1 Failing Aspect of an Expert Roundup Post (and the Solution)

  November 14, 2016 blogging tips πŸ•‘ 5 minutes read
expert roundup post

Worker in the rice fields of Bali.

 

The sex appeal screamed at me.

 

Kelli and I visited Carnegie Hall to see comedian Tig Notaro last week.

 

Brilliant night.

 

She’s hysterical.

 

Before we cruised into “Wee Andra Carnegie’s” Hall I spotted a flashy, eye-catching, attention-arresting Lamborghini Reventon in front of the Wellington Hotel.

 

Expert Roundup Post

 

This is a $2 million dollar car.

 

V-12.

 

This is what the car looked like:

 

Image of the Lamborghini Reventon I snapped at the NYC Auto Show.

Image of the Lamborghini Reventon I snapped at the NYC Auto Show.

 

Peter Dinklage needs to bend down to get inside the car.

 

One of the finest pieces of machinery on the face of the earth.

 

One of the rarest cars on God’s Green Earth.

 

I found myself staring at it, my gaze somewhere between vacant (through utter shock) and transfixed by the automobile porn that lay in front of me.

 

Little Leah Lambo

 

If I handed the keys to this very car to my 5 month old niece Leah she would do a few things:

 

  • she’d gaze at the keys, the same way she gazes at just about everything
  • she’d drool on the keys (I have nicknamed her Ra’s Al Drool, and if you don’t get the reference either Google Ra’s Al or get the hell out of here)
  • Leah’d put the keys in her mouth
  • after 14 seconds, the keys may or may not be coated with Similac Spit Up

 

You’re probably thinking right now: has Ryan eaten too many disgustingly ugly (but incredibly tasty!) Thai sweet snacks over the years?

 

Have the icy cold showers permanently frozen certain cortexes of his brain (Or…..cortii?)?

 

Nope.

 

I just drew an analogy summing up the most dangerous aspect of blogging expert round ups.

 

Ra’s Al Drool, Lambos and Struggling Bloggers

 

Expert roundup post tips are as useless in the hands of most bloggers as Lamborghini Reventon keys in the hands of my 5 month old niece.

 

It has nothing to do with understanding though.

 

Most bloggers understand how to write a 4 paragraph long comment on Pro Blogger.

 

Most bloggers understand how to open up an account at Mail Chimp, to build an email list.

 

The problem has to do with your energy.

 

Or, the low energy, limiting feelings that you cling to.

 

As long as your energy screams lack, limitation, hopelessness and failure, my niece has a better chance making that Reventon engine SING, wheeling that sucker around a racetrack at 200 MPH, than you do using expert round up tips to live your wildest dreams.

 

Danger Danger!

 

Here’s what goes through the average, or struggling, blogger’s mind when they read (or rush through) blogging expert round ups:

 

“These tips don’t work.”

 

“I’ve tried them already.”

 

“I can DEFINITELY tell ya which ones don’t work.”Β 

 

“That Ryan Biddulph is a handsome guy (I appear on many of these round ups).”

 

“If I can get the 1 tip, trick or hack, out of these, and if I can just DO IT ENOUGH, I can make my failures and struggles disappear….for good!”

 

“I’ll use a few of these tips for a week or month, then if I don’t see the results I want to see I’ll ditch the strategies.”

 

I can add 15 million to infinity low energy feelings here but want to watch Netflix in a few.

 

If these FEELINGS exist in your BEING you will be blind to anything fun and freeing and fulfilling.

 

Being Not Doing

 

Telling a blogger who’s energy is filled with lack, limitation and failure to “just build an email list!” is like telling a mute to “just sign this song like Pavoratti”.

 

Energetically and physiologically impossible.

 

And even if you see some success, straining and struggling and striving, forcing yourself to use these expert tips when your energy screams lack and limitation, your results will be muted (see what I did?) at best.

 

Even if you make some dough forcing yourself to use these tips when you have a crappy underlying energy you will be genuinely unhappy during the journey, Β you’ll likely get sick and you’ll most definitely lose all your money anyway, because your energy still says, “Hey, I’m a failure! I’m an underdog! It’s all a waste of time! Yadda….yadda….yadda.”

 

Overlooking the bay in Savusavu, Fiji.

Overlooking the bay in Savusavu, Fiji.

 

You can’t bullshit the Universe.

 

It’s not the doings.

 

It’s your being.

 

Solutions

 

Blogging is an energy game.

 

Blogging is a being game.

 

If you change your BEING, the DOINGs change.

