11 Poisonous Blogging Stories To Release Immediately

August 22, 2017
Savusavu, Fiji.

 

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5 minutes ago.

 

6 years ago this would not have been possible.

 

Because I had 7 or more bullshit stories I clung to regarding writing and self-publishing and selling eBooks.

 

But I 8 ate up those limiting beliefs and puked them out. I consumed the doo-doo sandwich. Parasites and all. By feeling and releasing the loser-esque, fear-based, BS feelings that fueled the crappy stories that fed my limiting beliefs.

 

Releasing the poisonous, totally untrue stories I told myself about:

 

  • blogging
  • business
  • creating courses, eBooks, audio books, services
  • hell….*everything* online related to blogging

 

preceded my tidal surge of success, boatloads of happiness and any other maritime based joy I have experienced through smart, energized, effective blogging.

 

Look at the happy, compassionate, entertaining, sometimes annoying because he is so cheery, helpful dude you see today at Blogging From Paradise and in 34,987,960 spots in the blogging tips niche. Ya ain’t seeing my mug all over the place unless I identified, felt and released these poisonous blogging stories I had been telling myself.

 

Are you totally stoked to build a rocking blog? If so, the negative stories that you may be telling yourself gotta go. Like blogging hemlock, these completely untrue, silly, dingbatish tales were acquired from other fearful folks. You can release the stories at any time to blog from an inspired, fun, loving, generous and profitable space….

 

….and you *will* need to own, face, embrace and release these stories to become a rocking blogger.

 

1: I Gotta Get Around To That

 

How many times have you told yourself the story, “I gotta get around to that”, when chatting about your blog?

 

Today. Tomorrow. 3 months from now. Next year.

 

Without exception, the bloggers who struggle the most are always putting off what they should do immediately.

 

Tell yourself a new story: “even though I fear committing to some venture because I fear criticism or failure, I will allow my love of having fun overpower my fear of commitment.”

 

Then, immediately dive into what you have been putting off. Like, 30 seconds after reading this post. I am not kidding. Only the present exists.

 

2: I Have No Connections

 

I get emails from bloggers who desperately beg me to introduce them to the right person so they can get featured on top blogs.

 

This is a particularly insidious story to tell yourself because it makes you see yourself to be as capable and sturdy as a blubbering, shaking bowl of Jell-o.

 


 

You don’t get connected. This is not a passive process. This is an active process. You build connections by generously serving other bloggers.

 

I connected myself enough to appear on world famous sites like Virgin, Forbes, Entrepreneur and Fox News by:

 

  • publishing 2-4 paragraph comments on top blogs
  • promoting top bloggers on social media
  • featuring top bloggers on my blog

 

Help blogging big dawgs. Top bloggers will help you. Friendships made. You get connected.

 

PS….you earn connections by paying your networking dues. Impatient networkers run cyber diaries masquerading as blogs. Patient networks become super connected by helping successful bloggers persistently.

 

3: I Have No Blog Post Ideas

 

Writer’s block can cripple your blogging campaign.

 

Telling yourself the common, misleading story that you have no blog post ideas is like a guppy bitching and moaning about not having enough water at the deepest point of the Mariana Trench.

 

Complaining about not having blog post ideas is like me whining about not having enough food options here in New York City. I can trip over a freaking curb and stumble into a restaurant serving the finest fare from Papua New Guinea.

 

Open your eyes. Look around your blogging niche. Become a cyber lounge lizard on top blogs in your niche. Observe reader problems thru comments and topics covered. Create solutions through your blog posts.

 

4: I Am Not Talented And Charismatic And A Natural And Incredibly Handsome Like Ryan So I Cannot Do That

 

Unless you’re willing to go the plastic surgery route you will have a tough time getting the lantern jaw down cold.

 

But you can be a talented, charismatic, natural, glowingly attractive, energized blogger….by telling yourself the story that it will take years of practice to become skilled enough to wow the cyber pants off of readers.

