We made a pit stop for Phi Phi (pronounced, “Pee Pee”).
Kelli and I ferried from gorgeous Koh Lanta, Thailand to equally beautiful Phuket a while back.
The party haven known as the Phi Phi Islands marked the only stop of the trip.
The beautiful, picture-perfect, albeit, a bit rowdy, little strip of land sitting in the Andaman Sea houses a collection of bars, restaurants and places of lodging. A quick stopover on the way to Phuket.
Anyway, when we anchored offshore to pick up
drunk, half-dressed kids from the other boat, the ferry didn’t move but 2 inches. Amazing. The deft skill of the captain combined with the leaden anchor tied us down.
Which works awesomely when blitzed, sometimes boorish, always entertaining party kids/farang are stepping from boat to boat (no ladder or easy pathway of course; hey, it’s Thailand)…..but which works terribly when you’re attempting to build a successful blog while anchoring yourself heavily to blogging outcomes.
I’ve had wicked experiences with tying myself to blogging outcomes. I’m sure you have a terrible tale or 2 to tell of such traumatic circumstances (Or maybe, you just like allieration).
When you attach to blogging outcomes like:
- blog traffic
- blogging profits
- list subscribers
- social media shares
- any bullshit vanity metrics
you are either doomed to fail at worst, or at best, live a blogging life of suffering success.
You will experience the appearances of success but will fear losing it all. Which isn’t really success.
Not only that; you can’t REALLY enjoy the ride when you’re outcomes driven because living outside-in bases your mood/feeling on numbers, on a screen. Since illusions/appearances/numbers change constantly, so will your feelings. Enter the emotional rollercoaster most bloggers ride during their entire careers. Which is totally not necessary.
Yesterday I mistakenly checked my list subscriber count. Hadn’t checked in months. I added a few hundred subscribers. Who gives a shit? When I’m worm food/taking a dirt nap, what will “He added subscribers to his email list” on my tombstone mean? Nothing.
But attaching to such outcomes makes you The Outcome’s Bitch.
Instead of doing things with love and having a crap load of fun, you will anchor yourself to stats and base your feelings, your vibe, your intent and your entire blogging career on numbers, on a screen.
You will become a Bitch to Outcomes, perhaps the greatest tragedy of humanity and a mental illness we seem to have cornered the market on. You look outside to decide how to feel. Or you live outside-in. Not a good look if you want to be happy, spread love and have fun FIRST, or BEFORE you open your eyes in the morning….because then, you will color all circumstances with fun and love, and the outcomes/illusions/circumstances carry no sway on you.
Instead of being pimp-slapped by blogging outcomes you 2 can form a harmonious love fest. And yes, it gets a ton easier to publish creative, provocative, helpful, funny, entertaining blog posts when you can give – largely – a rat’s fanny about the outcomes of such a post.
I did say “largely”. If you want to detach 100% from blogging outcomes spend 4-6 years or longer in a Northern Thailand wat.
1: Do Things with/for Love
Do what you do, blogging-wise, for the love of doing it.
And do blogging activities with love.
Doing with love instantly detaches you from outcomes. Because when you act from a space of love, fear cannot be present.
And if fear cannot be present you cannot fear if any outcome has manifest. Or not.
I love (wink wink) this book for cultivating your own Love Fest:
2: Blog for Fun
Blog predominantly for fun.
I get it; you may want to build a full-time income earning blog. Understood.
But if you can devote 90% to 95% of your energies to blogging for fun:
- you have little energy left to even think about outcomes
- those outcomes will manifest nicely, of their own accord
- the creativity of your work will expand in brilliant ways, leading to all sorts of sweetness
Example; look at the way I write. How in the frick could I create my zany blogging-travel analogies if I was burdened by outcomes? If I was in Survival Mode, worrying frantically about driving blog traffic or generating profits or snagging list subscribers?
I have a poop load of fun.
God/Universe supplies me with ideas.
Here’s my blogging ‘tude, dude (and dudettes): the fun of creating blog posts IS my reward.
All else is extra/trimmings/icing on the cake (traffic, profits, social shares, appearances on world famous sites, songs that serfs and minstrels sing of me and the hallowed Blogging From Paradise brand).
