The sex appeal screamed at me.
Kelli and I visited Carnegie Hall to see comedian Tig Notaro last week.
Before we cruised into “Wee Andra Carnegie’s” Hall I spotted a flashy, eye-catching, attention-arresting Lamborghini Reventon in front of the Wellington Hotel.
Expert Roundup Post
This is a $2 million dollar car.
This is what the car looked like:
Peter Dinklage needs to bend down to get inside the car.
One of the finest pieces of machinery on the face of the earth.
One of the rarest cars on God’s Green Earth.
I found myself staring at it, my gaze somewhere between vacant (through utter shock) and transfixed by the automobile porn that lay in front of me.
Little Leah Lambo
If I handed the keys to this very car to my 5 month old niece Leah she would do a few things:
- she’d gaze at the keys, the same way she gazes at just about everything
- she’d drool on the keys (I have nicknamed her Ra’s Al Drool, and if you don’t get the reference either Google Ra’s Al or get the hell out of here)
- Leah’d put the keys in her mouth
- after 14 seconds, the keys may or may not be coated with Similac Spit Up
You’re probably thinking right now: has Ryan eaten too many disgustingly ugly (but incredibly tasty!) Thai sweet snacks over the years?
Have the icy cold showers permanently frozen certain cortexes of his brain (Or…..cortii?)?
I just drew an analogy summing up the most dangerous aspect of blogging expert round ups.
Ra’s Al Drool, Lambos and Struggling Bloggers
Expert roundup post tips are as useless in the hands of most bloggers as Lamborghini Reventon keys in the hands of my 5 month old niece.
It has nothing to do with understanding though.
Most bloggers understand how to write a 4 paragraph long comment on Pro Blogger.
Most bloggers understand how to open up an account at Mail Chimp, to build an email list.
The problem has to do with your energy.
Or, the low energy, limiting feelings that you cling to.
As long as your energy screams lack, limitation, hopelessness and failure, my niece has a better chance making that Reventon engine SING, wheeling that sucker around a racetrack at 200 MPH, than you do using expert round up tips to live your wildest dreams.
Here’s what goes through the average, or struggling, blogger’s mind when they read (or rush through) blogging expert round ups:
“These tips don’t work.”
“I’ve tried them already.”
“I can DEFINITELY tell ya which ones don’t work.”
“That Ryan Biddulph is a handsome guy (I appear on many of these round ups).”
“If I can get the 1 tip, trick or hack, out of these, and if I can just DO IT ENOUGH, I can make my failures and struggles disappear….for good!”
“I’ll use a few of these tips for a week or month, then if I don’t see the results I want to see I’ll ditch the strategies.”
I can add 15 million to infinity low energy feelings here but want to watch Netflix in a few.
If these FEELINGS exist in your BEING you will be blind to anything fun and freeing and fulfilling.
Being Not Doing
Telling a blogger who’s energy is filled with lack, limitation and failure to “just build an email list!” is like telling a mute to “just sign this song like Pavoratti”.
Energetically and physiologically impossible.
And even if you see some success, straining and struggling and striving, forcing yourself to use these expert tips when your energy screams lack and limitation, your results will be muted (see what I did?) at best.
Even if you make some dough forcing yourself to use these tips when you have a crappy underlying energy you will be genuinely unhappy during the journey, you’ll likely get sick and you’ll most definitely lose all your money anyway, because your energy still says, “Hey, I’m a failure! I’m an underdog! It’s all a waste of time! Yadda….yadda….yadda.”
You can’t bullshit the Universe.
It’s not the doings.
It’s your being.
Blogging is an energy game.
Blogging is a being game.
If you change your BEING, the DOINGs change.
Or, if you are simply BEING, the DOINGs either change, or you’ll do less, or you’ll do the same things but from a detached, chill space.
Your energy makes the difference.
And when you are being, in the moment, you get to see and feel the:
- limiting beliefs
- false ideals
- wickedly strong attachments
- terrible self esteem beliefs
- poor self image energies
- worthiness issues
- deserving issues
- lack of self love
- outright self hate or self loathing
or any other low energies that block your happiness, your fun and your dreams.
Yep; I have eaten many crap sandwiches before energetic breakthroughs.
By being, I felt many rough feelings, but on the other side I was happier, healthier and wealthier.
I tuned into advice I resonated with. Whether or not said advice originated in expert round ups.
I’m finally realizing that DOING is moot.
BEING in the moment opens you up to everything.
Including advice you may or may not resonate with in expert round ups.
THEN, you can do, or not do, without being viciously attached to DOING.
- breathe deeply throughout the day
- meditate for 5 minutes or more daily
- laugh more
- smile more
- cry more, when you feel terrible (keeps ya present)
- invest in a helpful mindset course
- exercise regularly
- follow your fun
- live your passion
- consider taking an icy cold shower (talk to your doctor first) daily
Each tip above helps you establish presence of mind. Which keeps you in the moment. Which helps you to BE.
Follow your fun. Through your blog. Through life.
Then, whether you come across an expert round up, or you see a fellow blogger using a fascinating strategy, the moment will supply you with whatever is required to help you live a free, fun, fascinating life.
One Last Point
Expert roundup post tips on blogging rock.
But only for folks who are energetically aligned to receive the tips.
Focus on your energy.
Focus on being.
Then you may be able to tune into fabulous advice. For you.