“For the night is dark, and full of terrors.” ~ Melisandre
I reached for moldy door, wondering what lethal predator awaited for me in the darkness.
Would it be a deadly fer de lanz?
Or an equally dangerous, demonic-looking, horror movie worthy eyelash viper? (seriously, Google “eyelash viper” to see what I mean)
1 year ago today Kelli and I were living deep in the remote jungles of Buena Vista, Costa Rica. Whenever I had to water the weeds or fertilize the soil anytime between 6:30 PM until 4 AM, I stepped out of the hut/home into pitch black darkness.
Sure we had a dinky little flashlight but before I could grab the light in my bed I had to reach out as an act of faith, praying that a bullet ant or scorpion wasn’t waiting for my tender fingers with gaping jaws or poised pincers and stingers, ready to punish the stunningly handsome (their words not mine) but equally foolish gringo.
Even when I used the flashlight during my “night time nature calls” sessions in the jungle, I had a roughly 3-5 foot radius of light around my really porta potty, aka, the circumference of dump-er-rence. Outside the light, pitch black, dead dark, Melisandre-worthy terrifying nothingness.
When I sat down with my friend Maxwell Ivey of TheBlindBlogger.Net I wondered how it would feel to ride a train from Houston, Texas to New York City without having the ability to see? What would it feel like? How would I handle the experience? How would I blog if I could not live through my visual senses? What would it feel to walk around NYC?
I soon learned that Maxwell is the blogging version of the Marvel Daredevil, an online – and offline – dynamo who has hyper tuned all other senses (including humor) to become the inspired, bold, bright light we know and love.
1: Expect Nothing
Max called 10 minutes before our meeting time.
His Uber driver did not know where the Time Warner Building was located. Nor Trump Hotel International. Nor the Southwest Corner of Central Park.
Both Max and I found it staggering how the driver kept repeating “58th and 9th” like the coordinates to some Twilight Zone, some Upside Down World, some Vale of Shadows, versus one of the most recognizable tourist spots on earth.
Forget expecting the unexpected. Expect nothing.
Expect nothing with your blog. Focus on enjoying the ride, blogging. Focus on the process of spreading love, not the pain and suffering of tying to outcomes.
The confused driver could have spoiled our day, if we allowed our expectations of him knowing NYC like the back of his hand to color our experience negatively, when he seemed to know NYC as well as the jungles of Buena Vista, Costa Rica.
We let go. Laughed it off after some consternation. Enjoyed the day.
Expect nothing with your blog. Be in the moment. See the awe and wonder of it all.
2: Stories Sell
Max can weave a Texas-sized tale that is, in fact, 100% true.
He and his dad were carny folks a while back. MI reeled me in with colorful, folksy, comedic experiences from his days on the road. From frustrating encounters with non-existent WiFi in remote Texas outposts to crazy tales of monstrously sized snakes and cute, fluffy bunnies (I will let you work it out to avoid a PETA shit storm), he has a way with words that arrests your attention.
Max sold me. On his blog. Brand. Everything.
This one goes beyond money, folks.
As a blogger, readers buy in to your blog. Or brand. Then, they may immediately buy your products or books or hire you for your services. Don’t matter though. If they buy in to your blog, they are *in*, lifelong, rabid blog and brand advocates.
Tell stories. Your stories. Any stories. Inspire folks to buy in.
3: Love Prospers
Max noted how the funds for his NYC trip came together a short time before the journey.
Those finances aligned beautifully based on a relationship his dad built through the carnival niche.
MI noted how his dad did the right thing, building a prospering business by listening to his moral compass. He did things from a place of love, not fear (even when fear-filled operators advised him to skim off the top because “everybody did it”).
The goodwill Max’s dad gained reflected back to his son in the form of love – disguised as money – when he connected with contacts who admired his father.
Build your blog from a space of love. Not fear. Build your blog from a space of generosity. Not greediness.
You will have, when you give. You will lack, when you fear and cower to that fear, doing things from a fear-filled space.
Build your blog from a place of love, fun and passion. Don’t skim off the top, energetically. Don’t cheat yourself. Or your readers.
4: Teamwork Makes the Dream Work
Mr. Ivey built a large, loyal network of friends who helped him make his trip to NYC come true and he’s met individuals in NYC who have eased his transition to city living.
From the kindly landlord who does his laundry, at his Brooklyn rental, to the lantern-jawed, jovial, fun-loving island hopper who lent Max a shoulder as we walked from Columbus Circle to the tea shop, we all come together to make all of our dreams come true.
Blogging-wise, me meeting this inspired dynamo live and in the flesh:
- strengthened our friendship
- produced a rocking blog post
- raised my vibe more towards love, and pulled me more and more away from fear
Max is helping me make my blogging dreams come true. I am helping Max make his dreams come true.
