Getting Coked Out in Peru (Not Really) Incapacitated in India Beat Up in Bali Freaked Out in Fiji and Listless in Laos: How My Travel Experiences Make You a Better Blogger

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Back in April of 2013 I had quite the home office view in Cusco, Peru....the mighty Andes Mountains. Who knew I'd be coking out in a few days....well, kinda of coking out.

Back in April of 2013 I had quite the home office view in Cusco, Peru….the mighty Andes Mountains. Who knew I’d be coking out in a few days….well, kinda coked out.

 

Man…did I feel great. This altitude sickness tea gave me a high. Ironic, right?

2 days later I was hunched over a toilet bowl hurling out my guts. It had WHAT in it? Uh oh….

First off, I wasn’t REALLY coked out in Peru. But I was kinda coked out, without knowing it.

I’ve never smoked a cigarette in my life. I haven’t downed more than 2 drinks in 12 years. Heck, I haven’t had a drink in almost 2 years.

The point is I live clean. I eat healthy. I exercise. So when I found out the altitude sickness tea I was downing in large doses, in Cusco, Peru, had trace amounts of coca in it, I flipped.

So, that’s what clouded my judgment, so much so that I ate food that tasted funny, but boy did it go down smooth. Until….it came back up with a vengeance.

Now, know that “trace” amounts of coca in a highly tuned body already hyper sensitive to caffeine can cause a case of the jitters that would make me go bananas.

 

Introduction: Blogging Lessons

 

Before I dive into my Peruvian experience I want you to know; even if your life doesn’t seem as zany as mine, or your trials and tribulations, not as exotic, you can extract lessons from any circumstance. Any.

Whether you’re an office worker, work at home mom, college student or retired grand dad you’ll find and mine more good from tough situations that you can dream of….if you’re looking.

That’s the great secret: searching. Look back on the most unpleasant situations of your life. How did you get through them? What did you learn from them?

You’d never see Blogging from Paradise unless I experienced my more wild moments. Hey; if you’re making an omelet you’ll break some eggs.

So….without further delay….

 

Getting Coked Out in Peru

 

I had hurled for like the 10th time in the past 4 hours. I thought nothing was left. The ground was cold. When the sun drops in Cusco, so do the temperatures. Gone was the sunny, cheery day, some 73 degrees, and warm.

I was hunched over a toilet, with 30 degree temps invading an apartment with no heating. Actually the apartment rocked. It was huge, and had dramatic, sweeping views of the Andes Mountains. I even had 4 heavy blankets to cover myself with when sleeping.

Unfortunately covering yourself with blankets is not an option when you’re getting violently ill in the bathroom.

Pick it up. Or at least read the endorsements....then pick it up.

Pick it up. Or at least read the endorsements….then pick it up.

 

I had to cancel my Machu Picchu trip. I could barely drag myself to the plane in Cusco, to head back to Lima, 2 days after being sick. To make matters worse, Kelli was in Iquitos for this 2 week stretch.

I had to do this all on my own. That was the biggest blessing of my experience.

 

The Mistake

 

I drank mata de coca without reading the label, or knowing its ingredients. My mind raced, my body went bonkers, and I heartily downed food, that, even though I knew tasted bad, or off, or spoiled, I just needed, because I was so darn amped up.

 

The Result

 

Food poisoning. Suffering for 3 days. Missing Machu Picchu.

 

The Blogging Lesson

 

Be mindful of what you feast on, advice wise. Heck, during those Peru days you’d have been foolish to listen to some of my advice. Not just because I was drinking the coca.

I had many mental blocks to dissolve. So I offered some great advice, and some poor advice to boot.
 

(Watch me present a short lead in to this post…from the gorgeous beaches of Savusavu, Fiji….across the street from our place….change the settings to 720HD and enjoy this video…)

 
Before you consume and digest any blogging advice you better trust the source. You never know what you’re sinking your teeth into – or downing – unless you check the source of the blogging advice, their successes, and the people who back the blogging pro.

 

Incapacitated in India

 

“His pulse is feeble. We’ll start the IV immediately.”

This is what I heard from the doctor, after Kelli and my Indian friend/home owner Santos pulled me out of the bed as if I were a rag doll and rushed me to the emergency room. I hadn’t eaten anything in 10 days. 10 days. I was holding no fluids. After a bumpy, excruciating tuk tuk ride, 45 minutes long to the hospital, I was done….

When we were in Muhamma, India, something felt off. I experienced a severe case of diarrhea and lost my appetite. Must just be a case of Delhi belly, or better yet, Muhamma mayhem, since we were a big distance from Delhi at the time.

After putting off a visit to the doctor I finally caved one night. I felt like shit. To the emergency room we went. I hadn’t vomited up until that point, but once the upset stomach meds he gave me went down, they came right back up.