 

Or, if you are simply BEING, the DOINGs either change, or you’ll do less, or you’ll do the same things but from a detached, chill space.

 

Your energy makes the difference.

 

And when you are being, in the moment, you get to see and feel the:

 

  • limiting beliefs
  • false ideals
  • wickedly strong attachments
  • terrible self esteem beliefs
  • poor self image energies
  • worthiness issues
  • deserving issues
  • lack of self love
  • outright self hate or self loathing

 

or any other low energies that block your happiness, your fun and your dreams.

 

Yep; I have eaten many crap sandwiches before energetic breakthroughs.

 

By being, I felt many rough feelings, but on the other side I was happier, healthier and wealthier.

 

I tuned into advice I resonated with. Whether or not said advice originated in expert round ups.

 

I’m finally realizing that DOING is moot.

 

Howler Monkey at Mombacho, Nicaragua. He's being. Not doing. Trust me. I asked him.

Howler Monkey at Mombacho, Nicaragua. He’s being. Not doing. Trust me. I asked him.

 

BEING in the moment opens you up to everything.

 

Including advice you may or may not resonate with in expert round ups.

 

THEN, you can do, or not do, without being viciously attached to DOING.

 

 

Practical Tips

 

  • breathe deeply throughout the day
  • meditate for 5 minutes or more daily
  • laugh more
  • smile more
  • cry more, when you feel terrible (keeps ya present)
  • invest in a helpful mindset course
  • be
  • exercise regularly
  • be
  • follow your fun
  • live your passion
  • consider taking an icy cold shower (talk to your doctor first) daily

 

Each tip above helps you establish presence of mind. Which keeps you in the moment. Which helps you to BE.

 

Follow your fun. Through your blog. Through life.

 

Then, whether you come across an expert round up, or you see a fellow blogger using a fascinating strategy, the moment will supply you with whatever is required to help you live a free, fun, fascinating life.

 

One Last Point

 

Expert roundup post tips on blogging rock.

 

But only for folks who are energetically aligned to receive the tips.

 

Focus on your energy.

 

Focus on being.

 

Then you may be able to tune into fabulous advice. For you.

  1. Ryan Biddulph says:
    at 10:23 am

    Have you noticed the same thing about expert round ups?

    How they are almost always about DOING, not BEING?

    How are you working on your energy?

    How are you not working on your energy? (think that one through; it’s a riddle)

  2. maxwell ivey says:
    at 12:21 pm

    Hey Ryan; I find that so many people also struggle with the feelings of not being good enough. They worry about rejection of themselves and their ideas. But the truth is round up post authors need contributors. Podcast and radio show hosts as well as blog owners need additional guests and or content. Unless you are pitching the super stars of the blogging world, you are probably going to get a yes. But so many people don’t know that or as you pointed out refuse to believe it. This is why I changed my free gift on my opt in page. I am now offering to review at least one pitch email and offer suggestions. But for the most part my suggestion is just press send. Hey, if the blind carney turned equipment broker can get on radio shows with thousands if not millions of listeners anyone can do it with determination, perseverance, and the willingness to be told yes. I’ll end with what my daddy always told me. That being if you don’t ask, they can’t say yes. Great thing about asking is the more you ask the more they say yes and the bigger things you will find yourself asking for. Take care out there, Max now Internationally known as the Blind Blogger, Host of the What’s Your Excuse Show, and so much more!

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 3:02 pm

      Hi Max,

      You’re doing SO awesome in this area. And you’re doing it by being a people person, by being kind, generous, engaging, helpful and warm. And I know bloggers will resonate with your powerful, clear advice. You offer a simple, incredibly epic message: you can do it! Seriously, no matter where we think we are in life, we can do anything if we’re willing to embrace our lower energy/limiting beliefs, let ’em go and proceed from a more abundant, fun-feeling space. Thanks for the awesome comment my friend!

      Ryan

      • maxwell ivey says:
        at 5:12 pm

        Thanks Ryan; But I recently realized some of my actions weren’t coming from a place of generosity. They were coming from a place of lack. What I mean is if you do things just because of the attention or income they can bring you; then people won’t respond to them. Also, you will lack the passion and energy needed to keep them up. Its the old song about how you can’t do the right thing for the wrong reasons. I was actually reminded of this while reading a dresdon files novel by jim butcher. Hey, I tell people all the time there is wisdom all around us if we just keep our hearts and minds open to it. I would like to end this comment by mentioning that my podcast the What’s Your Excuse Show has openings for people with stories of transformation and overcoming oracles. If one of your readers feels they have a positive story to share, I hope they will send me a message. Thanks again for being the great friend that you are and have been to me. Hoping to get to meet you while in New York. Take care, Max Internationally Known as The Blind Blogger and so much more!

