1 Quick Test to Show if You Are a Fraidy Cat or Clear on Your Blog

  May 8, 2018 blogging tips 🕑 5 minutes read

New Zealand


A few folks kinda dig the life Kelli and I live.


Chilling in New Zealand now.


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Last night, wifey and I cruised in the rental car to grab frozen yogurt in Christchurch. We saw 2 friendly, spunky girls working the counter. I immediately chatted them up, sharing how we travel the world through our online businesses, Kelli and I.


After mentioning house sitting the duo WOWed at the concept. I noted my eBook on Amazon to help them on their house sitting journey.


Before we left, the fro-yo duo being dazzled with our life, I casually and clearly mentioned how they could follow my journey at Blogging From Paradise Dot Com. I have little fear of mentioning what I do and how it benefits you. These days. But years ago I was a fraidy cat. I rarely mentioned what I did online because I feared doing so, for fear-filled reasons like:


  • believing folks would not be interested anyway
  • believing folks would press me for questions on how to live the life, and that I’d not be able to answer, and would appear to be a fraud
  • believing folks would never buy my products or hire me or buy my eBooks or follow my blog anyway
  • believing mentioning my blog and eBooks would be a waste of time


All reasons why I used to be a fraidy cat concerning mentioning Blogging From Paradise were selfish, greedy, fear-driven intents, none true, all illusions. But feeling these fears and releasing said fears helped me get clear on my blog, to where I clearly and casually mention Blogging From Paradise and my eBooks to anybody on earth. If Richard Branson and I met, I’d mention my blog and how I can help him. Ditto for world leaders. Anybody. All are people, who put their pants on one leg at a time, like me. No big deal. All could benefit from my services. Not saying it from an arrogant space, but from a clear space of how I have something helpful to share with the world.


Note; I said “could”. I do not chase folks down to mention my blog. No desperation. Just connect with human beings and mention my blog in passing. Abundant thing to do. For me and human beings I meet as I travel the world.


The Quick Test


The next time you meet someone in public, a seeming stranger, strike up a conversation with them. After a 2 minute dialog, see how much resistance you feel prior to mentioning your blog. See if you mention your blog. Observe how you feel. Awkward? Embarrassed? Anxious? Like a shill? Like a fraud? What comes up?


If any tension or resistance arises, you are unclear on your blog. This lack of clarity means you are 1/1000th or 1/1,000,000th or more of what you could be, traffic and sales wise, until you establish full clarity on your blog.


If however, like me, you mention your blog casually, little resistance arising, you are pretty darn clear on your blog. I am not 100% clear but am getting there. I almost mention my blog and eBooks like I breathe, to any human being because the only reason I’d hold back would be energetic heaviness aka fear aka resistance I associated with my:


  • blog
  • business
  • worthiness
  • deserving
  • money


Why This Test Is Important


If you are unclear on your blog, you will self-sabotage online and offline, ensuring blogging struggles. Maybe you deem yourself lazy, and work little. Or perhaps you fear that working on your blog is a waste of time, since you’ll fail anyway. Maybe you just want to sit back and allow money to come to you, because reaching out to befriend bloggers opens you up to criticism, feedback, rejection or any range of situations that can trigger deeply held blogging fears. Maybe you resist guest posting opportunities and blog commenting because although engaging in these strategies with a loving, fun energy would make you successful, it would also expose you to more folks with different opinions, some of which may unearth some deeply held pains, fears and sufferings in your being.


You can even do all the right things, blogging-wise, and fail horribly because you cannot trick your energy. You cannot outfox your dominant vibe. You cannot outrun your limiting beliefs. Folks will stay away from you and your blog if you lack clarity, even if you create helpful content and build meaningful bonds, because you will be energetically shying away from success.


This clarity test simply reveals where you have fears to clear, to see greater success. When you clear fears around self, and your blog, and your products or services, you detach a ton from outcomes and greater blogging and life success finds you.


The result? Happiness! Fun. Clarity. Confidence. Detachment. Greater blogging success. More folks served. More money. More dreams.


I’ve no idea if those Kiwi gals from last night will follow my blog or buy my eBook but that is 2 more folks out of the billions on planet earth who are aware of the Blogging From Paradise brand, eBooks and blog. Maybe I inspired them to live their dreams.


You have a gift with your blog and services. People want to know how you can inspire and help them. Share your gift with the world.


Your Turn


How clear are you on your blog?


Do you feel a bit of resistance aka fear when mentioning your blog and how you help folks, to strangers in offline settings?


Or do you feel clear, comfortable and detached in mentioning your blog and how you help folks, to strangers in an offline setting?

  1. Lisa P Sicard says:
    at 7:13 am

    Hi Ryan, How was the frozen yogurt there? Frozen yogurt is one of my favorite foods!
    I have gotten clearer with my blog and business as I had the homepage redesigned this week with that clarity in mind. I show my services now on the homepage. People know just what I do and what I can offer.
    I have been getting better telling people about it but I must carry my business cards. I often forget that little/big detail. That way they can go to it when they go online.
    I used to hid behind it all the time and didn’t even show my face on it. I was the fraidy cat for years!
    Thanks for this inspiring post today Ryan.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:32 pm

      SUPER tasty Lisa 😉 I was a fraidy cat too so no worries on that LOL. All it takes usually is one bold/clear act, no matter how uncomfortable, and you will be good to go. Thanks so much my friend 🙂