In November 2013 I tried out for the part of Gollum. How did I do? Picture taken from Muhamma, India....after I gained 5 pounds.

In November 2013 I tried out for the part of Gollum. How did I do? Picture taken from Muhamma, India….after I gained 5 pounds.

 

I was toast at this point. 1 AM, and totally gone. But the silly guy that I am, I didn’t feel like going back to the emergency room.

When I woke at 5 AM, I felt like I might be dying. I couldn’t move more than a few inches. I could peer into the mirror, and see sunken check bones, and if I turned around, I could see the vertebrae protruding through my back.

That morning though, I stopped hiding my misery from Kelli. I was a rag doll. Kelli and Santos had to pick me up and drag me around. Not good.

After receiving the IV infusion and antibiotics it took me 3 more weeks – and another wave of POWERFUL antibiotics – to get somewhat back to normal. That means, I was able to walk more than 30 feet without losing my breath.

6 weeks later I was back to normal. I’ve never been happier, or more grateful, in my life. The culprit; giardia.

Before we move on, this is how I normally look: a current day picture from Savusavu, Fiji.

When I'm not suffering from giardia, this is how I usually look.

When I’m not suffering from giardia, this is how I usually look.

 

The Mistake

 

I didn’t get help when I needed it. After 2 days I knew something was off. I suffered a wave of severe nausea at the bus station in Kochi yet didn’t think twice after the wave passed. My appetite vanished for a few days.

Yet I put off the inevitable. Something was wrong, after feeling not good, for a few days. This wasn’t the typical food poisoning or stomach issues.

I made excuses, and tried to con myself into thinking that I was OK. I sure wasn’t.

Finally I went to the first doctor. He didn’t understand that something was really wrong. He just gave me some Pepto. I was pissed, frustrated, and when I returned home I started vomiting. I should have turned right back around, yet I waited 5 or 6 hours and found myself in a dangerous situation.

 

The Result

 

Well, you saw how skinny I was. I was knocked out for a good 4 weeks, and spent 2 more getting back to normal. This was by far the most I’ve suffered in my life and it was also the sickest I’ve ever been, and if I’d waited another day or 2, my electrolytes may have reached critically low levels.

 

The Blogging Lesson

 

When you see warning signs that something is wrong with your blog, heed the signs.

I recall a few folks emailing me, and Facebook messaging me, with requests to PLEASE change my theme, because it looked terrible, back in 2013. I ignored the requests. I knew better. I was clear on my theme, or so I thought.

So, after a few month’s worth of getting these emails, I put off the inevitable; I needed a new them, of course, but I kept putting off this pressing problem.

The problem grew, and grew, because each respected blogger I came across, who I could have impressed, passed on my blog because among other things, the theme was a bit whack.

Lesson: don’t put off blogging problems, or issues, because they won’t fix themselves. Like the nasty little giardia in my belly, if you ignore it, you’ll become sicker and sicker, and will prolong your suffering.

I talked to someone who spotted his giardia after 1 day of suffering through the malaise in Nepal. He went on strong antibiotics right away. Although he felt sick due to the dosage he was up on his feet in days. I on the other hand, knew something was up after a few days but put off the problem until I had to be carried like a rag doll into the emergency room for an IV injection.

Address your blogging problems now. Whether you need a new theme, or whether you need to stay on topic, or whether you need to simply scrap your blog to start a new blog, with a new domain, and topic, do it today. Start creating value. Start commenting…yes, click that link to check out my friend Carol Amato’s awesomely inspired post which helps you save time commenting.

 

Address your problems.

The problem will only grow if you don’t address the issue.

 

Beat up in Bali

 

I couldn’t catch my breath. I struggled like hell to do so but it wasn’t happening. My eyes were popping out of my head. Was I dying? Here in Bali? I tried to gasp but to no avail.

I remember Kelli looking at me with terror in her eyes.

Did my ribs pierce my lungs? Were these my last breaths?….Oh my God…this is it.

These thoughts raced through my mind after I hit the pavement in Bali. Kelli and I suffered a motorbike accident in Jimbaran. I drive like a grandpa, but an unfortunate turn of events led to me losing control of the motorbike, catapulting me, Superman style, some 5 to 10 feet so I hit the pavement chest and shoulder first.

I recalled seeing a dog who’d just been hit. Her paw and leg were mangled. I was disgusted. Shaking my head, I turned back to the road. A split second later I saw the box truck in front of us had spun out. Why? How?…..

…..a split second later I found my answers. We hit an oil slick. When you hit a slick on a motorbike, you’re toast.

How pretty is Bali? Kelli and our friend Agram strolling on the beach.

How pretty is Bali? Kelli and our friend Agram strolling on the beach.

 

Kelli fell sideways and scraped her elbow and knee up something nasty. I landed chest and right shoulder first. After not being able to catch my breath for some 20 seconds, and believing that I was dying, I recall getting on the bike, riding back home (what a trooper, I know), and then feeling woozy and nauseous as I walked to my bed.

