1 Reason Why Most Bloggers Never Get Ahead

  March 23, 2022 blogging tips ๐Ÿ•‘ 4 minutes read

Jimbaran, Bali.


Sending this simple message:


“enjoy your day”


to folks over the past week or so has been a fascinating study.


I re-bonded with long lost friends. I made new friends.


But something odd transpired, too.


I saw a few reasons why well-meaning but confused bloggers never seem to get ahead.


The most glaring reason: most bloggers do not know how to network properly.


For example, in response to me messaging: “have a nice day”, some folks replied with:


  • ?
  • a business pitch
  • a warning professing what was wrong with my blog….along with an offer to fix my blog


Each reply seemed odd to me. I simply intend to help people enjoy their day with a kind word. Reacting with suspicion in the form of a ? reveals someone who does not know how to network the right way. Being rude, curt or flat out suspicious ensures that one rockets lower and lower in blogging circles.


Pitching your business to someone who sends a kind message reveals a desperate blogger who obviously is a poor friend candidate. Desperation repels success.


Replying to someone who sends a kind message with a warning that something is off with their blog presumes a bit too much, comes off as tacky and clearly demonstrates that you do not want to earn trust, make friends and bond based on keeping things casual.


Do You Want to Get Ahead as a Blogger?


Learn how to network the right way.


High level bloggers reach higher and higher by networking effectively.


Everyone else remains in lower blogging circles.


Lead with:


  • kindness
  • warmth
  • taking a genuine interest in fellow bloggers
  • generosity


For example, if someone messages you with a kind greeting simply return their kindness. Proceed to take an interest in the individual. Learn about them. Learn about their blog. Read their blog. Drop a genuine comment. Ask how you can help them. Think about earning their trust by being generous, genuine and relaxed.


Networking the right way feels uncomfortable at first because putting other’s needs above your needs feels unfamiliar to most bloggers. Bloggers usually grow up thinking mostly about their families or themselves. Thinking outward about strangers feels odd. Helping strangers feels even more odd. Asking for nothing in return from strangers seems even more bizarre.


However, the only way to move higher in blogging circles is by taking a genuine interest in strangers, helping these folks and putting your needs to the side until you earn their trust and friendship.


Make It About Them Not You


Help fellow bloggers. Make it about them. This is how to gradually move into higher blogging circles. This is how to gain the attention of influential bloggers.


Do not make it all about you. Making it about yourself turns off bloggers.


A few folks today began talking about:


  • themselves
  • their business
  • their services


in response to me messaging: “enjoy your day”.


Still, even after seeing this approach many times over the past 15 years online, it seems flat out bizarre that instead of saying:


  • “thank you”
  • “you too”
  • “how are you?”


that people reply with a pitch about their business, their services or a “?”


Isn’t that odd? If someone wishes you a nice day offline would you reply with a business pitch? Most if not all of you would feel embarrassed or ashamed to do this offline because it would be flat out rude, awkward and cringe-worthy.


No sane person would respond in this fashion offline but the online world often appears to make the normally sane a lot less sane.




I delved into how to network the right way with this resource:


11 Tips to Make Your Blogger Outreach Campaign Sizzle


Networking the right way is not hard. But networking the right way takes time so it feels uncomfortable, here and there.


I intended to write this short post before going to sleep in order to remind you: unless you network properly you simply will never get ahead.


Like it or not, successful bloggers will play a role in your success through referral marketing. Bloggers get only so far on their own steam. Influential pros bring your blog and business to the next level by referring you to their audience.


The way to impress, influence and befriend these pros is by networking the right way.


Get ahead.


Put their needs before your needs.


Network the right way.


Expand your reach.


Have fun making blogging friends.


Observe your success expand as you move higher in blogging circles.

  1. John Ravi says:
    at 2:31 am

    Hi Ryan,

    It was a great read! I am a blogger too and for a while, I struggled with networking as well. I made the mistake of thinking that I can go up by myself and I donโ€™t need any help. After a while of not getting anywhere, I realized my mistake and since then I am going forward. I am so glad that you decided to talk about networking. I think a lot of people need to read this and implement it in their process to get ahead. Thanks a lot, it really was a great read.

  2. Praveen Rajarao says:
    at 8:54 am

    Hey Ryan,

    I didnt get your “Good Morning” message ๐Ÿ™‚

    Anyways, you are spot-on, many of us are living in a “suspicious under the blanket” lives these days, with the amount of spams and devious schemes going on.

    Enjoy your day my friend.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 9:31 am

      Funny you say this Praveen; I just got slammed with 150 spam comments from when I last checked my backoffice LOL.

    at 10:37 am

    Networking, in the right way, is one of the most important things to even be able to evolve as a blogger. Your post is really interesting. I liked the tips. I’m forwarding it to a friend who is trying to become a very successful blogger and I’m helping him. Thank you for sharing!

  4. asma khalid says:
    at 1:57 am

    Such an informative post you have. I have tried my hand at blogging but never excelled at all. It has rattled me for such a long time. I cannot figure out what exactly am i doing wrong here. Would really appreciate more posts on this topic

  5. Amit Biwaal says:
    at 4:13 pm

    Hey Ryan, everyday is talking about the ways to generate organic traffic to blog or website but 90% people still following old techniques that doesn’t yield results.

    For now, what a new blogger can do to make some space in digital world and increase traffic obviously? Thanks!

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 8:12 pm

      Following the advice shared in this post is a great start, Amit. Begin networking genuinely. Make friends. In addition to that, generously create and publish helpful content that solves reader problems. Keep creating and connecting to position yourself to succeed as a new blogger.

  6. RoTorioM says:
    at 7:05 am

    Such an educational post you have. I have taken a stab at writing for a blog however never dominated. It has shaken me for so long. I can’t sort out the thing precisely am I fouling up here. Would truly see the value in more posts on this subject

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