      • Ryan Biddulph says:
        at 12:41 pm

        I find myself doing the same thing sometimes Max πŸ˜‰ Keep being present, breathing deeply, and you will let go the heavier bonds to outcomes so you do stuff for the joy of it πŸ™‚

  3. Adeel Sami says:
    at 12:52 pm

    Hey, Ryan!

    Yippieeee!! I am the first with the comment (I strongly guess so I am this time!!) .. πŸ™‚

    Buddy, why you did not post the picture of that Lambo? πŸ™

    Oh, wait! I am not an active participator of the roundups but I really want to become one.

    Lately, I participated into one or two (submitted just one today)

    There I was just original.

    I wrote my heart out.

    I did not care about if it might be touching the heart of the host of that roundup post but I literally wrote my own words with my own tune.

    I did not care about anything.

    So, did I do right?

    I put my personal views (if not experience) to get in as many fruitful details as I wanted to.

    And so very good luck to you and Kelli for your course! πŸ™‚

    See me often!

    ~ Adeel

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 2:51 pm

      Hi Adeel,

      Heeee’ssss BAAACCKKK LOL! Good to see you bro πŸ˜‰ As for the Lambo we didn’t get a good picture with our cell phone. It was night time, not a good spot. But I may be able to dig up a picture from a car show I visited πŸ˜‰ Happy to hear you’re on round ups! Yep, you did it perfect, offering your take from the heart. Thanks dude!

      Ryan

  4. Julie Syl Kalungi says:
    at 6:32 pm

    Hohoo another Whopper of a post and Adeel Beat me to it lol! πŸ™‚
    Expert Roundups…SO who is an Expert Ryan? where is this Roundup I haven’t been invited to yet? πŸ˜‰

    In my humble view an Expert is the person that Decided they are gonna master something whatver it takes. They go and DO a lot of the same thing till it becomes second nature. It becomes part of their BEing the Expert…And others start to say so of you!
    So Where do I start…Most struggling bloggers Are in that Space …blankland Ryan. They arent open to learning coz They might Be asked to Buy something, God Forbid lol πŸ™‚
    They write 3 paragraph blogs with so little value, and add a 3 minute pitch-fest video and feel they have done enough! I know used to be that person…So It takes Trashing those limiting beliefs to be invited to an Expert Roundup! On that note I await my Invite. Keep rolling em out! By the way When Can I interview you on Your Power Echoes with me Julie Syl Kalungi πŸ˜‰

    Jules

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 12:34 pm

      Hi Julie,

      You can interview me whenever! I’d be honored, thanks SO much for the invite πŸ™‚ Just email me with deets: rbbidd@gmail.com

      Trashing those limiters is the starting point. When we are being, we see and feel these confining ideas so we can embrace ’em and let those suckers go. You’ve been all over for a minute Julie πŸ˜‰ Definitely BEING the inspired person you were meant to be. Thanks much!

      Ryan

      • maxwell ivey says:
        at 12:40 pm

        Hey Ryan; This advice applies to podcasts, radio shows, TV interviews, online summits, etc. Its all about mustering up the courage to stick your hand up and say pick me pick me. πŸ˜€ I just got included in an online summit for self published authors. I got the notice in an email newsletter and sent them my info and proposed topic. What else, I’m going to talk about getting on podcasts and radio shows to promote a book. But thousands of people had this contact information. I am doing well, and I have a strong brand name as the blind blogger; but I’m not a rock star yet. They picked me because I got past the limiting belief that they are only wanting rich famous successful authors. I’ll be doing it on December 17th just a couple days before I leave for New York City. Thanks for encouraging people, Max

  5. maxwell ivey says:
    at 12:44 pm

    I just wanted to share an important point. I recently won an Amtrak writer in residency. They select 24 people out of thousands of applications. I was reading the bios of past winners and almost talked myself out of applying. Until I read a comment on the blog post about last year’s winners. A woman wrote I wish you didn’t only give these to people who are already well established authors or I would apply. I thought how sad that was. It galvanized me to take action. Now buddy, you know me as a supremely confident positive optimistic even courageous individual. But until I read that comment I almost didn’t press send. So, as han solo told c3po don’t ever tell me the odds. I felt your readers could benefit, so hope it was okay to share this experience. Take care my friend. You rock, Max

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:56 am

      I will always approve any comment with a Star Wars reference Max πŸ˜‰

      Great point! Thanks much.