Once the adrenaline wore off I suffered excruciating, stabbing, mind-numbing pain in my back whenever I shifted a certain way. My elbows hurt like holy hell and my right shoulder became scarred for life.

Not sure how many layers of skin I lost after hitting the pavement but now, almost 2 years to the day, after the accident, I’m sporting a noticeable scar. Even after getting plenty o’ tans in paradise.

Until I go to the grave it’ll be my reminder of that crazy day.

I rested in bed for 4 days. I didn’t get on the motorbike for a few weeks because grasping the handles caused unbearable pain in my arms and back. I began exercising again some 3 weeks after the accident.

I felt blessed; many folks in similar accidents don’t leave the hospital for months. I felt grateful to have a strong, fit body to absorb the impact.

 

The Mistake

 

I took my eyes off of the road to focus on the dog with the mangled leg. I didn’t so much do it from a compassionate place, as I did it from a “Why in the hell don’t folks have these street dogs spayed?”

Shaking my head, and feeling bad, I totally took my eyes off of the road. When I looked back it was too late. I was done.

After hitting the slick I blacked out until I recalled waking up, not being able to breathe properly.

 

The Result

 

4 days lying in bed, excruciating pain in my back, and lungs, and a scar for life on my shoulder….as well as no exercise for a good 3 weeks.

 

The Blogging Lesson

 

Do not take your eyes off of THE goal. By THE goal I mean inspiring people through the value that you’re sharing.

Do not predominantly move your attention to:

  • Making money
  • Page views
  • Social shares
  • How little your traffic has grown
  • How unhappy you are with your blog

Stats can provide you with a guide point; if you have 100% energy to use each day, use 2% to check stats, maybe once a week, and decide whether or not to make changes according to the stat trends.

Then, for the rest of the week, spend some 80% of your energy each day on blogger outreach and 20% creating freakin’ epic, awesome content.

You’ll succeed wildly by devoting virtually all of your energy to creating awesome content and by connecting with awesome leaders in your niche.

If you move your focus to something other than the purest intent, your regression will accelerate, and you’ll find yourself struggling.

I could have glanced at the dog, felt bad for a split second, then I could have decided to send my positive, healing energy her way. Instead I got to head shaking, and getting angry at ignorant people for either driving too damn fast, or for perpetuating canine suffering as there are so many street dogs in Bali, due to the lack of spaying and neutering.

As I was busy shaking my head (negative energy) I missed the potential disaster in front of me, until it was too late. Lesson learned.

Bloggers, even if you appear to be struggling, devote your energies to creating the best content. Learn from authorities in your niche. Write in-depth comments on their sites and promote the heck out of them.

In time, you’ll become an authority too when you devote virtually all of your positive energies to some worthy, pure blogging ideal, like inspiring folks by creating epic content and through connecting with leaders in your niche.

 

Freaked Out in Fiji

 

The email read, “Site Suspended.” How the hell could this be? I just had my blog exactly how I wanted it. I haven’t been able to work for a week as is, as I flew from Thailand to Fiji.

What the heck am I going to do now? Remove certain pages? Trash the blog?

When I told Kelli about trashing my old blog (which deep down, I knew I should have done 4 months ago)…she flipped out.  I flipped out, mentally, the night before, and she flipped out the following day….all that work over the past 4 years, totally wasted…..she was angry….really angry….at me.

OK, no bodily trauma here. For once, this was a pure mental thing. I flipped out a little, mentally, the night that my old blog was suspended. Folks were sending me messages and I hadn’t heard back from my hosting service.

But when I told Kelli the following day she flipped.

#1, her blog was down too which made her an unhappy camper.

#2, she thought I was throwing so much work away.

#3, she was having a moment.

I remained pretty calm, and Kelli cooled off quickly because I was calm. Then we moved forward.

Fiji sunset from the front deck. I was not freaked out when snapping this shot.

Fiji sunset from the front deck. I was not freaked out when snapping this shot.

 

Note: Kelli is almost always calm, chill, supportive and relaxed. She has mastered the LOA manifesting bit on many levels, having attracted some absolutely awesome abundance through her writing ventures, and she’s seeing quick, immense success with her blog too.

This story was all about the flipping session I had at 3 AM, and the succeeding brief flipping out directed at me from a loving, supportive person, who was having a moment, some 7 hours later.

In the middle of the Fijian night I decided to completely trash 3400 blog posts, 4 year’s worth of writing and a few online ventures I’ve engaged in for those 4 years.

I proceeded to purchase the domain bloggingfromparadise.com and all was history.

By the time I was chatting with Kelli I was pretty darn clear, and believed in the shift I was making, so a moment or 2 of some anger didn’t faze me. She chilled. I was chill. We moved on.