3: See Yourself Surrounded by Love
Instead of judging everything through your monkey mind, labeling it, and stuffing it in a box, see yourself being surrounded by love.
Example; right now, I see my blog as love. I see it as a glowing love, burning like embers.
Maybe that’s the lack of sleep talking but I genuinely feel the love around me.
From you awesome readers, who consume my posts, to you awesome commentors, who share your thoughts.
To you loving harsh critics, who only criticize because you feel fear in your life, and move away from love. I see love in you too. Honest.
Seeing love in EVERYTHING and EVERYONE is a Herculean task, but, start today….process your judgments, laugh at yourself more, and see yourself surrounded by love.
Seeing more things and people as love – including outcomes – takes all the tension away from observing outcomes. Which helps detach you from outcomes. Partially, at least.
4: Get Lost in Others
Promote the hell out of others (Don’t take the post’s tone as an excuse to exorcise your fellow bloggers).
Promote bloggers through:
- G Plus
- featuring them on your blog, through references or interviews or guest posts
Getting lost in others helps dissolve your problems.
Including any problems you suffer through by clinging to outcomes.
5: Toss Salt over Your Shoulders 3 Times Daily
Preferably sea salt.
Lowers blood pressure.
6: Take 1 Dose of Truth Serum
I recall a collection of Titanic Melt Downs I had over:
- list subscribers
- blogging profits
- email volume
over the years.
I flipped out like a Cirque de Soleil performer on Crystal Meth because I took a dose of thy Truth Serum.
Or, I felt my true, genuine, honest emotions around certain outcomes.
To clear the fear, consume a shit sandwich here and there.
Meaning, if you feel an intuitive nudge to do so, stare at the numbers on a screen (funny when ya think about it, right?) for a few seconds or minutes and feel what comes up.
Maybe you feel a little pissed. Maybe you feel enraged. Maybe you howl out, crying.
Whatever happens, be with it. Clear it. Dissolve your attachment more.
7: Create on All Dates
Again, I understand the love fest feel to this post.
But I am not endorsing wanton promiscuity.
I am endorsing creating something every day for other folks.
- a blog post
- a video
- a podcast
- a thoughtful Facebook update
- a guest post
Just create something every day. For your fun. With love. For someone else.
Creating regularly moves you from a competitive to creative plane of energy, which moves you from a fear-based, outcomes-driven energy to an energy of Love, clarity and peace, which helps you let go outcomes.
8: Create, Don’t Hate
Find a point of agreement with everybody and everything in life, and give your energy to that.
Love it the way it is. Even if it appears to be terrible.
Then, follow tip #7.
Fighting or debating folks displays your lack of clarity, which always pulls you down to lower energy fields….the exact spots where you worry about outcomes.
Adopting a common energetic ground moves you toward love. Which helps you think less about getting stuff or challenging others, and more about giving.
9: Stop Blogging
This is probably the easiest way to detach yourself from blogging outcomes.
Foolproof. Works every time.
10: Atheists, Please Skip
To my Muslim friends, look to Allah.
Christian buds? Look to Jesus.
Buddhist buddies? Look to Buddha.
Just look to God/Universe/The Voice. Go to Love.
When you are bathed in God, you can toss out the worldly soap. Meaning, all fears dissolve in those moments, including attachments to outcomes.
Stop looking at your email as a god, checking it endlessly every day. Ditto for your blogging profits.
It’s all bullshit anyway. Really. Just extra. No big deal at all.
One Truth exists: Love/God.
All else is monkey mind bookkeeping.
Focus on God, have a shit load of fun, do things with Love, and all those outcomes you fretted over will manifest with ease.
Note; atheists can just fall in love with the process…of…living and loving.
Don’t include a business/profits related call to action on your posts.
Watch how bat shit crazy your mind goes, on a reason/common sense/outcomes attached bender.
It’s OK to include calls to action; I’m just tossing in a tip that can show you how heavily attached you are to certain calls to action or products or services or…..outcomes 🙂
Are you a Buddhist monk entirely attached from blogging outcomes? Why are you reading this post? Shouldn’t you be meditating? How did you afford a domain and hosting?
How are you detaching yourself from blogging outcomes?
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