 

Talent finds people who blog for fun. So the work becomes the reward. And all else – worldly success – feels like extra, or a bonus…..and you will practice like heck because you love what you do, blogging-wise, and that diligent practice makes you really good at what you do. Being really good at what you do forces people to notice you and to see you as a blogging big dawg.

 

5: I Am Not Lucky Like So And So Successful Blogger

 

I played this game.

 

For years.

 

I told myself a dingbatish story; I failed because I was not lucky like so and so successful blogger.

 

Then I dug deeper and recognized that, like Obi Wan Kenobe said, in my experience there is no such thing as luck. You live in a Universe of energy. Not cosmic chance.

 

Many bloggers who you feel are SSOOOO lucky now once had no money, lost everything, dealt with depression and struggled terribly. Leave this story behind. Stop handcuffing yourself. Follow your fun. Work intelligently. Rock it out.

 

6: My Blogging Business Is Non Existent So I Am Not A Busy Blogger

 

This one killed me.

 

I would dick around for hours, ducking on doing business-building stuff because I was not selling stuff, nor did I have a big client base, and freelance work slowed down too.

 

Because I had the brain matter of a punch drunk jellyfish during those days I couldn’t see the loony story I was telling myself: because business was slow, I was not a busy blogger.

 

I turned things around by realizing that things would get busy, business-wise, when I got stupid busy practicing my blogging skills, creating value, making connections, and laying the foundation for growing a sustainable, successful blogging business.

 

If you have not made much money through your blog get damn busy having fun, creating helpful content, making friends by helping fellow bloggers and following the 11 fundamentals of successful blogging to build a rocking blog on a granite like foundation.

 

7: Nobody Has Bought My Products Until Now So They Will Never Buy My Products

 

Treat your BS product selling story like the prospectus for a financial report: past results do not guarantee future performance.

 

JK Rowling had her Harry Potter script rejected many times before she found a publisher who backed the idea. Imagine if she based her path on prior results, versus having clarity and faith in her creation?

 

Nobody thought the Harry Potter book series was a good idea. Until 1 person did. Then this idea eventually made her a billionaire and the world’s richest author.

 

Move your attention from past results to current service. Get busy helping folks for free. Then they will pay you for your premium offerings.

 

Change the story from past failure to current day servant.

 

8: Sea Salt Shoulder Tossing for Successful Blogging Is A Scam

 

Tell yourself the 180. Lower your blood pressure in the process.

 

9: I’m A Nobody From Nowhere

 

This story plagued me for a minute.

 

No entrepreneurs were spotted in the Biddulph Clan. I was a security officer pre-blogging. An alleged nobody from nowhere.

 

I changed my story. I was a limitless being, a spirit, masquerading in a chiseled meat suit.

 

Don’t let your past define you. You are limitless. Tell that story to yourself.

 

10: If I Get This 1 Strategy Or Tactic Or Hack Down Cold I Will Become Wildly Successful Quickly

 

Stop telling yourself this story.

 

Stop grasping for the magic bullet. The Heavenly Hack. The Stupendous Strategy.

 

No hack can physically make money for you, as much as your laptop can get up on its own and grab a coco from the fridge for you right now.

 

Success finds skilled bloggers. Skilled bloggers practice their skills daily. Over years. Unless you have Yoda’s patience you probably don’t believe a 2-4 year time frame seems quick. If you do, patient, you are.

 

11: Bonus Story: I Cannot Afford It

 

You cannot afford *not* to afford it. If you fear spending a few hundred bucks now think about the brilliant dream life you will be hurtling to down the road, by dropping your cash for a domain and hosting, for premium products and for valued, premium services?

 

Think Big Picture. Not small spending.

 

This story roots itself in lack, limitation, and of course, fear.

 

“I cannot afford it.” = “I do not value it enough.”

 

Change your values. Spend the money.

 

Even if you LITERALLY don’t have the money now you have access to credit cards, jobs, loans and 400 ways to purchase the helpful investment you are avoiding. Just feels a little uncomfortable to do things differently than the average, struggling, mediocre-living human being.

 

Your Turn

 

What stories are you releasing now? Have you told any of these stories to yourself? What other limiting stories do you need to let go?