This one wasn’t too crazy on a face level but when you think about tossing away, or releasing, 3400 blog posts and over 10,000 hour’s worth of work, that’s kinda nuts.

 

The Mistake

 

Holding on too damn long. I knew back in April to ditch the blog. I resisted. I was punished for many months, working like a dog to see mediocre results with the blog.

 

The Result

 

Suffering. Working too hard to achieve mediocre results.

 

The Blogging Lesson

 

Let go folks. Check out your blog. If you don’t feel 100%, or like, 95%, clear on your ideal reader, and if you aren’t blogging your passion, and if the domain name, to the title, to the tagline, to the posts, to the ads, to the images, to the pages, to everything in your blog, top down….if all elements don’t align….scrap it.

Or if you don’t scrap it, be content with being a mediocre blogger. If you want to make a few bucks each month, and make some friends, go for it.

But if you want to inspire a ton of people and meet a ton of friends, and if you want to see some of the most beautiful places on earth, you need to let go of any blog where you are lacking full clarity in all that you do….and you need to let go of any blog where all of the elements are not clear, and fully aligned, because you’ll give off a confusing vibe and you’ll miss the chance to make a real impact.

 

Listless in Laos

 

“Your mom has Alzheimer’s. The test came back positive.”

I remember my brother in law Jamie – who’s been waging his own battle with brain cancer – saying the words clearly.

I was sitting in a rundown hostel in Luang Prubong. Kelli was sleeping. I walked outside. I started crying. I cried, and cried, and cried. I was so f*ckin broke, not knowing where my next dollar was coming from, and sick of staying in these dives.

I was sick of living off of those cheap, $1 USD subs with nothing but mayo and lettuce and tomatoes. Now my mom is sick.

How much worse can life get, I thought?

Have you noticed the lack of Laos pictures on my blog? That’s because Kelli and I had no money at that point during our trip. We didn’t want to record this time of our life. We had no money, and we also had no camera, and we were panicking.

A perfect storm of unfortunate events combined with some unsound financial planning led to….well….having no money.

We were living off of $1 submarine style sandwiches filled with only tomatoes and lettuce and a little dressing in Luang Prubang. We also lived off of Western Union payments from my dad.

Hey, we attracted the situation. I guess we wanted the entire experience, living through this life thing.

Then, I got the news about my mom. I’ve since adopted a much more positive outlook on her health and life, but at the moment, I felt like the Universe was hitting me in the balls, after I was down on the canvas already.

I can’t begin to explain how down I felt. Or how down we felt. Kelli was still struggling with losing her dad to cancer not a few years before, and we had like between $50 to $100 to our name, on some days, and a lot less on other days…..and then, amidst experiencing the misery of being broke, I get the news about my mom.

Life was rough.

I prefer to remember Laos with a stunning, current day picture of Fiji. This is the road I walk on to the grocery store each day.

I prefer to remember Laos with a stunning, current day picture of Fiji. This is the road I walk on to the grocery store each day.

 

But, we were at ground zero. It really couldn’t get a ton worse. We were broken down. We actually started to become grateful for, and excited about, that sandwich we’d buy each night.

We felt good to be walking around, being able to enjoy a quaint little town in Laos….yet as Kelli mentioned in a recent post, I recall looking at some of the maids in Laos, a Communist country with many severely repressed individuals living way below the poverty line, and thinking:

“They probably have more money than us, right now.”

I was disgusted by this fact, but then I laughed at the idea. It humbled me.

The whole situation humbled me. Which was great, because it formed the foundation for my current success.

 

The Mistake

 

Terrible financial planning, not creating value, not saving money, not connecting with authority bloggers, no clarity on my blog, not enough mental science, and overall, ignorance of success principles, and an unwillingness to address problems, that if I would have addressed, would have freed me and us, financially.

 

The Result

 

Being freakin’ broke. All types of misery. I couldn’t shine bright for online folks and I certainly couldn’t inspire them when I was living in such a low energetic state.

 

The Blogging Lesson

 

Open up multiple streams of income. If you’re blogging just to make money online, stop it. Blog to create value. Blog to inspire.

BTW, check out this uber inspired guest post by my friend Pooja Lohana at Problogger.

Blog to help. Blog to serve.

Open up income streams through your blog, and open up income streams outside of blogging, or offline, or do whatever you need to do, to make enough money to take care of the basics. Put a roof on your head, food on your table and start saving money.

Kelli and I have since opened savings accounts. We also each have retirement accounts, and I have a pension from my old security guard job.

Save money. Do what you gotta do, whether it’s asking relatives for money, or friends for money, or working some online or offline job, to make enough money to cover the basics.

After this breaking down we got more serious about opening up income streams. Kelli attracted a ton more writing jobs than I but I helped her by writing a bunch of articles.

One day I recall writing 24 articles. I am not kidding. When this opportunity availed itself I jumped on it, and Kelli was and is an article writing machine.

