1 Little Known Blogging Secret

  April 6, 2022 blogging tips 🕑 4 minutes read

Mombacho, Nicaragua.


Most pro bloggers rarely if ever discuss one blogging secret.


These good-meaning folks do not hide the secret intentionally. Most do this organically and unconsciously; meaning, the individuals have no idea that they are behaving in such fashion.


If you are unaware of doing something how in the heck can you teach that something?


However, a few bloggers teach this concept freely for having suffered through NOT knowing and applying the secret. I intend to be one such blogger.


Little Known Secret


The less you care about blogging outcomes the more successful you become. The more you care about blogging outcomes the less successful you become.


Not trying to:


  • manipulate
  • convince
  • coerce
  • control


human beings through:


  • blog posts
  • videos
  • courses
  • manuals
  • coaching


actually influences these people to do a billion times the amount of work you can do as a single human being, through referral marketing.


Helping people with no expectations for them to prosper you inspires these people to bring money and traffic to you through their efforts.


The more you care about helping people and asking for nothing in return the more these people will:


  • promote you
  • endorse you
  • hire you
  • buy your stuff
  • grow your blog traffic
  • grow your referral business


NOT trying to get someone to do some specific thing oozes:


  • peace
  • confidence
  • clarity
  • trust
  • detachment
  • generosity


in a world of:


  • chaotic
  • doubtful
  • unclear
  • untrusting
  • heavily attached
  • stingy, greedy and desperate




This is why Gary Vaynerchuk is SO successful. He never tries to get people to do stuff! He always helps people freely with content, engages people freely and allows them to do as they please. He gives to help; not to get. Gary Vee embodies a take it or leave it approach that inspires millions of people to take it and grow his brand and business through referral aka “word of mouth” marketing.


Alonzo Pichardo teaches to allow blog content to “do what it does”. He emits calm, peaceful confidence. Alonzo helps people but does not try to convince, coerce or manipulate while or after helping them. Naturally, he has grown a huge, loyal tribe because when you just help people and detach from outcomes those people will grow your business and brand like wildfire over the long haul.


Be Generous Persistent and Patient


Generously help people persistently and patiently to cultivate this state of mind.




Allow success to find you from a confident, posturing intent. Stop trying to chase success from a doubtful, weak intent.


Bloggers rarely uncover this secret because they are in sheer blogging terror much if not all of the time. No one succeeds by sprinting forward mindlessly from an intent of fear. Bloggers thrive by helping people with a take it or leave it approach irresistible to word of mouth marketing. Once 5, 10, 5,000 or 1,000,000 people begin to spread your work through their marketing efforts you begin to experience increasing to staggering blogging success.


Facebook Example


Mark Z offered something called Facebook nearly a few decades ago.


He did not monetize the site. Nor did he attach to any strict outcomes. He simply wanted to allow the world to connect itself with one another.


Thousands, then tens of thousands, then millions, then billions of human beings grew Facebook through referral marketing because he was not obsessed with turning every single human user into a:


  • customer
  • client
  • brand advocate


If he obsessively tried to control his first 5-10 users into doing stuff for his bottom line Facebook never would have achieved a subscriber base in the billions. Even though he has since monetized the site he still gives it away for free.  2.9 billion human beings signed up for his site as of January of 2022.


The only way that billions of humans spread site awareness through referral marketing is if you allow them to take or leave your site.


Meanwhile, most bloggers struggle like hell to get 3 people to visit their site daily because they are so damn attached to trying to manipulate, control, convince or coerce  any person that visits the site into doing their will.


This is not the way to become a professional blogger.


The less you care about getting anything through your blog the less you try to control, manipulate or persuade people into doing your will. The less you try to control or convince people the more you help them for the sake of giving freely of your time and talents.


This attitude makes you stand out in a world of human beings so mired in terror that they seem to exist solely to get people to do stuff for them, obsessively begging, trying to persuade, convince and manipulate. Naturally, embodying this generous, calm, cool and collected demeanor slowly but surely inspires people to:


  • become brand advocates
  • grow your business through referral marketing
  • grow your traffic by promoting your blog on Twitter and Facebook
  • grow your traffic by promoting your blog through their blog
  • buy your premium offerings
  • hire you
  • interview you


Caring little to nothing about getting inspires you to give freely with no expectations. Giving freely inspires a growing number of fans to grow your business for you organically, around the clock, all over the globe.


People will bring you more than you ever dreamed of if you’ll simply stop trying to squeeze stuff out of ’em!

  1. Stuart Danker says:
    at 7:20 pm

    Interesting thoughts indeed! And I’ve always respected GaryVee for that. People say he’s a charlatan, but unlike some other ‘gurus’ out there, Gary actually practises what he preaches, and he’s not selling you some seminar in every video. That’s the key difference people need to see when discerning between personalities online. Anyway, thanks for this post!

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 10:15 pm

      Gary Vee tends to get some resistance Stuart because he builds his business from his heart, walks his talk and also grew up in an entrepreneurial family. He helped the family wine business take off; this means he had some dough to play with as he embarked on his online career. That being said, he is as genuine as they come and also builds his businesses on compassion, empathy and kindness. Scared, angry entrepreneurs hate that LOL! Disproves the saying that nice guys finish last because he has finished first.

  2. Zena's Suitcase says:
    at 11:36 am

    You are absolutely right about caring less. I think bloggers look for quick fixes because they want it all to work, but the more authentic you are, the more successful you become

  3. Rebecca Holms says:
    at 9:55 am

    I agree with your secret point we keep giving result will come automatically. we should prefer to give content which people like to read. we should not expect the results immediately instead keep contributing to blog. one day will get our audience who will be aligned with our blog.

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 4:00 pm

      Thanks Rebecca 🙂