A whiskey bottle whizzed by his head.
Almost killing him before it shattered into a thousand pieces on the cobblestone streets of Istanbul, Turkey.
A husky voice barked a curse at the object of the prostitute’s aggression.
The nearly murdered man yelled back.
Kelli and I lived between 2 brothels during our stay in this colorful city.
The left-side brothel housed funny, chatty but at times, highly agitated transvestite prostitutes.
Forget the fact that they worked a highly stressful, difficult, sometimes impossible job.
These gals (or guys?) were caged up for 12 to 18 hours a day, working painfully long shifts until they were allowed to leave the house.
They were in prison for much of the day.
A prison that no doubt drove them mad after a while, leading to some wicked outbursts.
If you cling to any one of these blogging limiting beliefs you too are living in a prison.
A self-imposed prison.
And if you ain’t throwing the whiskey bottle at someone…..
…..you may be drinking from it *really* soon until you honestly admit to yourself that you believe in some of these….limiting beliefs.
Why I Wrote this Post
I had to write this post.
Most bloggers – even successful ones – are human, fallible and prone to spreading beliefs that just aren’t true.
God knows I’ve perpetuated some of these limiting beliefs through my work.
If I ever do again – and likely will – please take me aside and lash me 407 times with a wet noodle.
Believing in these limiting ideas can:
- Prolong your blogging failure
- Cause you to quit
- Retard your growth
- Extend your suffering
As a guy who clung to virtually all of these mental crap storms – some of which I still cling to from time to time – I assure you that believing in a limiting idea is as fun as chewing on concrete.
But if you face, embrace and release these limiting beliefs you can succeed really quickly.
But first you need to do the energetic legwork to hug these sucky energies to be free of them.
At the end of each limiting belief I will list a resource to help you blast through the mental block.
Most will be my eBooks with 1 of my blogging courses tossed in.
1: Nobody Cares about What You Have to Say
The Universe loves you.
Many care about what you have to say.
I had rabid fans even when reading my blog was as pleasant as visiting a proctologist who uses a samurai sword to inspect patients.
If you are a newbie blogger, many readers love you. And care about what you have to say.
They just haven’t met you yet.
I landed on:
- Fox News
….and I never pitched anybody from any of those blogs.
As I explained in my exciting, fun new blogging course – you can check it out here – I have pitched approximately 2 bloggers out of my 250 plus features on top shelf blogs and podcasts.
The remaining 248 plus bloggers came to me.
Get clear on your direction.
You are worthy. You are deserving.
Bloggers will flow to you and ask you to share your thoughts on their blogs.
3: Blogging Is Hard
Blogging *SEEMS* hard because:
- Most bloggers are burdened with limiting beliefs before they begin this journey
- Some bloggers devote 98% or more of their energies to GETTING MONEY versus to GIVING VALUE
- Many experienced, well-meaning bloggers impregnate your subconscious mind with the idea “BLOGGING IS HARD”, which you nod your head to, agree with, and of course, if you agree with the idea it becomes manifest in your life
Blogging is not hard.
Blogging can be highly uncomfortable in moments.
But if you follow your fun, don’t become so attached to money and traffic and fame-driven outcomes, and embrace some uncomfortable moments, blogging actually gets easier.
4: People Hate to Be Sold To
10 minutes ago I walked out of the grocery store.
I bought lunch for Kelli and I.
Everywhere I looked, I saw price tags, Calls to Action to “Buy This!”, and a “Hard Sell” all over the place.
Damn right I loved to be sold to.
I was hungry!
People who love what you have to offer love to be sold to.
This “people hate to be sold to” lie is a strange money limiting belief/mind virus that many bloggers spread freely.
But it’s just not true.
People love to be sold to.
And they love buying your stuff.
5: Suffering from Underdog Syndrome
As a former sufferer from Underdog Syndrome I avoid blogs that stress this damaging mindset like the plague.
Some *really successful* bloggers mean well but unintentionally burden their readers with the idea that they are basically nothing as a newbie, a spec of sand going against 250 million blogs.
I love some of these bloggers to death for other aspects of their rocking blogs BUT they unfortunately project some of their personal, paralyzing limiting beliefs onto their readers.
Guys, I wear no cape.
I also make mistakes.
But my intent has always been to empower you.
You are no underdog.
Don’t identify with being an underdog.
Life’s too short to see yourself as coming out of the gutter.
Surround yourself by bloggers who see brilliance in you.
You have your story to tell.
That makes you brilliant.
That makes you the overwhelming favorite.
6: Finding Your Writing Voice Is Hard
Finding your writing voice is easy after you write 500 to 1,000 words every day for weeks and months.
Bloggers cling to this limiting belief because they do not commit to writing.
This is like an aspiring NBA basketball player who doesn’t commit to practicing their jump shots or dribble game, then complains that it’s really tough to become a good shooter or dribbler.
Write 500 to 1,000 words daily for practice.
Find your writing voice.
7: It Takes a Long Time to Write an eBook
I’ve spied many bloggers who take months or….gasp….years to write and self-publish an eBook.
Hey Tolstoy; bloggers don’t want your version of War and Peace on their Kindle.
6,000 word eBooks do nicely, thank you.
Most readers dig a 30 to 45 minute read.
A handy resource.
I regularly write and self-publish eBooks in 24 hours.
I wrote and self-published an eBook daily for 3 months in a row.
You can write and self-publish an eBook in 1-2 weeks.
8: You Need to Grow an Email List to Run a Successful Blog
I have a modest list.
I seem to be doing OK.
Before the writers at the Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News or Entrepreneurs featured me they did not ask me:
“Hey buddy, before we feature you, how big is your email list?”
Nor do clients, or eBook customers, ask me my list size before they hire me or buy my eBooks.
I recall a lady who did network marketing COMPLETELY offline.
All phone work.
Not only did she NOT have a list, she had no online real estate.
She made $50,000 a month.
- Create helpful posts
- Make plenty of connections
- Release your limiting beliefs around money and success
- Have fun in the process
Success will find you whether or not you build something called: “an email list.”
It’s an energy game, folks.
People will stay loyal to you and find you through many online and offline streams when you get really, really clear.
9: If You Don’t Have a Flashy-Looking Design You Will Fail with Your Blog
Slap me in the face.
Because I have perpetuated this belief.
I’ve appeared on world famous blogs with a simple, Plain Jane theme.
I traveled the world through blogging with a simple theme.
The jazzed up version of my blog is only 2 months in the making.
Steve Pavlina made $50,000 a month on his blog back in the day using the Kubrick, bare bones, stock WordPress theme.
If you get clear on what you have to offer, and feel whole, and complete, you will succeed with your blog.
10: You Must Be Lucky, Talented or Connected to Succeed with Blogging
Although I always had my striking good looks (tongue firmly planted in….) I was a broke, fired security guard-being, depressed, unhappy guy when I started my blogging journey.
I had the luck of Uncle Jinx at the Horse Tracks.
I was as talented as a pile of mud.
I was as connected – and useful – as a downed power line.
But here I am.
I’ve appeared on many of the world’s most famous blogs.
These guys actually wanted to know what *I* thought of specific topics.
Yeah….they wanted my expert opinion.
What a hoot.
To succeed with blogging, do 2 things: follow your fun, do the energy work to uncover and release your limiting beliefs.
Then you’ll do the creating and connecting and move into inspired actions to succeed.
Do you cling to any of these limiting beliefs?
How do you face, embrace and release blogging limiting beliefs?
How did you conquer some of your biggest blogging demons?