We also got UBER serious about personal development at this point, doubling down on meditation, visualization and affirmation, to tune into abundance and to move away from a place of lack and limitation.

As for my mom, I had to learn to embrace and process grief. It was a painful blow at a rough time in my life but experiencing suffering and grief made me more compassionate, and appreciative of the fact that she was still around.

 

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37 Comments

  1. donna merrill

    Where do I begin Ryan?

    This is one Epoch post! By sharing your stories and applying it to blogging lessons…I was riveted to this post.

    I’m sure glad you changed your blog and your style too. I can see since you have done that, the improvements worked! Your pillar posts are incredible. I enjoy coming here all the time.

    Yes, sometimes we do procrastinate don’t we? I did with my blog and had the same thing going on. Other bloggers were telling me to change the theme, and the background. When I realized the theme was messing up things, I changed it and now I can see the difference. Easier to read and less problems on my blog.

    I like the point you made with your accident in Bali. You took your eye off the road for a second and boom! Sage advice here when you said “Do not take your eyes off of THE goal. By THE goal I mean inspiring people through the value that you’re sharing.”

    But I must say that the first example you gave about drinking that tea must have been a horrid experience….read the label… Before purchasing any product in business, we have to search out what exactly is it going to do for us.

    As a product creator, I have to write what exactly it is going to do for my client base.

    This point really stuck out to me as a marketer. I only wish I could comment on each point, but it would read like an ebook he he he.

    Thanks so much Ryan, for creating this wonderful post.

    -Donna
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Donna, Wow, thanks so much for your kind words. Your blog theme looks awesome; so clear and clean, it really pops. I also dig your story telling style, and your monstrous community does too. The Bali accident was rough at the time but I learned to be a more alert blogger through the experience, and I also was a more alert motorbike driver too. Thanks again Donna, appreciate it.

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  2. kelli

    Hi Ryan
    Wow…what can I say? Having lived the experience with you, I can attest everything you said certainly happened just as it did. I was truly blown away by this post…your talent for making connections between your life experience and what you can learn about blogging is like nothing I have ever seen on anyone’s blog. This is a great mix of entertainment, learning more about you and super-helpful, actionable tips for becoming a better blogger.
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Kelli, Thanks so much….you’ve been here for the ride so you know what time it is. I enjoyed writing this one so much; I’m glad my intent and energy is shining through. Thanks again lovee :)

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  3. Phillip Dews

    Man I remember that time buddy, India, I remember thinking that you gone off the face off the earth, to go from
    a highly active social media guy to nothing at all for those weeks; I can tell you I was worried and messaging
    everyone to see if you were ok.

    Sound like it was very serious, I naturally knew it was serious back then, but man, reading this post I had not known how much. I bet you have learned a lot now, Hindsight hey buddy. At one point, I was nearly going to publish a guest post on the old blog to keep it running and to stop losing your traffic. I did notice a big drop, but in the end I decided not to publish without your approval.

    Seriously dude you only had one drink in the past decade! Wow, thats awesome buddy! However be warned I will be Getting you one on mine and Lou’s 40th and when you get here to the UK. Not your decision, another 1 or 2 won’t hurt in this decade dude.

    I now go and have long breaks of 4 or 5, 6,7 and even longer days when am dry and sober. It’s great but still
    I only have 2 or 3 pints on my non-dry days. At the end of the day, I control it and not the drink controlling me. At the end of the day, a pint of Ale is a pleasurable pastime that I am passionate about. Did you know that Obama now brew’s ale at the white house?

    have a look at the video series as one of them is about brewing ale there, plus a few more interesting ones like the honeybees and such. http://www.whitehouse.gov/about/inside-white-house/video-series I found it very interesting, and I am sure you will too, assuming you not already seen it.

    I love the piece about blogging problems and the theme issues you had, Actually I remember that old theme when I got back to blogging in September 2013 and how I wished I could convince you to hire me back then. I can say that it was looking dire and tired dude.

    This current one now is great but I need to build a new bespoke one from scratch as you well know you cannot update it without changing the styling elements I put in place. So it would be much better for you If I make a brand new one from the ground up, Plus it would be better for me also as I will be able to say that I truly built it and not hacked another theme. Have decided am starting on it tomorrow on my testing domain dude. Good time’s ahead :-)

    You really have been through the wars hey dude, in my 38 years the only accidents I have had is breaking a wrist falling out of a shopping trolly a week before my 21st Birthday on a Friday night with the lads, and spraining my ankle a few weeks ago. Oh nearly forgot I had a severe case of 22 hours a day, six weeks worth of hiccups that the doctors could not get their head rounds after about 4 visits to the hospital. I still get bad cases that last from 2 to 6 hours even now. But six weeks that was a killer.