 

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47 Comments

  1. This was a toughie for me Liza in the beginning. I was introverted and also had a few rough experiences when I reached out to folks. Over time though I have built an awesome network of blogging buddies. Thanks for reading.

  2. Liza Says:

    This post is full of wisdom!

    #2 Is so true, I think this is one of the most challenging and time-consuming activities an introvert like me. Making connections can be hard and more when you have negative experiences where people don’t react the way you expect they will, but, as any other skill is something that can be learned and mastered. I will definitely follow some of the suggestions you gave, Thanks for this great piece of advice!

  3. Will do Prosperity!

  4. Awesome level of positivity you’ve got Ryan. Keep it rocking!

  5. Thank you Lev. Keep on blogging!

  6. Lev Leetian Says:

    Very inspirational post! A lot of new bloggers certainly suffer from these points listed, even me :)) But you’ve shown us that successful blogging is indeed possible even when you start from nothing. Thanks a lot for this!

  7. I certainly will keep the positive attitude going Adnan 🙂

  8. Hmm…that is weird Mark.

    Did you receive a specific error code? I had no idea Phill even had spam bots set up here.

    The magic bullet never existed. But greedy or desperate marketers play on the greedy, desperate or outright ignorant bloggers out there, to bring them onboard. Thanks for the comment!

  9. Adnan Ali Says:

    Hi Ryan,
    I love the positive attitude. I am really inspired here to follow your steps. Excellent post. Keep posting such kind of information on your page. I’m really impressed by your site.

  10. Mark Newsome Says:

    Bravo Ryan!

    Any one of these 11 outstanding, potential long term
    success killers, have to eliminated from our thoughts asap!

    But I have to strongly agree with Benjamins take on it!

    Unfortunately,there are just far too many aspiring entrepreneurs,
    on or offline, who hang their entire future, on whether or not, they can
    ultimately find, the all too elusive,’magic bullet’ solution!LOL!

    Thanks for exploding that myth bud!LOL! And none too soon!

    And thanks for sharing another outstanding post!I have been a little hesitate
    to comment on your posts lately, simply because the spam bots, for some
    odd reasons, would not approve my previous comments!LOL!

  11. Each kills your blog over the short or long haul Adeel. So many dangerous meme’s here, little untrue stories totally based in fantasy land. But a bad fantasy land LOL. Purge ’em and prosper.

  12. It’s like if you cling to these you are holding onto an anchor Nate, one that pulls you down and prevents you from moving higher into blogging circles. All stories need to go for us to succeed and to keep succeeding.

  13. Nate Kidd Says:

    Great article! I definitely agree there are no shortcuts to success. Making excuses will not get us anywhere, instead why not just pay your dues and follow successful bloggers like yourself and pick up every bit of wisdom you can.

    I like each and every one of your points here and as a blogger we all should be mindful of how we carry ourselves as bloggers. We will definitely not succeed or even get noticed by others if we carry around with us any of the traits you mentioned here.

    Thanks for sharing.

  14. Adeel Sami Says:

    Hey, Ryan!

    Brother….

    I second… and agree with the every single of the 11 stories you said…

    They are not just poisonous but too killing… Because, if take just one serious for just a little bit out of the eleven, you cannot keep going with the blog.

    And blogging is not for you if any one of it you’re going through with.

    So, it is better to leave out right now then not finding the fun of blogging later.

    Because you’d just be wasting time; of yours and others too, by writing the boring stuff. Not good ones.

    So, dive in OR leave out!

    ~ Adeel

  15. I like it Kevin. I see the wheels turning. Being passionate does that for you.

  16. Kevin Rick Says:

    I have been wanting to have a blog in the industry that I am passionate about, but just cannot have the time and keep giving myself excuses to procrastinate it… Thinking of a blog posts ideas is what holding me back actually. But I guess I do not have to worry much about what to write, but how I write it. Thank Ryan for this great article!

  17. No short cuts at all Adithya. Persistent, energetic play – masked as work – is the secret for sure.

  18. Hi Ryan,

    Great post, Many people like to make excuses instead of taking action. One thing I realized is there are no shortcuts in blogging or life! We have to hustle our way up!