      Ryan

  6. Sathish Arumugam says:
    at 5:04 am

    Hello Ryan,

    Perfect Post Ryan!!
    “The perfect tips” which you have listed is really a useful one because I am following some of those tips from last 5 years. It is giving me a good result, and I am also feeling stress-free while I am engaging with full work.

    From today I am going to start my new perfect tips “Icy Cold shower” for attaining better benefits.

    Thanks for sharing!

    Regards,
    Sathish

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:52 am

      Hi Sathish,

      A brave soul! If you’re doing the icy cold shower routine I KNOW you’re serious about being present, mindful and just plain in the moment πŸ˜‰ Happy to see you’re being versus just doing, by following a daily regimen. Excellent dude. Thanks much!

      Ryan

  7. Don Purdum says:
    at 8:24 am

    Hi Ryan,

    Expert roundup tips… where do I start, lol… πŸ™‚

    I get at least ten requests a week to participate in one and a few months ago. I started declining the majority of them at first because it felt like there was no value in it for me.

    But as I was reading your article, it dawned on me that people weren’t doing it because they wanted to give back, network, and have fun building relationships. They are manipulating in hopes of getting free traffic.

    They are doing it for the same reason you mentioned in your article they should have an email list. Someone told them they should.

    They are pretty easy to spot… and let’s be real for a second. Don’t email and ask me to contribute along with 50, 100 or even 200 other bloggers with a list of “great bloggers and tons of traffic to the roundup”.

    Seriously?

    There will be little to no traffic to my site and it doesn’t help me much at all, it helps them.

    Okay, rant over, lol…

    Positive energy is the key and that’s why I backed off for a little while. Sometimes I just need to do that when I feeling less energetic or optimistic than my normal self.

    You’re right to point out that people sense the negativity and they react to it with negativity.

    You attract that which you are, right?

    Great post Ryan!

    ~ Don Purdum

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:50 am

      Hi Don,

      LOL! The “ask 15,000 bloggers to share their thoughts for a million page views on my blog” Hack hahahaha!

      TOTALLY know what you’re saying. We can feel the intent in most cases, for sure. Some folks want more traffic and try to squeeze it through, by hosting round ups, and other folks just want to help people. The energetic cream rises to the top in both cases.

      Bingo on the energy thing! I too feel sapped here and there, and hold off on responding to some round ups. Better to level up and catch the next invite πŸ˜‰

      Thanks Don!

      Ryan

  8. Donna Merrill says:
    at 8:47 am

    Hi Ryan,

    Round up posts are pretty cool only if they center around a specific topic. Other bloggers that come can be introduced to new and interesting people. But go be on a round up post one must have some kind of track record that has them standing out of the crowd…like you lol. But that is easy peasy because all you need to do is be yourself, kick out good content and be there for people. Then you email will be full of “can you answer one question for my blog” or “I just featured you….” You know the deal…we are in so many round ups together.

    Blogging is an energy game.. If we are really having fun and our heart is in it, we will be noticed. If we speak our own truth…people will hear it. If we love people…they will feel it. When it comes down to it everything is an energy and it all starts within us. If we are freely giving we will be noticed and asked to be in a round up post or a guest.

    Enjoy my friend!

    -Donna

    P.S. Love what you and Kelli are doing πŸ™‚

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 11:47 am

      Hi Donna,

      Exactly! We are playing an energy game. Your round up responses are helping folks in a big league way because you’re doing things from a heart-centered, authentic, good-feeling, loving space. Then, you are connected to everything. That’s the power of aligning regularly before you move into action.

      Thanks a bunch!

      Ryan

  9. Julie says:
    at 5:56 pm

    So much truth here!! There is no quick fix (in blogging or other industries) which will instantly push you up to the top. When we focus on being and increasing energy that will come through in our blog and I believe that attracts people…which will then help your blog grow πŸ™‚

  10. Amar kumar says:
    at 4:54 am

    Hey Ryan,

    The experts that participate in our roundup can send traffic directly to our post by sharing it with their often large social followings. And because a roundup is a compilation of smart insights from knowledgeable figures, it’s the type of content people actively want to share. Eventually, i love your post post due to amazing facts and adventures photo experience.

    With best wishes,

    Amar kumar

    • Ryan Biddulph says:
      at 8:17 am

      Hi Amar,

      Round ups can reel in that sweet traffic πŸ˜‰ As long as readers are doing their energy work they can be open and receptive to expert advice which vibes with them. Thanks for commenting!

      Ryan