    I love you blogging lesson after that motorcycle section dude. I got these two upright crocodile clips on my desk in front of me, one says; You Are Calm. The second; Keep your eye on the prize. Both of which I made myself. Something I have learned a lot is writing things down and planning my day every morning; well most mornings that is, I still love to have those lazy days. But one thing I must learn to conquer is to stop spending loads of time doing the geeky coding bit and get into a better routine of blog commenting and outreach. That’s the next Prize I am aiming for.

    Ah, the Freaking out in Fiji bit, I am just so glad I was here for you buddy. I had wondered if throwing all that work away was the right decision dude, but hey life if full of forks in the road, and I am sure you are glad you took the track less travelled hey! I too am glad I got rid of my last nine months worth of posts as I too had no direction for that blog. A brave thing to do and I assume not many bloggers out there would have the guts to do that. I applaud you dude.

    I had wondered on your epic world tour dude if you were ever in a situation of having no money, know I know, Wow if ever there was an honest statement this is it. It’s always good to take the positive outlook, hey look at me after losing my mum and Christmas day all those years back now, I could be a sad little hermit now being broke and destitute; I think about my mum every day still and yes it get’s me down but I shrug my shoulders and look forward to the days ahead.

    Excellent advice, I too have a few pensions knocking about and a fat saving account. As I have gotten older a saying my dad always said to me now makes a lot more sense to me ‘Don’t live beyond your means!’ I am starting to plan on investing in property now as a fallback to the coding, geeky and blogging career that I love.

    Dude what a top post and a very refreshingly honest one. What about the story in Nepal? Did someone try and fight you? I seem to remember something about that or am I mistaken?
    Phew this was a comment hey! Have a great day dude.

    – PD

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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi PD, Wow thanks so much, what an awesome comment. Yep, the guy in Nepal, or 2 guys, and I have about 5 more….this would be 20,000 words, and I want it to be, if I included it all….you do remember it so well. A guy bit me in Kathmandu. Crazy stuff. Maybe an eBook? As for the theme, I am SO loving this one, so we’ll keep it as is for now. If you want to do it on the side – but only if you have time as I know you’re super busy with clients – feel free, but again….all is good for now as I want to keep some consistency for branding purposes. Thanks so much though PD, for all of your stories, your knowledge, and hey, ain’t nothing wrong with some ale dude….enjoy ;) RB

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      1. Phillip Dews

        Hey Matey,

        Yep I sure am busy, I may actually be getting a new client shortly and this person is a big name in the social media world. really excited dude so hopefully this person will hire me, need to have a Skype chat first.

        I will take my time on the theme anyway and do it in my spare time or when the urge takes me. Remember what Zuck said about websites should never be finished and continually evolving and changing. I know there can me some improvements made on this already.

        As for branding, well I know that you are one of my most fussy ones so don’t worry I will keep to the same look, feel and style. Just goto think of a name for the theme. how does Paradise grab you? Or even better Paradise Living? I personally like the latter.

        Have a great day dude.
        – PD
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        1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

          Yep, I have a pretty darn clear vision. PD feel free to call it whatever you’d like….and all the best with your client. You too :)

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  4. Pooja

    Hey Ryan!

    Aww. My heart went out for you for what you endured in India. Bummer.

    But on the flip side, isn’t that the real beauty of travelling? It can make adversity look like a blessing, if you’re really watching and listening. Just like you took blogging lessons from those episodes. :-)

    Your tips are stellar, and my favourite one is “Do not take your eyes off of THE goal. By THE goal I mean inspiring people through the value that you’re sharing.”

    Well-said! Deliver value; think of how you can help the other person before you’re even thinking business. The same rule applies for networking, both online (such as on LinkedIn) and offline.

    And, thank you so much for mentioning my post on ProBlogger Ryan. :-)

    Speak soon!

    Pooja
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Pooja, my absolute pleasure, your post was seriously top notch. Yep, you summed it up nicely; when we face adversity we see the blessing in the situation, either in the moment or at some later time. That’s the key; seeing the good amid the tough times. Thanks so much Pooja.

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  5. Sunday

    Hi Ryan,
    Life deals out its blows from time to time not because it cares for us but its just following its set course! The only way to make our experiences acceptable or likeable is to mentally prepare for the best of every situation.

    Your experiences are reflections of the different things that could happen to us when we least expect. However, being prepared with the right mind set that challenges are but for a moment helps us achieve the best!

    This post was found in kingged where it was shared and upvoted.

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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Sunday, Having the right mindset helps you get through anything life throws at us. Keep positive, be grateful, be present as much as humanly possible, and we can cut through many situations like a hot knife through butter. Thanks so much for sharing.

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  6. Brittany Bullen

    Ryan,

    Of course it was only a matter of time before I read this one, but as always, you’ve inspired me in a way only you can. Your way of life and insights about life/blogging, as well as Kelli’s, are definitely worth sharing.