    Thanks for sharing, Have a great day! 🙂

  19. Hahaha Pete 😉 I’m happy you’re getting a kick out of them!

  20. Lol… I have not bought or read the books, but l do love the titles (l had a chuckle) as they are certainly something that l (and l’m sure many others) can and do relate to, cheers!

  21. Awesome Awogor. I am glad you liked it.

  22. Hi Ryan, this is very powerful. Can’t go into all this stress. But you are lucky enough to have been this today.
    Have a great week

  23. Appreciate it Patrick and always happy to entertain LOL 🙂

  24. Thanks Isabel. Enjoy!

  25. Good books for some self improvement, will check them out.

  26. Patrick Says:

    Great post, Ryan. Number 4 had me rolling on the floor. Looking forward to your future posts. Helpful and insightful as always, thank you!!

  27. Thanks for reading and commenting Phen 🙂

  28. Phen Vargas Says:

    Hi Ryan,

    I like the positive attitude. I am really inspired here to follow your steps. Thank you so much for this article.

  29. I have seen you on Warrior Benjamin. You know how it goes. Society in general does things from a dominant energy of fear. This fear driver goads them to want to get things or results quickly versus putting in the energy work and practical work to hone their skills. Honing your skills through diligent practice is the only way to let go this most damaging story. The quick fix is a lie. The patient, generous, persistent honing of your blogging craft is a steady process that actually becomes more enjoyable as you proceed. I find dormant talents and entertaining stories and long buried skills just waiting to be uncovered as I move along this fascinating journey. Thanks for your rocking insight!

  30. So true in so many ways. #10 nails it for so many people. I have hung out in the Warrior Forum for many years and I have heard that same story a million different things over and over again like a broken record.

    So often people are looking for magic in a pill or bottle and it’s not always about blogging. We do it in our society with weight loss, other forms of looking better, dating and just about everything. We want instant and perfect, but don’t even realize we don’t deserve instant or perfect because we haven’t done anything to earn it.

    We we stop caring about the money and start looking at blogging and ebook writing as progress in itself, we have a chance to succeed. There is no magic hack, pill or bullet. It doesn’t exist, but if you put in the work day in and day out, you’ll become one of those overnight successes ten years in the making.

  31. Listen to your heart Sophie. It knows 🙂 I am excited for you as you begin this fun journey. Happy blogging!

  32. Sophie Kaul Says:

    Although it is cool to dream about things which you once think were impossible, still there is a part of the heart that tells us – yes you can do it -just give it a little faith. And when that happens you are literally ready to begin a whole new chapter in your life. As I’m going to start it with my own blog soon, so will consider these steps very carefully. Thanks!

  33. #1 has been a killer for all of us at some time Shantanu 😉 Even little old me LOL. I had to get my rear in gear when pondering my daily videos because I put it off, a little fear trickling into my mind at the thought of committing time and energy toward publishing videos daily on YouTube, Periscope, Facebook and now, I am hitting Instagram too. I LOVE doing videos but still had to make that shift from getting around to creating videos, to publishing the suckers.

  34. Bingo Rahul! Change that story, inject with fun-feelings, and the blogging tide turns.

  35. Hello Ryan,

    Great tips over here 🙂

    I was noodling my head while going through this post.

    Frankly speaking, I struggles a lot with all these at the very starting, and it would be not fair enough to say at the
    starting, but there are some points, through which I feel hard to over come till now.

    #1 and #3 is the situations, I always come across.

    Thanks for the share.

    Shantanu.

  36. Follow your fun and Rock it out…. Thats the spirit one needs to have else it never gonna turn around. You need to keep telling to your self about the things that you can do and you can achieve. Keep rocking!!

  37. I do hear you Mitch. The way I see it, when you are hungry enough, you find a way, and following step #1 is the key to diving in, getting the knowledge, practicing, learning….then gaining the confidence, clarity and boldness to do what it takes – legally 🙂 – to earn money that helps them buy premium offerings. When people get excited enough it’s like they see above their struggles for different ways and means of acquiring money to invest in their present, and future. Goodness knows I found a way after having 4 cents and being $60,000 in debt LOL! Thanks much for sharing and great to see you on BFP again.