We are all helping each other make our blogging dreams come true…..when we make our lives about helping and service.
So….do you see how much you are serving YOURSELF when you:
- share other blogger’s posts?
- buy their products or services?
- comment on their blogs?
- feature other bloggers?
You literally help yourself by serving others from a loving, caring, detached place. Because we are all connected.
5: Don’t Mess with Texas
I had to add it. Max is from Houston.
6: Hang in the Right Spots
Max shared how his family had to move the carnival business from hot, humid, steamy Texas to more welcoming climes during the most brutal summer months, because most folks don’t wanna wait for a ride while standing in Dante’s Inferno.
On the flip side, the carnival business does not thrive in the Arctic North. Gotta find a comfortable, pleasant temperature in a somewhat populated region to make that carny scrilla.
Hang in the right spots to grow your blogging business, like:
- niche specific Facebook Groups
- niche specific Google Plus Communities
- niche specific, authority blog comment fields (and speak up!)
I don’t spend my day shooting the bullshit with animal husbandry bloggers (Look at the set of udders on that cow!). I connect with blogging tips bloggers. In blogging tips locales. Because I learn from these folks, help these folks and these folks tend to be a wee bit interested in what I have to offer at BFP.
7: Worry Repels, Patience Prospers
Max is a patient dude.
When you don’t primarily live through visual filters ya kinda gotta get past the idea of instant gratification.
Max called an Uber to pick him up outside the shop where we enjoyed tea and conversation. For most of us, when the car arrives, we see it and hop in within 3 to 7 seconds, depending on the strength/caffeine content in the tea.
The time between Max setting up the Uber ride and sitting down in the car would have appeared to be an Odyssey of Homer-esque proportions to the impatient. Thank the gods (ode to Greek mythology) I am a patient guy. As is Max.
After a volume of phone calls that would have made Gordon Gecko jealous and a trek through puddles (sorry Max, but God *did* technically make us water-proof) and over high curbs, my blogging buddy got his ride back to Brooklyn.
Being patient got him what he wanted. A ride home. Worrying, or getting frustrated, or feeling anxious about the ride would have repelled the Uber driver because life, like blogging, is an energy game.
Build your blog on a foundation of patience. The energy behind your actions means EVERYTHING. The actions themselves, independent of energy, mean NOTHING.
Patiently have fun blogging. Do things with love. Your intent will manifest, you will enjoy the ride and you will learn one of life’s secrets: patience.
8: Humor Wins
Between Max’s mild Texas drawl, imposing physical presence and genuine, natural humor he cuts a charming, fun-loving character that anybody would love.
Meaning, anybody with a pulse and open heart would be won over by the Big Guy in a split second.
In a worldly life of seriousness, tension and sober individuals, marching to a funeral dirge of despair, knowing that when their heart stops beating, it’s a mere formality, the humorous, funny people shine as brightly as the Freedom Tower I’m staring at as I write these words from Downtown Manhattan.
Look up. Look down. At this post. Do I have to explain why you should blog with humor? The world needs more laughter. And levity. And bloggers who give the world laughter and levity – independent of niche – live movie-worthy lives.
9: You Won’t Stand out in a Place Where People Have Seen it All (it Takes Authenticity, Not *More*)
A 6-7, 300 pound plus, blind man with a walking stick as big as an NFL down lineman grasping the shoulder of a much shorter, smaller guy grinning like the Cheshire Cat.
In most places on earth *outside* of New York City people would gawk and think: “What the fuck is going on here?”
In NYC, nobody batted an eyelash. Just like the scene in Ghostbusters, at Tavern on the Green – a few block’s North from where we enjoyed tea – when Rick Moranis is possessed by a demon gargoyle god, New Yorkers were not phased by me and my much larger shadow.
New Yorkers have seen it all.
Most blog readers have seen it all, too, so if you try – through desperation – the manipulation route, making things bigger and grander and more spectacular, most people will turn a blind eye. If you TRY TO MAKE THINGS BIGGER or ??????? or !!!!!!!! your way to readers or profits, nobody will notice, because fear repels.
Be authentic. Be genuine. Be honest. This Holy Trinity of trusting energies will grab attention spans like a fer de lanz in your pants.
10: Promote Less More Prayer
Max’s friend offered sage advice to him when he seemed to hit a block; promote less, pray more.
I can’t agree more. Because blogging is an energy game.
Don’t get caught up in working your ass off.
Do devote yourself fully to managing your energy. Have fun. Do things with love. Feel, then let go, the fears associated with worry, desperation, losing it all, greed and jealousy, because these are the exact energies which goad you to promote/work like crazy, and to barely if ever pray.
Spend significant time away from your laptop. Enjoy life away from your blog. Then, when you are blogging, enjoy your blogging day as much as you enjoy your offline day.
You are connected to everything through the Universe. Just let it in.
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