    I think my favorite part about what you said is that it’s important to take the focus off of making money and blog to inspire. Chasing traffic, chasing dollars, chasing shares, and chasing followers is not the path to a peaceful life.

    That’s why I LOVE your philosophy about networking as your primary traffic building strategy– because the only thing you’re chasing there is friends, and who couldn’t use more friends? I’m curious, besides commenting and a little bit of social listening on twitter from time to time, do you have any other regular networking pursuits?
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Brittany, I’m huge on sharing through Triberr, and also, with the surge in recent requests….I chat through email too. But honest, to do commenting right I need to spend most of my day in the comments field. Thanks so much Brittany.

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  7. Dennis

    When I started online way back then, my dream was to blog like you…that path lead me to the internet marketing world and online startups….and I have since never been able to start my dream of blogging in paradise like you Ryan.

    I’m recently testing out a remote digital working environment so i can work from anywhere. My team members are having a harder time adjusting so it is a process.

    Thank you for sharing your tips and experiences. It takes a LOT of guts to go through all those things!
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Dennis, You seem to be well on your way. Keep on testing, keep on persisting, and do make sure to pick up my eBook to help you keen your dream alive….or to rekindle that spark a bit….thanks so much Dennis for sharing.

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  8. Andrew M. Warner

    Hey Ryan,

    {claps hand} Bravo my friend …. Bra-freaking-vo.

    Absolutely loved this post and there’s so much to love about it. The anecdotes for each point that you made were vivid and made it feel as though I was right there.

    The tie in to how each of those stories relates to a blogging lesson.

    I’m just amazed right now. Don’t even know where to start but I guess no better place to start than at the beginning.

    Your blogging lesson for the experience in Peru is spot on. You said, “Before you consume and digest any blogging advice you better trust the source. You never know what you’re sinking your teeth into – or downing – unless you check the source of the blogging advice, their successes, and the people who back the blogging pro.”

    This is key. With so many bloggers out there trying to “make it”, many of them just try to lie their way to success and will force feed you horrible advice in hopes that you would purchase what they’re offering. Whether a product or service. You do have to research people first and study what other people are saying about them … to go and trust a blogging pro blindly (without knowing their background, their content, or what they’ve done) is foolish.

    Your blogging lesson from India is very true. And first let me say that sounded like a horrendous experience in India. Glad that you bounced back from that. Now, you had said, “Address your blogging problems now. Whether you need a new theme, or whether you need to stay on topic, or whether you need to simply scrap your blog to start a new blog, with a new domain, and topic, do it today. Start creating value.”

    This is true. The hardest thing to do sometimes is to admit that you’ve made a mistake and no matter how much other people are seeing that mistake, you, being stubborn, choose to ignore it. Bad mistake. People are making you aware of the mistake because they not only care about you, but they also know that it’s something that should be addressed.

    Your blogging lesson from Bali is gold. You should NEVER take your eyes off the ultimate goal you’re trying to achieve. Many people want to have a successful blog but they sometimes take their eyes off the goal and start focusing on trying to make money right away. If you stick with your original plan, money will come naturally.

    Your blogging lesson from Fiji is something many people would never consider and that’s what will make them always remain a mediocre blogger. At times, if things aren’t working out the way you expected, you just have to let go and start fresh. Great advice.

    Finally, your blogging lesson from Loas is important. As a blogger, you should NEVER rely on one source of income. Main reason is because you never know when that specific source of income is going to stop coming in. You should be involved in as many things as your business can handle. That means Info Products, Affiliate Marketing, Freelancing, Coaching, Speaking Engagements, etc. Choose a few avenues and continue to do it effectively.

    Ryan my friend, great stuff. Your story continues to inspire me each and every time I read a post on your blog. Keep up the great work and you and Kelli have an awesome weekend.

    – Andrew
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Andrew….Your comments continue to amaze me. Awesome, awesome my friend. You said it; keep those income streams flowing, multiple ones that is, and keep your eyes on a pure intent. No better way to rock out the online bit. As for India, it was crazy. When I wrote posts on my old blog I never stressed how bad it was, covering my sickness. My picture kinda drills the point home lol…..thanks SO much Andrew…you too :)

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  9. TimothyTorrents

    Crazy post Ryan, thanks for sharing all of those interesting life experiences. The India sickness part sounds quite scary!

    I’m going to head over to Thailand for a week next month and I’m definitely going to pay attention what I eat.

    Oh, and I finally finished your book! I’ll leave a review on Amazon soon.
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Timothy, Wow awesome, thanks so much. Hey Enjoy Thailand buddy….and you should be fine there. I’ve never been sick in Siam ;) Pretty high health standards there. Where are you headed?

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  10. Catherine Holt

    Taking and asking for advice is a huge part of blogging. To think that you know it all, or you have everything covered is very shallow thinking.

