survival Mode, to live in Freedom Mode.
9: Rocking Bloggers Usually Need to Develop a Success/Love/Prosperity Consciousness through Diligent Energy Management
The shift from Survival Mode to Freedom Mode does not occur in 5 minutes. Nor 5 days.
Try 5 years…or, a lifetime.
I regularly come across limiting beliefs. And shit; you see who I am being. The guy who creates 3 or 6 guest posts on some days, blog commenting, 126 eBooks.
Successes do highly uncomfortable things to purge their fears, so they can operate from love and fun.
This process is as uncomfortable as receiving a fire ant enema at times…..but…….it’s your energetic tuition to pay, my little blogging sweet robbins.
Suggestion: spend the first 30 to 60 minutes daily meditating, doing yoga, in prayer, or engaging in some other form of energy management.
10: Successful Bloggers Were Quick to Invest Money in Their Business Before they Had Much Money At All
I get a hearty chuckle out of this one. Most bloggers believe successes always had a Scrooge McDuck style pile of dubloons to draw upon for their blogging investments.
Established pro bloggers usually invest money in their business when they have little money.
This is called clarity. Or, confidence.
Step it up 5 levels. Spend money at least on a domain and excellent hosting. Even if you have little dough.
Blogging Big Dawgs usually had to do the same thing to become successful.
11: Successful Bloggers Had the Same Successful Attitude That they Have Today Even When they Appeared to Be Struggling (Success Lags)
I recall folks believing I was some blogging god when appearances suggested otherwise.
People think it is easy for successes to be successful because said successes have evidence of their success in front of their very peepers.
But it was not always this way. Rocking bloggers had to be rocking bloggers with little money in their pockets, little traffic, few comments and little business.
Rocking bloggers paid the online tuition few want to pay:
the “I will be a successful blogger and create helpful content prolifically and promote other bloggers generously because I love doing so even if nothing appears to be happening” tuition.
I recall seeing three, 7-figure bloggers and one 8-figure blogger speak in August at a live event. All of them specifically noted how they worked like a happy millionaire for 8 months to a year, some writing 3 rich, helpful blog posts daily, building bonds with other bloggers, and they didn’t make a cent during this stretch.
Imagine doing all that helpful stuff, as successes do, and not seeing a cent? This is called being a successful blogger, and not giving a rat’s fanny about outcomes, because successes leave Survival Mode (aka Holy Shit Where’s My Stuff I Worked So Hard Aahhhh, Panic!!!) and enter into Freedom Mode (Freedom from outcomes, serving for generosity’s sake primarily).
12: The Most Heartfelt Successful Bloggers Know Exactly How You Feel if You Are Struggling or Failing
I recall seeing a beggar on the streets of India a while back.
I felt compassion for the individual. I smiled at them.
I looked in their tin cup. Did a currency conversion.
Turns out, they had much more money than I had, during a few week stretch in my life, many years ago.
I had 4 cents to my name and was tens of thousands of dollars in debt many years ago. For weeks. I stopped eating. For a while. Because I was ashamed to ask family members for money, for food.
Some bloggers may feel I am out of touch. This is more ego-based puking. Because I know your pain, if you are struggling. I feel compassion, if you suffer heartache.
Even though I left that being behind, I know what it feels like.
Most successes know exactly how you feel, if you are struggling. Remember this.
13: Successful Bloggers Let Go the Heavy Mental Baggage that You May Be Clinging to
If you are struggling right now, you are holding onto fear.
It is that simple.
But letting go the fear is highly uncomfortable. Because you have to feel it.
Successful bloggers felt – however unpleasant – and embraced and hugged and let go these fears, to let go the mental baggage, to become the beings, the energetic dynamos, that they are today.
I recall having lunch with Zac Johnson a few years ago in New Jersey, when I was back home. He noted writing 14 guest posts weekly for various blogs. I was floored. I figured in my mind “That is impossible.”
Since then I have written 14 helpful, in-depth, thorough, inspired guest posts in 2 days. No joke.
My being has changed because I felt and let go a few of my horse shit limiting beliefs, or mental baggage, since we had lunch a few years ago, like:
- you are not good enough to do that
- you are not creative enough to do that
- it will be a waste of time to write that much anyway, since nobody will visit your blog
- don’t even bother
- what are you going to get out of all that work?
…and I released a few more pukey limiters too.
Saying the words is one thing. But when you feel the fear and pain behind the words, this is when most people enter pussification mode. They cower. They turn tail, versus crying. They bitch out, versus punching a pillow. They bail, versus feeling super duper terrible for a few seconds or minutes.
But the pros do it.
Successes let go mental baggage to become the dynamic, inspired beings you see today.
So…..do you have any of these to own?
As a rocking, successful blogger, how did you release these assumptions?
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