  38. I love all of these except probably #11. Whereas I always understand that sometimes people need to pay for training to learn or get better at something, I’ve known way too many people who struggle to make enough money to feed themselves and their family, let alone pay their bills, for me to tell anyone that they need to find money to get training.

    What I’ll often do instead is start with your #1; tell people to get started and stop finding ways of sabotaging themselves before they even try. Work on other ways to make more money “legally” unless you’re already putting in 18 hours a day; all of us need a break. If you need a start head to the library; there’s lots of good stuff there to at least get you started.

    Hmmm… I guess that means my favorite of all your points is #1; how about that! lol

  39. It can drive ya nuts Donna, I hear you. I know folks have fears about spending and losing money, but whipping out the credit card and digging into savings or simply cutting expenses in some area will give you the money to do what we do, from buying your domain and hosting to purchasing premium courses to hiring bloggers for their coaching services.

  40. Hi Ryan,

    “I can’t afford it” really pisses me off. It is the worst excuse ever! How can anyone fathom starting a business and not paying for some instructions? And then some? It’s a business and it takes money to make money. OK enough with the rant. But some really cannot afford it and I see them stepping over others reaching the moon because they want to.

    -Donna

  41. This really is a huge mental block we all need to dissolve to get going, Ahmad.

    A few ideas:

    1: Creating the Mindset of a Successful Blogger is a helpful reader for being, thinking and acting like a determined, focused, energetic pro blogger…who does not procrastinate. Here is the link: Creating the Mindset of a Successful Blogger

    2: Knowing why you blog helps you to pinpoint the driver/intent that pulls you thru lazy or procrastination-heavy habits. Consider digging down to find your core reason.

    3: Understand that when we wait, or procrastinate, that fear is here. Meaning, the very habit of acting swiftly and boldly and decisively can be scary as hell sometimes. I see this with my daily guest posting schedule. Scares me a bit but I dive in and feel comfortable with being uncomfortable, versus saying to myself “I need to get around to writing guest posts.”

    Thanks for the question bro 🙂

  42. Ahmad Imran Says:

    Ryan, no. 1 is the killer – procrastination – I am sure many new bloggers and even experienced bloggers will agree with this one. Tell us what do you think is a recipe to tackle procrastination ? Any good book, video or article on this topic? Great article as ever, cheers.

  43. You are doing so darn well Lisa because as a full time job holder these rules change. We are human. You can only do and be so much when working a job for 5 days a week. Bravo to you! You are getting around to it and I don’t see the story kicking around at all. LOL on the 10 miles….I sometimes think I am just sensitive to caffeine and the coffee is pulling me through. Thank you and have a great week.

  44. That’s it Prosper. As beginners I had all types of silly little voices and stories dancing around in my brain box. I finally began to slowly dissolve these terrible, untrue tales a while back so I could share my insights and wackiness with the world LOL.

  45. Lisa Sicard Says:

    Hi Ryan, I still struggle with #1 and #4. #1 is a biggie for me to overcome. I’ve been beating myself up past few days over it. Writing this comment on lunch break from the day job, get up hours early to work on blog posts, skipped yoga last night to write more. If I could only survive on less sleep.
    Other times I seem to manage it all much better and feel accomplished – that’s a great feeling.
    #4 – I still struggle with but am trying to overcome. I had hoped to do another this week but #1 got in the way. It won’t happen another week though 🙂
    Thanks for your encouragement and inspiration here. Glad to know you experienced it too Ryan.
    But when I see you run 10 miles I just don’t know how you do it all!

  46. Prosper Noah Says:

    Hy Ryan,

    Great Post once more.

    These stories definitely comes into the beginner head often, until he/she realizes that you don’t have to be perfect before standing out.

    Writers block once almost pulled me down while I was still starting up my blog, but if you know the tips and tricks to overcome em, you’re good to go.

    Thanks for the share!

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