    For my day job Im a social worker, and I have been doing it for 14years. However I am an expert in some areas and others I don’t have a clue. If I dont know something I will ask…I am not going to pretend to get by just because I have 14 years behind me. The same goes for blogging (which I havnt been doing for 14 years!). There are experts in all different fields and we would be simply foolish to ignore their suggestions.

    As for making changes, I think this makes sense for an evolving blog. Nothing can stay static, including your theme, content and maybe even the style. You need to constantly review and change it up.

    Sharing this through Triberr Ryan :-)

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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Catherine, Perfectly said…..we can always learn if we’re open to learning, and if we’re willing to learn from the day to day experiences in our lives. Just being open makes all the difference in the world. Thanks so much Catherine.

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  11. Karl Ace

    Funny, that pic of yours in India. Never thought a banana on hand will represent that country LOL. Anyway, Machu Picchu is a dream destination for me.
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Karl, kind of nuts….As for as MP, me too….I hope to get back to Cusco one day to see it. Thanks so much.

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  13. Lux

    You are living the life, brother. Good for you. And thanks for these tips.
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Lux, really appreciate it, and I appreciate your support. Enjoy your weekend.

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  14. Lewis LaLanne

    This part of your piece . . .

    ‘“They probably have more money than us, right now.”

    I was disgusted by this fact, but then I laughed at the idea. It humbled me.

    The whole situation humbled me. Which was great, because it formed the foundation for my current success.’

    . . . reminds me of a story told about Trump, where when he’d lost EVERYTHING and was in debt for millions, he was walking down the street with his wife and they were discussing the situation and to put things into a clearer perspective, he pointed out a homeless person on the street and said, “That person there with those dollar bills and change in his hat has a higher net worth than I do.”

    Man, I loved reading all of your stories and the Laos one reminded me of something I learned from Tony Robbins in his Ultimate Business Mastery seminar.

    I can’t remember what story he told to introduce the concept, but I remember the concept – Resourcefulness is more important than resources.

    It’s so cool to see this be a recurring theme in your stories – your mental, emotional, and physical resources helping you become resourceful in shitty situations and how you’ve used all of these events to make you more and more resourceful in your life.

    I’m now looking forward to seeing the ever evolving resourcefulness of Ryan and Kelli.

    PS. I don’t know if you’re a Conan O’Brien fan or not, but whenever I hear the term “Coked Out, the first thing I think of is his “Coked Out Werewolf” character from his show. Ha!

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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Hi Lewis, Awesome story about Trump. The man is a titan by keeping cool in any situation, and by putting things in perspective. Huge fan of Conan but like, 20 years ago….or 15? I missed that skit but man it must have been funny. Thanks so much Lewis.

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  19. Nick @ Goats On The Road

    Love this article and how you laid it out with the lessons you learned and the things that went through your mind. Really like the way you describe each horrible event and even though it can be hard to reflect on them sometimes, it’s good that you learned from them.

    I did come to one part of this post and I stopped… I was totally shocked and I could only think one thing:

    “Oh no! Flexing mirror selfie! Hahah.”

    Great article Ryan. You’ve been through some things man! Seen some stuff! (Family Guy ref)

    As long as you’re always learning then these are just minor speed bumps on an otherwise blissful road of life :)
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      LOL on the Family Guy ;) Thanks guys!

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  20. Nick @ Goats On The Road

    Oh another thing… I totally agree with the “fix your blog problems now” that you learned from the giardia. I can’t imagine how many chances Goats On The Road missed out on in the beginning because we had a crappy design. Well, it wasn’t too crappy, but I made it and it was pretty bad.

    Also, you’re already a fit guy so you had some weight to loose! When we first started travelling in 2008, I got sick twice in a row about a week apart. Once in India and once in Indonesia and both of the sicknesses lasted 10 days.

    Back then I was naturally a skinny dude, but after those two sicknesses you could see my hip bones, my vertebrae, my elbows! If you saw me just standing there you’d think I was dying or something. 3 FULL WEEKS after being sick and after eating a normal amount of food and gaining weight, we flew back to Canada. The first time I found a scale I stood on it and I weighed 135 lbs! 6ft tall, 135 pounds. I was probably 130 at my worst.

    I made the same mistakes as you and just didn’t get it dealt with in time (mind you in Indonesia, there weren’t doctors where we were). We also learned a lot from those times and I’m glad now that i’ve built up some immune system.

    Now that I’ve learned from the mistakes, I’m a better, healthier traveller with two more stories to tell!

    Great article again. Cheers.
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    1. Ryan Biddulph (Post author)

      Wow Nick, 135? That is crazy! I know the feel though, of just being so sick that you drop so much weight. It really is cathartic in its own way and signals a new beginning, but can be brutal. Yep, ditto on the healthier traveler thing here too ;) Thanks so much for the awesome comment!

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